To parents: You only have one chance to be with your child

A popular joke says, "If you compare a child to the Longevity Monk, then your mother is the Monkey King and your father is Piggyback." The mother is doing all the hard work, while the father usually only cares about eating, drinking, and having fun. There is almost no difference between him and him.

This statement is only half right. In the Buddhist scripture learning team, Sun Wukong is indeed a hardworking person, but he is not omnipotent. Porky Pig is lazy, greedy, and lustful, but without him, the whole Journey to the West story would be a lot less fun.

Many mothers resent the fact that their dads can't help with the kids, but it's actually because they're too much of a perfectionist. These mothers comparing themselves to the Monkey King is not exaggerated at all, because they have to do things, I'm afraid that the Monkey King to protect the Tang Monk is much harder.

After all, protecting the Tang monk is the only task of the Monkey King. Moreover, he does what he can do, and if he can not do it, he will promptly ask for help. Piggyback can use the place, even if he can do better, but also to use.

In contrast, many mothers have to balance their careers and children. Even full-time moms, while taking care of their children, often have to take care of other family members meals and living. Even so, these moms always feel they can do better, hoping they can earn a lot of money, maintain their beauty and spend more time with their children as many celebrity moms do.

The book points out that seemingly perfect celebrity moms, like all ordinary moms, have to choose between their careers and their children in real life. If you want to make a lot of money, you have to sacrifice a lot of time with your kids. If you want to spend more time with your children, you have to give up some opportunities at work.

Even the famous "hot mom" S, although it seems that career and family are right, also often because of the recording program can not always be with the children, and feel sorry for this.

Full-time mothers should realize that they are not all-purpose nannies. Bringing up a child is a particularly energy-consuming task. To be a wholehearted mother, you should allow yourself to spend less time on other things.

Children can't leave their mothers, but other family members can take care of them. Fathers may not be as meticulous as mothers in doing household chores, but why force them to work meticulously as long as they can keep the basics in order?

Although we often say that being a mother is righteous, it does not mean that we become indestructible. We seek perfection to run our lives better, but a truly perfect life is when we accept the reality of our irreparable flaws, yet still enjoy every moment with passion and hope with our children and families.

People who strive for perfection often blow the whistle on what others do because they are so demanding of themselves. Like the book says, many mothers take good care of their children, but still feel that they are not perfect and do not like the way dads behave when taking care of their children.

However, the author believes that although dads are not as good as moms in taking care of their children in terms of eating, drinking, and sleeping, the way they accompany their children brings them more happiness and growth. This is because moms are always more focused on meeting the various needs of their children, while dads can be like real playmates, fully engaged in various games with their children.

In some ways, dads are really like pigs. Without the mother's care, the house is often a mess that can be turned out of sight. It's all hands and feet with the kids, always more and more help. Sometimes, mothers are so tired that they are only full of fairy dust, but they have to persist. Many dads are oblivious to the fact that they still eat and sleep well.

However, it's not entirely the father's fault. There is not a father who would not like to do something for his children. It's just that if we make them do things they are not good at and always pick on them for not doing them well enough, it can make them feel like it's better to do nothing if they are doing it wrong so as not to add to the confusion for moms.

There are many things that dads can do in the process of raising children. In addition to being able to play with the children, they can also help moms share some of the things that men are better at, such as running errands and moving things. Some of the things they are not so good at but will do, such as cooking, cleaning, cleaning the house, etc.., moms may want to lower their demands and let dads do it.

Every father is different and can do different things for his children. But what matters is that moms let them take on the responsibility of their fathers to raise their children and be as involved as possible in their children's development. Because, for children, both parents are indispensable; for both parents, spouses and children are equally important.

As the saying goes, "No gold is perfect, no one is perfect." This truth is understood by everyone, most people will admit their shortcomings, and accept the shortcomings of others. However, it is strange that many adults, especially parents, always have to behave seamlessly and always be right in front of their children. One of the most common practices is to never argue in front of your children.

The author questions this practice in her book. She feels that everyone has emotions and that emotions need to be expressed appropriately. Couples who have conflicts with each other and put up with them for the sake of their children will hurt them: on the one hand, the bad emotions that cannot be vented will be more or less transferred to the children; on the other hand, the children will not be able to properly understand and deal with conflicts between people.

The author believes that it is normal for couples to have conflicts and quarrels are a way of communication, so there is no need to deliberately avoid children. But no matter what the quarrel is about, parents should make sure that they will not involve their children, will not use physical or verbal violence, and can explain the situation to their children in time so that the children know that the quarrel is solved and will not affect the integrity of the family.

Our children don't live in a vacuum, and they won't be perfect on their own. When they step out of their parents' sanctuary and into the wider world, they will meet all kinds of people and conflict is inevitable. If they don't even know that their parents will fight, the much more serious conflicts out there will cast a bigger psychological shadow on them.

Parents always want to give their children the best and want to cut off all the bad things for them. But we also have a responsibility to help our children realize that everyone has imperfections. More importantly, we must let our children know that even though imperfect, everyone still deserves love and happiness.

Both mom and dad have flaws and make mistakes, but still love each other very much. Parents get angry when their children do something wrong, but their love and concern do not diminish. To recognize and accept imperfect parents, children will also understand that a mutually tolerant and caring family is an integral part of each other's lives and the most fundamental source of happiness.