Mistakes come from the mouth, ideas come from the heart

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What is a "slip of the tongue"? It's a slip of the tongue!

That is, we inadvertently say things in life that we did not intend to say.

Slips of the tongue are small mistakes, and people generally do not pay attention to them. But Freud was so interested in it that he included it as an important object of study in his theory of the unconscious. Freud believed that from a person's slips of the tongue, it is often possible to discover the secrets that lurk deep inside the other person.

You wonder: it's just that your brain is distracted when you speak, or your mouth can't keep up with the speed of your head, or your head can't keep up with the speed of your mouth. But Freud was serious. He believed that slips of the tongue are not accidental, but on the contrary, the content of slips of the tongue is often a reaction to and a reflection of the true innermost thoughts.

Slips of the tongue come up all the time. After a slip of the tongue, one always hates to keep one's mouth shut.

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Let's take a few chestnuts! You see if there is any truth in it.

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You went to college and learned to smoke with a group of friends, and very addicted to smoking. When you come home for the holidays, you soon get addicted to smoking, but you don't want your parents to know, so you go for a walk under the pretext of getting some nicotine. As you are about to close the door and go out, your dad, who is watching TV in the living room, asks in passing.

"What are you doing out?".

You blurted out: "I went out for a smoke break"!

Then your father came over with a tiger face: "Don't go yet"! You think this is the end, revealed, had to look at your father helplessly, the brain quickly raised a 100 reasons. Then I heard your father say: "Wait for me together"!

Analysis: You have the problem of smoking in your head, and you are likely to say it if you are not careful, especially when you are not too alert. If you do not have the habit and thought of smoking, such a slip of the tongue can't occur. Therefore, this slip of the tongue is the outward appearance of your true thoughts.

If you agree with the above explanation, then please see the next example.

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I (male) and a group of classmates went to Xiaohua's (female) house for dinner, and after you had a drink, the Xiaohua in your eyes became so charming that your soul didn't want to stay at home. At this time, her father suddenly came in from work to say hello. You were going to say "Uncle, let's eat together", but what came out was: "Dad, let's eat together!!

The expressions of the group immediately froze, and everyone stared together! Awkward, very awkward, super awkward! You probably wanted to find a hole in the ground! You inspected the ground, only to find the sewer pipe, can not drill in!

Your explanation: you were drunk and confused, and you said it inadvertently!

moncler outlet online: "I" deep down like Xiaohua students, hope her father became my "father". Because he was unconsciously thinking about it, he expressed it when he wasn't paying attention (and let it slip).

If you agree, then look at the following example.

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You're driving to work, and you meet a beautiful colleague on the way, so you give her a ride. After she sat down in the passenger seat, you specifically told her to "remember to fasten the condom".

After you finished, you immediately realized that you had said the wrong thing, and then your head was baffled, and you didn't know what to say for a while. The female colleague was also stunned for half a day, walking halfway are almost not talking. The last time to get off put down hard words: about a time oh!

Your explanation: "seat belt" and "condom" is very close, accidentally got it wrong.

moncler outlet online: You are interested in a female colleague, so when you say "seat belt", you subconsciously (or even consciously) are thinking of "condom" related things with her, therefore, you mistakenly say " condom" is a probable event.

You may want to refute this. But remember: when have you ever made a similar slip of the tongue to a "temperamental" girl around you?

Here's the exercise. Analyze the meaning of the following slips of the tongue.

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Summer night, and a few buddies in a large stall get-together, the cattle blowing than the sky is bigger, beer drinking than the sea more. That feeling, the vigor, vertical and horizontal inside and outside, mouth like a reed, and wielding the power. Finally, I couldn't hold it in and wanted to go to the bathroom to release the pressure from within. When I came back, I said in passing: "Drink more urine, more wine..."

Self-analysis: my subconscious taste is very heavy ah!

Master F analysis: brother you are drunk!

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If you are a girl, you hate a boy in your class. And he is always looking for opportunities to borrow you to borrow that, today to borrow erasers, tomorrow to borrow pencils, the next day to borrow rulers. And after being refused is always soft, hard, stalking skills practiced very well.

