How to End a Relationship the Right Way

Letting go of someone you truly love and coming to terms with the end of the relationship is probably one of the worst feelings anyone can go through. The desire to love and be loved is innate because love is one of the factors that adds meaning to life. Ending a relationship is a stern test of one's emotional and mental health and is one that can bring even the strongest of men and women to their most fragile state. Interestingly, quite a lot has been written about love and how to foster it and little about how to let go when it is clearly heading for the rocks. However, ending a relationship isn't nearly as simple as it seems especially when you are clueless on how to go about it. While fantasy might overwhelm logic when love is involved; however the voice of reason should never be ignored. Please find below some important tips that can help you or your loved ones overcome the despondency of a failed relationship.

Acceptance

This is the first step to take in coming to terms with the reality of a failed relationship. The consciousness that it cannot work will help you build inner strength to cope with the despondent feeling that may accompany the breakup of the relationship. There is no gainsaying in establishing the fact that when one door closes, another one opens. The loss of that relationship may just about be the precursor to the formation of a new one in the nearest future.

Hence, rather than fretting and remaining inconsolable, it is better to release the person within your mind. Many times, the emotional, financial, and other investments may create a stumbling block on the part of acceptance but you may just write them off as bad investments. It may not be easy but you will get over it. Several factors can lead to a breakup such as physical or emotional violence, infidelity, nagging, bickering, distance, etc, whatever the exact cause of a breakup, accept reality, pick up the bits of your fragile self left and move on! Better days lies ahead.

Separation

This must always accompany acceptance. You may be tempted to playback the events leading to the breakup and X-ray it for your faults. The perfectionist in you may desire to roll back the hands of time to see if you could correct the wrongs of the past. Much thinking will only keep you worried and could harm your physical and mental health. Separation entails the severance of communication even as you try to heal. However strong you may be, love will unearth your vulnerabilities. Bad emotions are like a pit, the more you think about them or the cause of it, the deeper you go within the pit.

Don’t rely on your capacity to cope by keeping memorabilia of your ex around you. Items such as pictures, gifts, and other stuff that may remind you of them shouldn’t be conspicuous around you. The task of letting go in itself is already herculean in itself, there is no need compounding it further by clinging to items that could trigger the remembrance of the past. It is noteworthy that even with separation, it still wouldn’t be easy letting go but at least you would be putting down the emotional baggage of remembering the past constantly and this helps you be more open-minded while you embrace the opportunities that life will bring your way.

Self Love

This is the most important step in your journey towards recovery. It holds the key to gaining back your confidence and moving on for good. Go out and treat yourself to a good time. Hang out with friends and do the things you love. Exercise and eat healthy. Listen to music, connect with friends and family, read books, go on hiking, changing up the look of your environments like getting a new wallpaper or painting of your room either yourself or local certified contractors, or any other fun adventure that interests you. However, as much as possible, ensure to avoid the use of alcohol or drugs as an escape route as the chances of getting addicted will be high. Live as healthy as possible. Maintain your personal and professional relationships and build on them. Be as professional as possible and mingle with professionals. Whatever, do all according to the highest standards. Put on a good vibe and be nice to people.

Conclusively, love should grow naturally and should never be forced. It takes two to tango and when the ship of the relationship seemed doomed, it would be right to get off before it's too late.