How to Catch his Attention and be Different

Here's a secret every woman who is dating in the modern world needs to know: Don’t Reply to A Man's Texts within 30 Seconds!!!! (When You’re Away, You’re Away)

This sentence is pretty self-explanatory, but it’s so important that it warrants its own explanation. Now, with ever-expanding technology, it’s very hard to not reply to a man within three seconds of receiving a message (text, WhatsApp, Facebook Messenger, Twitter, etc.). However, the secret of your dating game is that you should NEVER reply so quickly. Why? Because you are making yourself too accessible! He will lose interest.

Let’s say that a man texts you first. You reply within three seconds (because you always have your phone in your hand!). He replies back, you reply back, he replies, you reply, you’re messaging back and forth for three hours... Now what? You may think it’s bringing you closer, but what you don’t realize is that it will eventually push him away. At first, he may be flattered that you have messaged back so quickly, which means you are interested. But sooner rather than later, he will begin to think you don’t have a life and texting him is so important that you forget everything else. He will begin to know that he can have access to you at any time, which would equal zero effort needed on his part.

Remember ladies, men don’t appreciate anything they get so easily. You may argue that you don’t want to play a game. To that, I would say if you don’t play the game, you will end up alone. It doesn’t matter what you think; what matters are the results. You need to learn discipline!

I totally understand that when you get a text from a guy you really like and/or are dating, you want to reply back ASAP and you don’t want him to think you’re being rude. But trust me, ladies, if he likes you, he will come back again and again for more — whether you’re replying quickly or not. I wouldn’t text my current partner back for hours in the beginning. Did it deter him? No. No man is deterred if a woman doesn’t reply within 60 seconds. In fact, it makes him want you more, makes him think about you more, makes him wonder what you’re doing. This is the way to his heart; when he starts thinking and wondering about you, this is when he will be curious and want to learn more. This is what paves the way for love.

Sounds very odd for us women, right? We just want to be as close as possible, as quickly as possible. But it doesn’t work this way for a man! When you don’t reply back so quickly and are a little unpredictable, it makes his heart beat fast, waiting for your text (if he likes you). It makes him wonder what you’re up to. Men love mystery!

Nothing has changed in the last 100 years in this area. Over 30 years ago, it was easy to be mysterious — there was no such technology like what we have today. Today, everyone is accessible ALL the time. That’s why you need to be different. It will get his imagination running wild when you take your time to respond. It will make him wonder what you’re doing and who you’re with. Don’t you want him to think of you this way? He will also think you are different from other girls/women when you don’t give instant replies in the 21st century, when everyone else is doing just that.

So, what are the guidelines for replying? Around two to three hours after the first message should do it (remember, he always messages you first!). Then mix it up afterwards, say, 30 to 40 minutes, sometimes 20 minutes, then one hour so he knows you’re not playing a game.

Another note regarding texting, messaging, etc., is end the conversation first. So, you can say “hey, got to go now, hitting the gym” or “taking the dog for a walk, speak to you later!” It doesn’t matter how you end it; just end it first. This will leave him wanting more of you and wanting to see you and spend time with you.

Also, another thing about texts/instant messaging: don’t start telling your life story. Keep the texts short, sweet and snappy. Remember, you’re only replying to what he is saying. No need to start up a whole new conversation through text — you can do that on dates. If he has that much to say, he can take you on a date. Likewise, you can speak more on a date as opposed to through messages.

Here’s another reason why you should not reply so quickly: get out of there first and keep the messages short so that he keeps asking you out. Make sure he knows that if he wants to have lengthy conversations, he needs to take you out (although don’t say that to him!). The less accessible you are through technology, the quicker he will understand that to get to know you more, he will have to date you. And men fall in love when they see you and spend time with you, not through text messages or Twitter.

The basic premise of this secret is that when you’re away, you’re away. You’re gone. If he wants to know more about you, he has to ask you out on dates. When you’re away from him, you’re doing your own thing. If you don’t have anything to do apart from wait for his text and replies, then PRETEND! It doesn’t matter. I realized quickly at the beginning that I was having to pretend that I didn’t want to reply. I did this for months. Later it became natural, and I actually got a life.

This is another reason not to reply so quickly, because no matter what happens, you need to have a life. You need to have hobbies, interests, passions and friends that keep you interested and interesting. If you don’t, you may have a view that if you have a man, your life will be complete. The truth is that a man can never fill you up if you are empty. He can only top you up. So you need to fill yourself up first with yourself and with your life. Let him top you up where you begin to overflow.

This dating advice is not just about playing by the rules to get the guy; it’s also about making you into the woman you were meant to be. Through this and other secrets you will also learn how to love yourself more, have a life, and do things that make you happy. Anything that a man gives to you will be EXTRA (cherry on top). This is why it’s so important to discipline yourself and master these dating secrets!

So in a Nutshell:

• Don’t reply to messages within 30 seconds. Wait a few hours — at LEAST.

• Keep the messages sweet, light-hearted and short. If he wants to know more about you, he can ask you out on a date!

• End the conversation first. Make an excuse and get out of there, even if you’re pretending.

• The point of this is also that he gets to miss you!

Doing this will make you into a woman who he sees as 'different' and 'unique'.... Don't you want him to see you like that?