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How to Be Close Friends With the Guy You Like

By Zulqarnain HaiderPublished 2 years ago 4 min read
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Becoming friends with a guy that you like can be very complicated. Your emotions will be difficult to hide and you may not have patience but a relationship that starts out in friendship is very rewarding. After you become friends with him make sure that you fit in with the rest of his friends and, when the time is right, express how you really feel. It’s not healthy to hide your feelings and, if he’s a true friend, he will listen to you and value having you in his life no matter what the outcome.

  1. Talk to his friends. Boys can get lonely or alienated easily, especially if their friends begin to mock them. By making friends with his friends, you show that you are part of his network and can be trusted. Learn about their dynamic and find out how you would fit into their circle.
  • Try to be genuine when you do this. Most people can tell if you are faking interest in order to get something that you want.

2. Start a club. Whether it’s a book club, microbrew club, or movie club, share an interest with him. Invite others to join your club or keep it just the two of you. Be careful not to make it seem like a date if you’re just beginning your friendship..

  • Your club can meet once a week or once a month. You basically want to share an activity together to strengthen your friendship bond but you don’t want him to feel suffocated.

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Find a new hobby. Keep yourself occupied. You don’t want your life to revolve around your friendship with him. Plus, whether he shares your interest or not, a new hobby will give you something to talk about.[3]

  • Take a class. Study something that you’ve always been interested in so that you won’t become bored.

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Volunteer when you can. Giving back to your community will give you a sense of well-being. It’s attractive to know that someone is selfless and looking to do some good. He may also want to participate or be inspired to find his own volunteer opportunities.

  • See if your school offers any outreach or community service opportunities.
  • Volunteer at places that interest you. This will help the guy learn more about what you like.
  • Great places to volunteer include animal shelters, senior homes, and soup kitchens.

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Enjoy sports. It’s fairly obvious that boys enjoy watching and playing sports. You don’t necessarily have to enjoy the same teams or sports as he does. Enjoying your own team or sport would also be interesting to him.[5]

  • Guys enjoy arguing over their favourite players or watching a game together. Find something about the sport that you enjoy and focus on that. You don’t need to know every detail but you do need to actually enjoy the sport.

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Burp when you want. Guys think that bodily noises are hilarious. It may be fun for you to see how far you can push your own gross boundaries. Don’t be self-conscious just follow the standards set by the rest of the boys.

  • Challenge him to a belching contest and crack the same type of jokes that his male friends do.
  • The tired myth that girls don't have bodily functions, or can't be funny or gross or clever, is outdated and even harmful when it comes to relationships between men and women. Show him that you're not a strange, weird being — you're a person, just like him, and you can be comfortable around each other and simply be yourselves.

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Go to happy hour. If you are of age, this is a good opportunity to get to know him in a social setting. Invite your friends and tell him to invite his. It’s a cheap and fun social gathering that is a far cry from a date.[8]

  • If you are traveling by car, remember to have a designated driver for each party.

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Reassess your view of guys. Don’t assume that guys and girls can’t be just friends. It’s easy to think about gender stereotypes but view him as an individual with his own ideals about friendship.You should be able to have different perspectives about things while still enjoying each other’s company.

  • Learn about the guy's, and if you find any that match up with yours, mention them! For example, both of you could be into baking or comic books.

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Understand that guys do see the potential for romance. Studies have shown that guys do think about having a romantic relationship with their female friends if they were given a chance. It may seem discouraging at first not to get the romantic attention but time may be on your side.

  • A guy may not find a girl attractive at first but as time passes and he gets to know how smart, funny, and relatable she is, that girl becomes more attractive.

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Avoid applying pressure. Studies show that both girls and boys get teased by peers to turn a platonic friendship into a romantic relationship. Don’t feel obligated to do something you’re uncomfortable doing. Be open with your friends and let them know that their teasing and pressure is hurtful.

  • Boys may get mocked more by their friends for having female friends who aren’t prospective girlfriends. Friendship is not seen as masculine because it means that a boy must make himself vulnerable and confide in you.

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About the Creator

Zulqarnain Haider

I write short stories and poetry. I hope you find yourself in between the spaces of my words.

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