So, on one occasion when borrowing something, you shouted wildly: "I will not marry you!".

Self-analysis: I know this boy likes me, borrowing things is also his way of getting close, but I don't like him and hope he doesn't bother me.

moncler outlet online: I'm telling you ha, big sister! I recently divorced your sister-in-law, and I'm single right now.

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After reading the above examples, do you feel that Freud seems to have a point: slips of the tongue seem to have the potential to perhaps be a reflection and inattentive expression of some of our true thoughts?

In Freud's view: the human mental world is like an iceberg, the waking consciousness only accounts for the small part of it that comes to the surface, while the larger part hidden beneath the surface is unconscious. The unconscious is so large that its volume is much larger than the part that is exposed to the surface. This submerged unconsciousness is not a pool of stagnant water, it is also a dark tide inside; sects and collusion, conquest, and attack. The purpose is to compete for profits and martial arts alliance status. And any conflict and entanglement between them will bring different degrees of impact on the waking consciousness.

And, the slip of the tongue is the result of the unconscious sectarian struggle. It is just a disguise to show the real intention in the form of "wrong words". Therefore, the content of a slip of the tongue is often a reaction to and a reflection of the true innermost thoughts.

For example, saying the wrong name is a common slip of the tongue. Recently, there was a news story about a groom who, on his wedding day, was supposed to say "So-and-so, will you marry me?" to his bride according to the procedure. But he said the bride's name was his ex-girlfriend's name. This shows that deep down, he still loves his ex-girlfriend. Freud's explanation for this kind of slip of the tongue is: "wrongly said the name of another person, are indicative of the existence of an emotion". But for various reasons, people are unable to fully express this emotion in the situation, so they express it through a slip of the tongue.

This method seems quite good! At least it can be used to examine a boyfriend's attitude towards his ex-girlfriend! But the disadvantage is: it appears too little chance. We can't wait until the wedding day to test him, and, in case he says the name of his ex-girlfriend, the marriage is awkward!

Must be tested in advance to do!

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The "early exam" is also strongly desired by psychoanalysts! Because the time for treatment is limited, psychoanalysts can not always listen to you and then wait for you to slip up. Therefore, they have to create the conditions for you to make a slip of the tongue as soon as possible.

They use a kind of misunderstanding method, which is frankly called "fishing enforcement".

In the process of communicating with patients, psychoanalysts try to create a comfortable and relaxed atmosphere, to make the person with whom they are communicating feel comfortable and safe, and then relax their psychological guard, so that they can express their thoughts openly and honestly. In this case, if one is allowed to talk freely about oneself, one will find that no matter how strong one's previous mental guard is, one will certainly release one's unconscious at some point and blurt out one's true thoughts.

Simply put, it means creating a relaxed and comfortable environment where the "visitor" (or boyfriend) can let down his guard and open up to you. Because, in the process, the former consciousness of the doorman security uncle may let down his guard, allowing the bad guys to take advantage of the situation. Something in the unconscious mind will wander out and then be "mouthed" by you inadvertently.

Taking this approach, when interrogating your boyfriend, girls should not ask him direct questions such as "how many girlfriends have you had? Because it is too direct and will cause him to be alert and resistant! In this case, he will not tell you his true past.

What you need to do is first create a relaxed atmosphere, such as letting him tell the story of his former romance. Of course, to further let him relax his guard, you'd better tell one first to show sincerity (note not to tell the past boyfriend all, it is best to just say: I was young, very silly like a boy, and then, there is no then! (So that boys can not catch any handle). After this section of the "confession", the boy is easy to let down his guard, to their various love history slowly said (in the middle has not been interrupted, to always look at him with a gentle eye, and then constantly says "hello great" and other words of encouragement).

This way, the next time you're upset and want to take it out on your boyfriend, you won't have to work too hard to find excuses. You just need to spend 10 minutes recapping his love history before you take it out on him! The main thing is, the amount of information you say, is enough to keep him confused for a while, feeling as if he did something wrong!

I hope my wife doesn't learn this trick... ...