Wishing Your Ex Was Still in Your Life? Here's How to Stop

Do you know what's frustrating? When you're still wishing your ex was in your life. You know that it's a bad idea, but you can't help yourself. It's like a slippery slope—you're not sure how to make the whole thing stop.

I've got good news: it's not as hard as you think!

If you want to get past your break up and start living the life you deserve, try these tips:

Tip 1. Don't contact your ex

This is the most essential thing, so it's at the top of our list. Don't text or call your ex. Don't stalk them on social media or anywhere else in real life—don't do it! Please don't look desperate or needy.

It's tempting to try to smooth things over or even make amends with them after a breakup, but this will only prolong your recovery time and make it harder to move on in the long run.

Your best bet is just not contacting them until YOU are ready for a fresh start with someone new!

Tip 2. Find a new hobby

When we're not feeling good about ourselves, it's easy to sit around and do nothing all day long because we don't want to deal with feeling worse than we already do!

Rather than staying home all day long (which won't help anything), try going out somewhere new—it could be anything from an art museum or concert venue.

Maybe try something new like learning how to play an instrument or taking up a sport like tennis? There are endless possibilities, but whatever it is, make sure it's something that makes you feel good about yourself!

Tip 3. Take care of yourself physically and mentally

The first step is to take care of yourself physically and mentally. Start by eating a healthy diet, including veggies and fruits, and drinking lots of water. Take time to relax, whether with a bath or a walk through the park.

Ensure you're getting enough exercise—not just because it's good for your body and mind, but also because it will help clear your head and focus on your life.

Tip 4. Stop thinking about them all the time

It's okay if you think about them once in a while—it's natural for us humans to miss people we care about when they're gone from our lives—but if every waking moment is filled with thoughts of what could have been with this person or what might happen next time.

Don't let yourself wonder what they're doing or who they're with right now—it'll only make you miserable!

Tip 5. Get rid of their stuff

This one can be tough—but if pictures or other mementos are lying around that make you feel sad every time you see them, it's time for an intervention!

Throw out anything that reminds you of them. Please get rid of any reminders of them (their clothing or old gifts) because seeing these things around may upset you again and bring back memories of happier times together.

Tip 6. Don't look at their social media accounts

If they're posting pictures of themselves with their new partner or making comments about how happy they are now that they're with someone else, it will hurt.

It's probably not healthy for you to be looking at these things anyway. Delete their profiles from your phone and computer so that you don't accidentally see an old post or picture pop up again!

Tip 7. Don't listen to sad love songs

Music can be a big trigger for emotions like sadness, so try listening to uplifting songs instead (like ones by Ed Sheeran or Drake).

If you think about listening to a sad song, put on some upbeat music instead. You don't want to be depressed all the time, so pick a song that makes you feel happy and energized.

If you're feeling down and sad, listening to upbeat tunes will help get your mind off of things and keep it on a positive note.

Tip 8. Focus on yourself

When someone leaves us, it can feel like we've lost everything, but we still have ourselves in reality!

Ensure you're taking good care of yourself both mentally and physically during this difficult time. Don't forget that you have to take care of yourself to heal after heartbreak.

Take time for yourself, go out with friends, take up a new hobby, whatever makes you happy!

Tip 9. Don't rush into another relationship

We know how hard it is not to rush into another relationship after a breakup, but trust me: you need to take at least six months and be by yourself.

This way, you can get to know yourself better and find out what you want out of life without focusing on someone else's needs.

Once you have learned what makes YOU happy, it's time to start dating again! Take your time and pick someone who has similar values as you. Don't rush into anything because that could lead to disaster!

Tip 10. Remember that time heals all wounds

It may feel like it won't ever happen, but eventually, time will heal your pain and let you move on.

When you let go of dwelling on what could have been with your ex, you'll find that days go by quickly until you're ready to smile again.

Your heart will eventually mend after this breakup, so don't worry about getting over them right away—that will happen naturally as time passes.

The bottom line

Now you have a few great tips for getting over your ex. Don't worry. The more you try these out, the sooner you'll be back to your happy and healthy self!