Who do women think about when they satisfy themselves?

34 percent dream of Mr. Unknown during self-massage, while 28 percent think of their partner. Rating? None. Because all the men in your head are serving your desire alone at that moment.

27 percent talk openly with their partner about satisfying themselves. That must become more! Go ahead and tell him about it, he’ll probably find it pretty exciting. Okay, the part with Mr. Unknown maybe not.

The most common questions about masturbation

Many people hesitate to ask specific questions about masturbation at the gynecologist’s office. We do. Katharina Rohmert, a doctor at Pro Familia Darmstadt, answers the questions.

I don’t always come during masturbation. Is that bad?

Not at all. Whether an orgasm occurs depends on many factors, above all on the physical and psychological condition on the day in question. Women should not expect to be able to produce the same feeling of pleasure one-to-one all the time. Only if complaints such as pain suddenly appear should one go to the gynecologist.

Do I risk infection with spit?

No, but I still advise using lubricant because spit consists of 99 percent water and evaporates quickly. That irritates mucous membranes, which creates an entry point for germs. Water-based gels work well, but silicones and oils are even more lubricating. I like to recommend organic lubricant gel from the kiwi plant or coconut oil. But beware, if your sweetheart does join in: oil and latex condoms are not compatible!

It’s much more satisfying without my partner. How do I deal with it?

It’s normal. If it hardly works with him, it’s best to be open, otherwise dishonesty will determine the relationship, and avoid or fake intimacy. First, bring self-stimulation into couple sex: do it while he is there, or both arouse each other. Guide his hand. And talk to each other! Maybe both partners are not used to being so open. But otherwise you won’t get anywhere as a couple.

Masturbation is a lot of fun. Whenever and wherever you do it: enjoy your body. With our tips and tricks it will be twice as much fun.