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Ease the Pain of a Breakup Using a Proven Method

get over your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend faster

By Happy Life OfficialPublished 2 years ago 5 min read
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A breakup can be one of the most painful experiences and can take weeks, months, or even years to get over completely.

Unfortunately, there is no way to fast forward time or avoid the pain entirely.

However, there are ways to lessen the pain of a breakup to begin healing and move on with your life sooner rather than later.

If you want to learn how to get over your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend faster, you can do it using proven methods that work.

Prepare For The Emotional Rollercoaster

When you break up with someone, there will be an emotional rollercoaster. There might even be some lingering feelings after you've broken up from time to time.

You can either try and hide them or face them head-on by admitting your heart isn't completely recovered yet.

The latter is what I recommend because it forces you to look at things objectively (rather than wallowing in self-pity), and it allows your brain and body time to recover from one of life's most difficult situations.

In other words, getting over a breakup means facing your pain head-on rather than hiding from it.

Give Yourself Time To Mourn

Following a breakup, it's easy to run into someone else's arms before you've had time to mourn.

And while it can feel like running away from pain and heartache, taking that approach may only prolong your grieving process.

While there is no right way to mourn your relationship, there are ways that will help speed along with healing and set you up for long-term happiness: You should find someone who encourages you—not replaces your ex—someone who builds you up rather than knocks you down; someone with whom you can be yourself; someone who shares similar interests but also holds their own identity.

In other words, there needs to be room for two people in a relationship if it is going to succeed long-term.

Recognize what went wrong

It's easy to tell yourself that you weren't ready for something great or didn't deserve something so unique.

But relationships don't always work out because one person is better than or worse than another. Sometimes, things fall apart, and there is no logical reason why—from an outside perspective.

It can be hard to find closure when there are no clear answers; maybe one person was committed while their partner wasn't, or perhaps someone fell in love, and their partner wasn't in love yet.

Start Helping Yourself

Some people have trouble moving past heartbreak.

If you're in that situation, there's some good news: Help is available.

Research has shown that breaking up with someone can reduce your stress levels—but only if you know how to start helping yourself.

When dealing with heartbreak and anxiety, it's essential to recognize what steps you can take and work through them, whether seeking out professional help or working on yourself with different techniques.

Depending on your unique situation, it may be helpful for you to try more than one approach before feeling normal again.

The important thing is recognizing what will work best for you during a difficult time in your life; be open-minded about it and look for new ways to change as you move forward.

Remember That Time Heals All Wounds

The adage that time heals all wounds is primarily true.

Sure, it might feel like you'll never get over it (I know I felt that way), but I can tell you from personal experience that it does get better with time.

It's normal to wake up and wish for one more day with them, or maybe even one more hour.

But once your mind has moved forward, you realize there are things you can do now that weren't possible during those first few weeks after they've left.

Know That This Will Not Last Forever

Don't be tempted to feel sorry for yourself and give in to those negative emotions.

You may feel like you'll never find anyone again or that your ex was the one, but know that you will have other relationships in your life.

This doesn't mean they will replace your ex-partner, but rather that you need to look forward instead of back and view them as another great learning experience on your path in life.

After all, nothing can ever be taken away from you—you alone are responsible for what you choose. So choose love!

Don't Go Off The Deep End; keep Things in Perspective

It's easy to get caught up in your thoughts when depressed.

You may feel as if everyone is moving on with their lives and that you've left behind, but don't despair!

Keeping things in perspective can help you move forward. Consider how much time you spent together, how long it took you two to fall for each other, etc.

Even if your love was written in destiny, remember that these relationships are never one-sided.

If your partner moved on faster than you did because they needed something else at that time, then so be it!

They deserve happiness, too; be glad they brought joy into your life while they were there.

Talk To Someone Who Has Been There

Research shows that it's easier for us to cope with experiences when supported by friends and family.

You can discuss how you feel and what you're going through with someone who has gone through it.

Talking about your experiences can help you realize that others out there have been in your position, some even worse than yours, yet they have come out stronger on the other side.

This support from loved ones will give you hope that what happened may not be as bad as you think and will certainly make it easier for you to overcome it.

Loved ones may not understand what is happening in your head, but they will still listen attentively when you need someone to hear your thoughts out loud.

FINAL WORDS

The emotional trauma caused by breakups is normal, natural, and quite intense.

However, it doesn't have to be permanent. One must never forget that breaking up isn't breaking apart—the relationship will remain forever in your memory as well as your heart—it simply can no longer exist in its present form.

There will be instances when you will wish for another chance, but it is best if you learn how to take advantage of these memories and memories alone rather than letting them torture you in negative ways.

It takes two people to make one memory—so enjoy making new ones!

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Happy Life Official

I write about relationships, health, happiness, and much more to ease your life routine.

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