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Will a Threesome Ruin Our Friendship?

A close female friend has asked my wife and me if we would consider a threesome with her. For reasons I’ll get into, we’re a little on the fence… but definitely intrigued.

By Chai SteevesPublished 2 years ago 3 min read
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Will a Threesome Ruin Our Friendship?
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In some ways, it was a dream come true. Someone we like and find very sexy said they wanted to have sex with my wife and me.

The context. By any outward appearance, my wife and I are a middle-aged, professional couple living in an affluent liberal downtown neighborhood. Our good friends know us to be good parents, successful careerists, progressive thinking… and they know we're pretty sexual. We don't hide that.

With one of our closest couple friends, we regularly have discussions on sex and sexuality. We enjoy telling each other about our early sexual experiences, fantasies we have, interesting sexual science studies we may have read about, masturbation habits—things like that. From our perspective, it's titillating. For them, they've admitted that since we started talking about sex with them in a relaxed way, it reinvigorated their sex life considerably. So a clear win-win.

As we spoke of all things sexual, one of the recurring themes was female bisexuality. My wife is openly bisexual. The woman from the other couple — I'll call her R — was very open in saying she finds females attractive and said she regrets not having acted on an opportunity that she had, when she was younger, to be with a woman. She had been hit on by a close friend when she was in her 20s, but she turned it down. She said she has thought back to this moment frequently and regrets not having taken advantage of the opportunity. Over the weeks and months with us, R would regularly bring up that opportunity missed.

A couple of weeks ago, R and I were having coffee (she and I are the closest and oldest friends amongst the two couples) and said she decided to be direct - she would like to be with a woman. She felt she was having a bit of a sexual revival, which she wanted to do. She asked if my wife and I would consider a threesome. Her vision — she and my wife play sexually. I'm kind of there watching or helping out a bit but not at the center of the action… her fantasy is to be with a woman. I believe she wants to be there because she is closer to me than my wife. I, of course, asked if her husband was ok with this idea. He is.

So, it's a bit of a dilemma. R's history with sex is complicated. Unlike us, she doesn't see sex as something light and fun. She had an incident of sexual assault when she was younger. She also definitely made decisions around sex when she was younger than she regrets. And she's gone through periods in her relationship where their sex life was not ideal. So, for her, it's a little more severe and heavy.

On the other hand, she's the type of person who knows what she wants and is direct about it. She's a strong person and doesn't seem to dwell unduly on past regrets. And she's sexy and is becoming more sexual. And she is very aware of wanting to be perceived as a perfect parent and community member — she would never do this with anyone but us.

So, I'm unsure. My wife is open to the idea. She thinks it would be really fun but would only want to do it if we believe it will be suitable for R and not damage our friendship. Me, I love helping people realize their sexuality, but I also want to do it only if it will be a good experience.

So, as I said, I'm on the fence a little

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Chai Steeves

I'm an eclectic guy - I like writing about sex, relationships, parenting, politics, celebrity trivia - the works. I'm happily married and a father of 2.

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