5 ways to boost your self confidence
Proven master keys to achieve self confidence
By Ogechukwu Isaac OdinakaPublished 3 years ago • 4 min read
- Introduction
- Everyone at some point in their lives have played the victim role to loss of confidence whereas confidence is a prerequisite for a full manifestation of our purpose of existence and achievement of our set goals. Everyone have their stories which is unique and defines who we are now but the decision of what we become despite our stories is a function of our choice. Few days ago I was discussing with a friend about excuses and he said “we are free to attach our reason for losing confidence to our past experiences but those are excuses. No one cares about c your excuses Isaac” he said. Then he concluded with the most striking statement I’ve ever heard. He said “Isaac, your past is your property, you can decide to keep or sell it off”.
- I hope this forms a good premise to start our discussion. Now heads up buddies , we are going to demistify the various causes of your lack of self confidence widely recognized so you can benefit from the method I used to overcome lack of self-confidence in my life and enjoy your life just like me.
- What causes Loss of Self-confidence?
- 1. Low self esteem
- This refers to a psychological condition which induces continuous feeling of worthlessness. When you begin to feel a lack of capacity to achieve goals and dreams you increase your likelihood of plunging into depression. When you lack a healthy self esteem you’ll tend to often compare yourself with others and inability to measure up to the standards of those you thought you’re intellectually and technically better than, you’ll end up saying the words of Nikola Tesla “all my talents and gifts are waste” when hard to turn into digging to earn $2 despite being one of the smartest inventors of all time.
- 2. Living in the past
- Truly life is not balanced. While some have got good experiences from childhood, some others have been victims of circumstances from childhood or at some point in their lives. Some who have experienced very terrible life in the past are always haunted by these memories which induce a feeling being unworthy of good things of life. These could be incidence of rape, murder etc however remember Chaos is not hindrance but a ladder to success if you know how to control your present through your decisions.
- 3. Enslavement to Fear
- There are different causes of fear in people but the most obvious I’ve noticed is understanding you’ve outgrown a level, you desire something greater but you’re scared of losing sight of the shore because you’ve consumed yourself with pessimistic thinking regarding what happens if you take this new initiative and it boomerangs. Psychologist refer to this as fear of the unknowns. Do you know fear is the mother of regrets. Buddy, I present you with two sides of the coin which regret offers. One is regret as a result of not acting on a decision which later becomes a huge success which causes sadness and the other is taking the initiative which didn’t pull through but then you can look at your attempt and like Jonathan Netanyahu say “this is what I’ve done”.
- 5 ways to boost your self confidence
- 1. Associate with caring people: Something in the heart of people with low confidence level especially victims of low self esteem yearns for the company of people who would show them a great level of care which they can’t voice out. You should endeavor to often be in the company of those who generate positive energies because for a person with low self esteem, words which have negative undertones even sarcastic jokes can destroy their confidence. By all means, avoid every association which doesn’t encourage your efforts or doesn’t compliment your little progress.
- 2. Come out of your comfort zone: you need to develop the mental fortitude of an eagle which soars higher into the sky amidst a raging storm. In essence you should understand that criticism is a constant in our contemporary where freedom of expression is greatly at the expense of the recipient to achieve ego for the speaker. Therefore, rather than melting at every word of criticism thrown at you, you should develop the habit or character of using constructive criticism as vehicle for growth. Moreover, Aristotle would rather say “if you don’t want to be criticized, say nothing, become nothing”… but the candid truth buddy is that you’ll still be criticized.
- 3. Pursue only careers which make you feel relevant: In Abraham Lazslow’s theory of human needs, he mentioned that the need to feel relevant is one of the greatest human needs. This is the reason organizations are created and inputs of people in different facets of life determine their level of relevance.
- It is energy consuming and frustrating pursuing careers in occupations you lack passsion for. Therefore if you want to improve your self confidence through how relevant you’re, channel your efforts to ambitions which make you feel worthwhile. By doing this, you’ll notice a boost in your commitment required to finish tasks when the going gets tough.
- 4. Live in the present: you need to declutter every negative thoughts your past experiences have lent you. This is your life and you can’t change the past but you can prevent the incidence that happened in the past from repeating itself if free yourself from the psychological prison these experiences have chained you.
- 5. Understand that happiness and pain are choices: Develop the mindset that you’re the architect of your destiny, the rudder of your ship and the master of your life. You’ll build a great level of confidence when you embrace the philosophy of “no one is going to help me so I’ll help myself”.
- Conclusion
- We’ve been able to explore the causes of lack of self confidence in our lives which isn’t exhausted but illuminating and also provided way we can improve our self confidence.
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