When people reach a certain age, these "acquaintances" should be away as soon as possible, they will only keep consuming you

Sociologists believe that human beings are herd animals. No matter living or working, you cannot live without dealing with people. More importantly, it is a blessing to spend our life with our relatives, relatives, and friends, and it is a blessing to have family and friends.

But as we grow older, we will have a different view of the people and things around us, because the deepening of experience and accumulation makes our vision more rational.

As high once said, his friends on WeChat are fewer and less deleted. Not that he does not speak of friendship, but people to a certain age, really feel that there are not so many people around worth staying with. Instead, they will bring themselves unnecessary trouble and waste precious time and energy.

For example, in middle age, we should stay away from these so-called "acquaintances" as soon as possible, especially the last acquaintances, because that is the real responsibility for themselves.

1. like to talk about others behind their backs "acquaintances".

With the post-90s and post-90s ideas flooding society, many of the older generation may find it difficult to understand. The younger generation is more concerned about their privacy and freedom and does not like to be talked about and disturbed by others, even if they are related to themselves.

In the eyes of the elderly, it's all about family, especially relatives. They shouldn't care too much about each other. They don't show any difference when they get along, especially when someone is in trouble, and it makes sense for them as relatives to step in to help.

However, only after 60 years old, we can realize that after living most of our lives, we can only rely on ourselves and it is enough to do well.

On the contrary, those acquaintances who like to talk about others behind their backs can't help but spread negative energy and even distort the facts.

Such people often do not see others living a good life, who get married, who have a new car, who have a couple of quarrels. These small things that are commonplace in life, once the mouth becomes tasteless, can always say the "secret" that people can not imagine.

As such people get along for a long time, your three views will inevitably be negatively affected, and your vision and pattern will become increasingly narrow.

If you want to know just know, others have nothing to do with you. No matter how you talk about them, you can't help others. Instead, you will put yourself in an awkward situation.

So, what we have to do in the face of other people's affairs is to respect objective facts. When others need our help, we try our best to help them. This is the greatest kindness to others.

2. Dishonest "acquaintances"

Franklin said: If you fail, you can get back up immediately; if you break your promise, you may never get it back.

Credit is really important to a person. No matter what field you are in, no matter what kind of people you are dealing with, being a trustworthy person is always the bottom line of life.

Sometimes we meet people who are happy to ask for help in the name of "acquaintances" and are ungrateful to others. They may even borrow money and not return it, regardless of whether their credit is negative because, in the eyes of such people, they only see their interests.

Some honest people do not dare to refuse such acquaintances. They always feel familiar with each other and can't bear to refuse their help. However, they do not know that it is such a soft heart that makes these people more and more aggressive.

Untrustworthy people don't care about their pride, even if they feel the discontent of others, they don't care that much. In their hearts, the most important thing is to get the results they want, the rest do not need to pay attention.

So, if you have such "acquaintances" around, it is best to leave as soon as possible, because in "The Farmer and the Snake" no one wants to be a farmer. They give goodwill for nothing but are not cherished and understood.

3. The boundaries of the opposite sex friends

Life has friends, especially friends of the opposite sex, is a blessing, so there is a "confidant", "blue confidant" and other words.

I believe that many people have feelings, some words, some troubles. We can't tell our relatives and friends who have a good relationships. On the contrary, we can talk with some friends of the opposite sex uninhibitedly to ease our depression.

But, as the saying goes, is there pure friendship between people of the opposite sex? Everyone has different opinions and conclusions.

When you get older, you will understand in your heart that some once close friends of the opposite sex have crossed the line. The line is not clear and has even hurt your loved one.

Love is unique and no one wants to accept it. The ambiguity of a relationship between lovers that exceeds even their friends of the opposite sex makes them uneasy.

Such friends of the opposite sex will undoubtedly affect the relationship between the couple and even lead to the breakdown of the marriage. When the result is really in front of us, it is too late to regret it.

Real friends of the opposite sex will maintain their sense of boundaries because they know that once they cross the line, they will not only show concern but also bring trouble and annoyance to others.

So, once you find that a friend of the opposite sex has crossed the line, it means that this friend is an unprincipled person. We need to keep our distance from such people and not hurt our significant other because of a person who is not worth hurting.

We walk in this world and experience the confusion and exhaustion of youth and middle age. These are the stages we must go through in our lives. It is because of these predictions that our minds become clearer and more perspicacious as we move into old age.

The older you get, the more you cherish the people around you, because they are the "lovers" that have been tested by life. As the saying goes, if there is a lover in your heart, there is a wayfarer in the world. Some too many people can come into our hearts.

Once you meet someone who treats you sincerely, whether it is a relative or a friend, you should treat them with your heart and cherish the destiny of this life.

As the saying goes, you can't harm people and you can't prevent them. We need to have a good attitude towards others, but also to remain vigilant, do not let others affect our lives.

The popular "breakup" also applies to the handling of interpersonal relationships. In the face of those who do not deserve our deep friendship, we should do is to keep a distance, so that we can make our lives happier.