Write Your Own Love Letter in 6 Easy Steps

You want to express your feelings for your lover, but after gazing at a blank screen for too long, you give up. Or you attempt a few lines before deleting everything and starting afresh. Again. Why is it so difficult to express our feelings for someone we care about? Do you have trouble putting into words how you're feeling? Or is it simply that you can't describe it? Allowing words to come in the way of telling someone how much they mean to you is a mistake.

Everybody want to be adored. When you're busy living your life, it's easy to forget to take time to appreciate the primary relationship that makes it all worthwhile. We often believe that individuals closest to us understand exactly how we feel about them and how significant they are to us. But, unfortunately, this is not always the case.

So, how can you create a love letter that you'll be glad to deliver and that your loved one will treasure for the rest of their lives? So, where do you begin? Following these simple guidelines will have you on your way in no time.

1. First write down 5 things that you love about your partner and be as specific as possible. Rather than writing that they are kind, instead be detailed about how they are kind. Perhaps they always smile at waiters in restaurants or they are great at making people feel included, especially at parties.

2. Write down 5 things that they have done that confirms how much you love them and again, give examples. Perhaps they enveloped you in a hug last night when you were feeling frustrated about your family. Or maybe they knew how disappointed you were when you missed out on that promotion and they cooked a special meal to cheer you up.

3. Pick the best three examples from each of the above categories and weave them into your letter. You could start by saying I love how you and then include the three examples from the first point. Then you could say something like I loved the way you and then mention the other examples. Make sure you emphasise how their actions made you feel, how loved you felt and how grateful you are to have them in your life.

4. It is best to write up a draft first and then go over it to see if you can improve it. Sometimes it helps to write up what you want to say, edit it until it flows well and then leave it for a day or two before going back for a final edit and polish.

5. Buy some special paper and write out your letter. Dont worry if your handwriting isnt perfect its distinctly yours and your loved one will appreciate the time and effort you put into the letter. If you feel your writing is so bad it will be difficult to read or if your illegible handwriting is something youve argued about before then pay to get it hand written by a professional. At a stretch you could use a more romantic font on your computer, say Garamond in italic, but you should really only do that as a last resort. The more personal you can make your letter the more your loved one will treasure it.

6. Think about how you plan on delivering this letter to them. Will you slip it in their briefcase? Mail it? Leave it under the pillow? Do you want to be there when they open it? If you want to see their reaction, then it is best to hand it to them. You could team the letter up with a small gift like flowers or chocolate but make sure the gift doesnt diminish the letter as you want that to be the main focus.

If a birthday or anniversary or other special occasion is involved youll want to include mention of that too.