How to Become a Strong Person Inside?

　　Weak people are generally irritable like tigers and prone to rage. Strong people are usually calm as water and relatively peaceful. A person who is not strong inside naturally does not have enough inner peace. People who are not calm inside, everywhere is a storm. Even the smallest things will be infinitely magnified. A person who is not strong inside will always lack security in his heart.

Not being strong enough means that it is easy to be influenced by the outside world, which usually manifests itself as either caring, especially about the opinions of others, or living in the eyes and mouths of others. As a result, you lose your independent judgment and become wavering and fidgety.

　　To become a strong person inside, one needs to have at least the following six quality traits: 1) high self-discipline and self-hacking; 2) must experience despair; 3) develop the ability to be alone; 4) think without limits; 5) need a faith; 6) BE YOURSELF.

　　1. High self-discipline and self-hacking

　　Why not talk about self-confidence? People who are not confident are generally more vulnerable inside. Confident people, full of confidence in themselves, often does things with a positive force and are always full of passion. All blind self-confidence, and empty-bellied self-confidence, are self-righteous. The heart should have real talent, even in the constant trial and error, but eventually can reach the day of climbing the peak.

　　Where does a person's self-confidence come from? And how to develop one's self-confidence? A high degree of self-confidence comes from a high degree of self-discipline. What is self-discipline? Self-discipline is the ability to manage oneself and discipline oneself. This is a very important ability. Learn to restrain yourself first and control your life with a strict schedule to keep honing your self-confidence in this self-discipline. Self-confidence also represents the ability to control things. If you can't even control the most basic time, how can you talk about confidence?

　　In addition to self-discipline, the ability to self-hack is also quite important. The world is big, there are all kinds of birds. When you make a little achievement one day, many people you know or do not know will be behind the scenes, chattering about right and wrong. From the very beginning of the trolling to out-of-context assertions and even uninteresting black you.

　　Self-black is to laugh at yourself, your black humor itself. Self-hatred is a way of communication, but also a realm, but also alternative cultivation. Self-hacking is not something you wait until someone says you, but it is an ability that you need to have from beginning to end. You must see through those boring and vicious people, to be better than they will be good at black themselves, after they know they are not interesting, they will be ashamed to exit the field and go.

　　2. must experience despair

　　Experience despair means that has gone through this period of years. Maybe you have not been desperate, does not mean that you are not strong, but must not be as strong as those who have experienced desperation. A life without despair is an imperfect life. Despair can be emotional, career, or loneliness that cannot be faced, etc.

　　"Must" is a prefix, an important state. "Must" is not an active choice, but mental preparation. When despair comes, accept it without fear, even if the moment is extremely painful, even if you have lost yourself. Finding hope in despair is the kind of life worth experiencing.

　　A strong man is not what he conquers, but what he can bear. There are things that only after experiencing can you understand the truth of them and the true meaning of life. Despair is not terrible, what is terrible is losing courage and passion. Experience despair, but do not be consumed by it. Instead, you have to overcome it, just as you overcome the darkness and welcome the light.

3. Develop the ability to be alone

　　Solitude and solitude are not the same things, they are two different things, and they are often confused. People often see interaction as an ability, but overlook that solitude is also an ability, and in some sense a more important one than interaction. If being unsociable is a weakness of character, then being intolerant of solitude is simply a defect of the soul.

　　To tolerate loneliness and not to go with the flow. Loneliness is a person's carnival, carnival is a group of people's loneliness. The so-called maturity is that the more you grow up, the more you can learn to adapt to everything alone. In a time of solitude, find what you love and develop your independent judgment.

　　People are only capable of loving others if they first learn to love themselves. If you don't learn to talk to yourself, it will be more difficult to communicate with others. The more you can be alone, the better you can face and understand difficult situations, and the better you can get along with others. Because they can instantly think differently, they are better able to put themselves in the other person's shoes.

　　4. Think without limits

　　Your vision should be farther than others, and your mind should be broader than others. The day-to-day calculation of life, sooner or later in the future will also be calculated by life. In addition to this, but also live in a variety of careful eyes and small patterns.

　　Life is like driving a car, when you are 30 yards faster than others, you experience feelings that others can not perceive. Life is also like driving a plane, when you are 30,000 feet higher than others, you see the vision naturally different from others. It means that when you are in pursuit of higher and more distant beauty, you do not have to care about the short-sighted eyes of others. Everything is naturally cloudy and no longer affected.

　　When you are broad, you will not be bound by narrow-mindedness. After freedom, you will not be restricted by formalism.

5. Need a faith

　　People are really too limited, no matter what you believe in, you always need to have faith, otherwise, there is no difference with animals.

　　In this day and age, almost everyone has faith, but their faith is different. Some belief in power, some believe in money, some belief in self, some belief in love, some belief in happiness, some belief in food, some believe in parties, some belief in institutions, some believe in no god, some believe in a god, some belief in multiple gods, some believe in Christ ......

　　No matter what kind of faith, it is worthy of respect, and any faith needs to be deeply understood and believed to be called faith. Any kind of faith, if it is a thinly veiled belief, is not called faith and belongs to superstition, including all religious beliefs, including Christianity.

　　There is a distance between heaven and earth between wisdom and truth. Learning to thirst for truth is better than pursuing wisdom. Truth can make people wiser to see all things in the world, tolerant attitude to face the intricacies of human relationships, incomparable faith to run the road of life, and calm and calm to face the darkness of human nature and the tragedies of the world.

6. BE YOURSELF

　　JUST BE YOURSELF. Don't try to please everyone, you can't do it now and you can't do it in the future.

　　People can't be all things to all people. Everyone should have people they care about most, and they are the most valuable asset in your life. If they misunderstand or question what you are doing, it is worth your time to respond and explain.

　　Here are the three groups of people I care about most, for reference only: 1) family members (relatives don't count, they only see you once a year and don't know where you stand in life); 2) life confidants (the few true friends who know everything); 3) pastors or mentors (spiritual mentors, and former leaders in the workplace).

　　Their comments/opinions/advice will be listened to carefully. If there is a lack of understanding, they will certainly explain and respond fully. Only the people who care about you relatively comprehensive understanding, most of the others are one-sided perceptions. There are no special encounters in life, some are just hearsay or just a few acquaintances.

　　Do not have to respond to those familiar strangers, they do not necessarily really care about you, more just a curious baby. Time is so precious that there is no time for this and it is not in the obligation to explain. Your life does not need to live in the words of others, there are many more important things waiting to be done.

　　People who are strong on the inside rarely care about what others think, including familiar strangers. Just like positive people rarely pay attention to negative messages, even if they see them, they are automatically blocked or digested instantly. They are very clear about their positioning and pursuit.

　　When they encounter obstacles, they will try to eradicate them by all means. When they encounter setbacks, they do not easily give up and fall. Overcome the difficulties, they have the strength. When you solve a problem, you have wisdom. Out of the darkness, they have hope. For them, these are only the necessary path in life.

　　People who are strong inside must have calm hearts, a gentle heart, andheartsse miming they must have experienced storms, high mountains, and low valleys, and have seen all kinds of life. I wish that we can be full of wisdom and strong courage on the road of life, no matter what kind of situation we are in, and become strong people inside.