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Who Enjoys Sex More. Men or Women?

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By Gal MuxPublished 3 years ago 4 min read
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Who Enjoys Sex More. Men or Women?
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Men and women have never agreed as to who between the two of them enjoys sex the most.

Men?

Women assume, as it is the man who gets to penetrate a warm moist and tight area that gently cushions a body part of his, then he must enjoy it more.

Also, as men may want sex more often than women, that could be because they enjoy it more. You would want more of a thing that satisfies you right?

Men have higher libidos than women through most of their lives. Does a higher libido translate to better enjoyment of sex one might ask?

Women?

Men on the other hand voice that as they are the ones that are mostly performing the more strenuous acts during coitus, as a woman may sometimes lay comfortably while she is being pleasured, then she must enjoy it more.

Plus women can have multiple orgasms at one go while men can only have one.

To add, she is also the one moaning, coiling, squirming and screaming through most of it. What could portray continuous enjoyment more than that?

Counter argument

Women disagree on that. They may be the ones having more reactions to the pleasuring but are also the ones that have a harder time reaching their pinnacles. If it was that good, couldn’t they be reaching them much easier and sooner?

Again, only 26% of women experience an organism during sex when compared to 75% of men.

It is much easier to not only pleasure a man but to also make him reach his climax. It is also much easier to excite him and get him in the mood. Therefore, he must be enjoying it more.

If you are enjoying a nice bowl of ice cream, you will quickly gulp through it, wouldn’t you?

Plus a man can reach an orgasm through penetrative sex only while most women cannot.

Intensive clitoral stimulation from a skilled and experienced lover may be the only way most women can achieve an orgasm.

Chinua Achebe in his book A Man Of The People offered his opinions on the subject. He posited that a woman must enjoy sex more because it happens right inside her.

As a woman, I don’t know about that. Just because it is happening right inside me, doesn’t necessarily mean that I may be enjoying it more or that I am even enjoying it, to begin with.

I asked one of my funniest and most opinionated cousins about this and he said “If you have a visitor in your house, who enjoys the visit more. You or the visitor?”

My answer was it depends.

“Exactly! It depends.” My cousin added. “ It depends on whether you like your visitor, whether they came bearing gifts, whether they came at the right time, whether you are in the right mood for a visitor, whether they complement your house or diss it, whether they bring stories that make you happy and whether they leave at the right time among other things.”

I agreed with him.

It can be hard to conclude about who enjoys sex more between a man and a woman. I doubt that they can even be any scientific formula or study that can credibly settle this debate once and for all.

Specific sexual act

What can be measured however is who between two consenting partners enjoyed a particular sexual encounter and who benefited the most from it.

When eating a woman out, or when fingering her, she might be sexually enjoying that particular act more than you are even though your pleasuring her and seeing her enjoy it could also be exciting you.

The same for when a woman is giving a guy a blow job. The man could be enjoying this particular sexual act more than the woman pleasuring him.

And so goes for any other physical or penetrative act.

I researched literature on the subject and I couldn’t find any strong conclusive statements that could finally settle this argument.

I guess, rather than focus on who between the sexes enjoys sex more, the focus should be on a lover trying their level best to maximally pleasure their partner during every sexual act based on what gets them there.

And that way we can prioritise collaboration rather than competition.

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About the Creator

Gal Mux

Lover of all things reading & writing, 🥭 &

🍍salsas, 🍓 & vanilla ice cream, MJ & Beyoncé.

Nothing you learn is ever wasted - Berry Gordy

So learn everything you can.

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