Mental Mess

Everyday as humans we struggle to survive. Soon as we arrive in this so-called "life" our fight begins. For some right out the gate, born to illness, sickness, or don't even get a chance to begin. Sadly, we begin to learn how to survive, little by little, hoping we are well equipped by the age of 18. From grade school up until graduation children learn from peers and environments. The world has become so "lawsuit friendly" there is no discipline to correct bullying, poor behavior, or correct childhood development. A world of mental mess has already begun. Children are left unattended while both parents work or, for whatever reason, at young ages.

Yes, it is parenting skills that teach our children its okay to stay by yourself with little brother till mom gets home. Hell no, it's not okay. Or not in my day as a child, mom was home and got us off the bus.. Without a doubt I am well aware it takes both parents and some to support a household. Folks, this is why world problems have gone left and detoured. Instead of finding a fix for the problem – we approve, sign off on, an accept the new way of behavior to living life. 

Wrong once again, common sense: we are setting up our future generation to accept poor behavior and make up new rules as we go..  As time goes on, our system has failed.  No one seems to give a damn, what so ever. One day at a time, does not exist..

Truth is, everything has "Right Now" attached to it.

 Sad cry to future generations, if the world survives that long. 

Just simply take a look around you, some are good at masking situations. Everyone is struggling, a mental mess. Divorce rates up, "inflation"- is now most commonly used word, gas prices, grocery shortage, housing market, automobile industry, electricity, water/ sanitation, clothing, poverty, sickness, job loss, etc.,. Sorry, you get it; I know. The fight for survival has just got better. Tail end of the lingering covid-19 pandemic/ shutdown. No one's pumped to fight anymore.. We are tired, exhausted from fighting..  Relationships fail daily, instead of helping each other up, there's the push down. Its literally a push down and three kicks to the face. 

Mental mess is a crisis; for years, we are told "your fine" or "your crazy", right? So we face a breaking point.

If you are a middle-aged individual, just like myself.. Life has beaten, crumbled, rolled, battered, chewed me up many times, crushed and shattered my whole being over and over. The best part – then I am suppose to function. I loved it. – Function? At the time, my mind was blank, my body numb, mobility didn't seem possible, work, complete task.. Not happening.. Trial and error – medication didn't work for me.. If I am to function yet, I'm sleeping 22 hours out of the day. This was my reality to depression, anxiety, panic attacks, and loss of 2 loved ones seven weeks apart on medication.

Sounds, like I have all the motivation in the world to be productive and function. Not in this lifetime, had I ever felt so non-existent then be told to function. Its real, and we only have one choice do what works best for you. You matter, your mind matters, because it's okay to feel not okay..

Now we all are crazy and standing at our front door looking into the world.. What's next? When are you not feeling okay?

What's next? You have to learn to take care of yourself.. Your mental health is what's next. How did you get past that phase of What's Next? Awareness, acceptance, and commitment. (AAC) 

Awareness to acknowledge your behavior and challenges.  Understanding when something doesn't feel good or right anymore or any longer. Recognizing changes in actions or mood. Loss of motivation, fatigue is daily to weeks at a time.

Acceptance is knowing it's okay to not feel or be okay. You accept your mental challenges have surfaced and finding a solution is next. Reaching out to friends, family, resources,  professional support, etc.,. Accepting that mental health challenges need attention: which takes us to the next step.

Commitment to yourself to follow through with a plan to improve mental health conditions. A recovery program, treatment plan, professional help, diagnosis, and follow through to improve mental health habits. Healthy mental health is crucial to one's well-being. If one suffers mental challenges, others can be affected, as well. Its important to reach out to available resources when your feeling,  not so okay!

We have been told to function to go on about our day. We were fine with what they said. We were not okay. The stress and life issues we hold onto just to get through this mental mess is not easy. Everyone is tired, we are drained from trying to survive. And the world is questioning all the gun violence. The struggles are real and the challenges become obstacles.. Something has to give..

Until our minds meet again, be safe out there. Much love and blessings. Remember Everyday Minds Matter.