How To Stop Negative People From Controlling Your Life

You're a go-getter.

You're an entrepreneur and you have just told your friends, family. colleagues what you plan on achieving with your life.

The internal fire of motivation sparkes up inside of you as you think more and more about what you are going to do with your new business.

But then you hear the negatives, as people look at you questionably.

Are you sure you want to do that? What happens if you fail? Why would you quit this job, you have a nice life, why try and ruin that?

All of a sudden your worst fears are realised. The fire inside of your soul begins to diminish. Suddenly your head is full of doubt, and your brain is second-guessing the decision.

Now the choice becomes real, as you think about handing your notice in. Your family offers their misguided opinions, saying the same. Is it worth the risk? What if you fail? What do you know about business? Why can't you just be happy with what you have got? Wait for a sign from above.

Now suddenly your soul is empty. Your spirit has become broken, and you stay in your job, with your benefits, dreaming of a different universe. One where you hav=d become successful. One where you were the richest person on the planet.

What has happened here is the story many people face.

It is the story of fear and not protecting your motivation.

But what about your friends and family? They were only trying to protect you right? They only had your best interests at heart right?

Well not right. Not right at all. Their worries came from fear.

They were not thinking of what is best for you, they were only focused on themselves. There are three types of people who fear described by *Brendon Burchard

They are:

The Worriers

The Weaklings

The Wickered

The Worriers:

The Worriers, these are not intentionally unkind, this is the category for family members, who say be careful. However, these are the most dangerous to our motivation and fears.

As this comes from a place of love, we respect the worriers and their opinions, and this saps our energy and motivation far more than any other group.

But, just because we love and respect this group does not mean we have to listen to this group. They have a right to an opinion in our life, but that does not make the opinion fact. It is difficult to say no to this group because of their love for you, but you have to understand, they have never acted on their own dreams because they are incapable of getting rid of the fear in their lives.

This does not then have to affect you and how you see yourself, and your life.

The Weaklings:

This particular group takes a lot of personal power to control. This is the group that says take it easy, you already have enough.

They go through their day-to-day playing golf and video games. They never achieve any sort of greatness. They are the first at the pub and the last to leave. They are your friends who roll their eyes when they hear your ambitions.

They are a powerful group you have to anticipate.

The issue with this group for you is that your drive and passion make them feel inferior. They are worried that your achievements will diminish their own mindset. Why would I want more than what I have now? I do not need to put any more effort into growing.

They run worried about you and so they have to halt your progress for the sake of their mindset.

Once again this group is not unkind. But instead, lack any ambition for life.

This is the group that will smile at your face but whisper behind your back. They look on cheering for you, while at the same time complaining about you to others. This is all they have.

This is the only way they can feel unchallenged. To these people, we say move out of our way.

The Wicked:

This is the small but evil group, the ones who have power and decide to oppress. The ones who seek no liberty only power. The ones who will paint you out to be bad for your motivation, for your drive.

They see a fire burning bright inside of you and do everything to put you down. They write bad reviews of you. They talk about how delusional you are. They spread vile and bitterness into the weak-minded that you are wrong.

They are the Big Brother in the story **1984. They only care about power. They will bend the weak-minded. They are the Stalin's, Hitlers, Gadaffi's in life. Your spark enrages them out of fear and small-mindedness.

The more you grow, the more wicked will come out around you.

To conquer this you must continue down your path, no matter what obstacles they throw in your way. Your burning light, your motivation, your control of fear will set the path. Be yourself, be ready, and move forward when this group tries to stop you.

Conclusion:

There are many obstacles on the path to success, I know because like every successful person I have been through some of this already and I am prepared for what is still to come.

When those who let fear enslave them try to pull you down, you must build the walls of a fortress around your soul and around your burning fires.

Do not allow those with small minds and fear to stop you from your path, your journey, your why. Keep going. Keep moving forward and attack the day!

Until tomorrow this is your Coach Andrew signing out!

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*Burchard, B. (2014). The Motivation Manifesto (1st ed., pp. 31–43). Hays House.

** Orwell, G., Arsenal, L., & Orwell, G. 1984.