Marriage Between Older Men And Younger Women

The case of Johnny Depp and Amber Heard seems to have become world news and it is very difficult not to follow the case of have some sort of opinion or boss towards one of the two or even some sort of opinion relating to both. I did try not to pay much attention to the case yet each and every time I happen to read the news or open YouTube this case is commented on and video clippings of the court case are shown to the world.

Most of the commentaries and discussions are actually in support of Johnny Depp currently and most people are of the opinion that Amber Heard has fabricated the story and as such has become very unpopular. While I am not going to give my opinion on who should win the case and who might be right or wrong I wanted to point out some things from the case that we can actually learn and benefit from.

The first is that although Amber Heard may well have fabricated and defamed her husband I can somehow see that there are ways to try and understand her and why this has been happening. Can one person ever be entirely innocent and another entirely guilty, or do two people have a role to play in a problem? I wanted to point out here that Amber mentions that when she began to know Johnny Depp she was only in her early twenties, around the age of twenty three. At the same time Johnny Depp was perhaps more than twenty years older and was married with children. He already had a successful career and followers and was established in his life, Amber was just beginning in acting. So it came to my mind that was it really right of Johnny to marry this young girl and leave his family and children to begin a life with someone who was not actually his equal?

There are many marriages that break up because a man has found “a younger woman,” when he himself it at a more advanced age. Girls accept for various reasons, such as wanting status of being associated with a successful and famous man or having a good lifestyle and becoming rich. There may be some marriages built on love. However, can a man who is a lot older than his wife be a good husband to her? Is it right for a married man to leave his marriage, hurt his wife and children to marry a younger woman? From watching some of commentaries and the courtroom dramas it does seem that Amber may have felt disadvantaged in such a marriage. It seems that she was jealous of his previous wife and children and his other relationships. At the same time Johnny’s family would not accept her and disliked her as she was seen as the one who broke up the family. She also knew of his previous relationships. At the same time he was far more successful than her.

In reality, if I were in such a marriage I would not be happy and would feel jealous of such things. A husband with another family is also not able to give his wife his full attention all the time. Amber does seem like someone who wants attention, and is looking for sympathy. So is she playing victim to get attention and try to get fans and support? Amber has been described as like a child, or immature. It may be that she was looking for a father figure and wanted attention and a close relationship. Unfortunately, although they may have had similarities in interests and were both actors but they were at different points in their lives and probably have very different needs.

I think that men should not be encouraged to break up their families to marry younger women, and also men who are older should also consider if they are able to be a suitable husband for a younger woman. If he has a family and children how will this affect her and can he give her his full attention and care? Will she be feeling left out or jealous in some way? So perhaps some marriages may work at times but in general people who are at different stages in life might not be suitable life partners even if they do love each other. When two people are not equal there may be problems between them.

Therefore, I am not justifying what Amber may have done to Johnny and her behaviour towards him but I wanted to point out this perspective on some reasoning behind the problems in a broader sense and especially since this is an issue that is reoccurring in many societies.