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How To Win Your Ex Girlfriend Back

How to increase your chances of getting your ex back!

By RelationshipsPublished 3 years ago 4 min read
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You've probably had an eventful sexual past that's been packed with a lot of learning opportunities. If this is the case, your lover may have difficulty dealing with it. However, this is something that he must come to terms with.

Don't let anyone else bring your history up before them or use it as a point of contention against you. If something happened a long time ago (or only a few months ago), leave it in the past and move on.

He must accept you for who you are if he has decided to be with you. If he has chosen to be with you, he must accept you for who you are. And this is quite significant. Of course, this does not imply that he has to approve of your sexual history, but it does imply that he cannot hold it against you. It's utterly unfair for him to express an interest in dating you and then begin to obsess over little things from your background.

If he keeps bringing up your history, tell him upfront that if he wants to date you, he'll have to accept you for who you are and everything you've done in the past.

Make him aware that he has two options:

a) You and your partner decide to separate.

b) You and your partner remain together...but he is not allowed to bring up your sexual history again. Not even when you and your partner are arguing.

Learn from your mistakes and move onThe few seconds of pleasure that can be derived from sex, and hooking up can have a long-lasting impact on your reputation and sense of self-importance. Choosing to modify your "free-loving" behaviors is the correct thing to do, and that is what matters the most in the long run.

Alternatively, if you've only had a couple of hookups and your partner is making a big deal about it, you might want to rethink whether you need to be dating someone who is that religiously zealous in their beliefs.

Come on; you can't be serious. You're capable of doing better than that. Try to avoid using pick-up lines like the ones listed above while creating your dating profile. It has come across my desk that people are creating dating profiles with these kinds of subject lines. More romantic language than the one in the previous sentence is required. The subject line above is a little too direct. You'll have to dial it back a notch or two.

When it comes to creating your dating profile, here are some pointers to keep in mind:

  • Do not include any negative statements in your profile. This is a major turn-off for me. In a dating profile, ridiculous sentences such as "You don't need to have car keys to drive me insane." or "I may not look like much, but I am drinking milk." or "If you want me, come and get me." don't work.
  • You must be upbeat and optimistic on your profile to make a positive first and lasting impression on others. Avoid coming across as a jerk in your communication. Use of the phrases mentioned above will give the impression that you are a jerk.
  • Increase the level of curiosity in your public profile. "Have you ever gone to Fogo De Chao? " for example, would be a great subject line." This is a result of curiosity. You want that man or woman to continue reading by clicking on the link.
  • What is Fogo De Chao, and why would a dater be interested in learning about it? (In my opinion, this is a fantastic Brazilian steakhouse.) You can continue from there and include more. Here's another example. "Have you ever been to Utopia?" I inquire. Let us feel our two minds as if they were single."
  • In your profile, people are interested in hearing a brief tale about you. Give someone a small taste of who you are by introducing them to yourself. "I am a firefighter, and I am also working on pursuing my goal to create a sports bar while still working as a firefighter."
  • Daters are interested in learning more about who you are and what you do. It should be given to them. This will communicate to a potential dater that you are on a journey and that you have objectives.
  • Always be honest in your dating profile and use authentic images of yourself to attract other people. If you've lost weight, or even if you've gained some, make sure you have a current photo that shows how you look today.
  • Never introduce yourself as Wayne. Do not use your real name while submitting your application. Create a screen name that sticks out and reveals a little bit about your character. It should be unique. Remember to uppercase each letter in your screen name and never put digits behind your name. Examples include: "IAmForReal," "GorgeousBrownEyes," and "IAmForReal." You get the picture.
  • People prefer to be in the company of winners. Bring out the self-assurance that you have. Take the high road. If you are self-assured and comfortable with your skin, you should have no difficulties in this situation.
  • Make sure you include in your profile what you have to give and the type of person you are seeking in a partner. These suggestions should assist you in receiving a large number of responses to your dating profile.
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