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What men can learn from lesbians in bed

Sex is like everything else: You never stop learning. It’s high time to take a closer look at lesbian love — there are secrets of lust hidden there!

By OmaraPublished 2 years ago 3 min read
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It’s almost funny how many proverbs come to mind when you think about good sex … “No master has fallen from the sky”, “Good things come to those who wait” or even “You never stop learning”. With this in mind, we asked journalist and writer Mona Eichler, who as an outed lesbian, columnist for the lesbian magazine ‘Straight’ and book author (‘Von Sex, Liebe und Farben’, Schwarzkopf & Schwarzkopf) insanely likes to write, think and talk about the most beautiful secondary matter in the world, for sex tips for men. After all, it doesn’t hurt if a man learns a few tricks from lesbian love, does it? The sexpert thinks so too: “I always ask my buddies about what they do with their wives in bed — it works the other way around too!”

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Porn movies in particular perpetuate the cliché: women love it when men race their tongues over their clits at the speed of light during oral sex. Yet slow, soft touches are often much more intense — just like kissing, by the way! So take your time when orally pleasuring your girlfriend. “Don’t approach the whole thing purposefully, it’s not about licking the woman to climax, but to give her pleasure. Sometimes use the tip of your tongue, sometimes your entire tongue and caress the entire vagina, not just the clit,” advises Mona Eichler.

Insider tip: Run the tip of your tongue along the pathways between the outer and inner labia. “This area is totally sensitive, many women totally enjoy being touched there!”

In, out, in, out — but not at the same rhythm.

It’s human: we notice during sex that our partner likes a touch at a certain speed, and then we can’t be dissuaded. “The problem with this is that no matter how nice a touch feels in the first few seconds, after several minutes the pleasure can fade.”

It feels nicer when the rhythm and also intensity vary.

Insider tip: As hard as it may be to hold back, try moving extremely slowly inside your girlfriend. “Sure, again, don’t do it forever — but feel free to let her wriggle a bit by penetrating her very gently and slowly over and over again. It makes you want more!”

Keep fucking, even when you’ve come.

The supreme discipline of lesbian love: don’t just stop when you’ve come yourself. “Many of my heterosexual girlfriends complain that their partner is so exhausted after his own climax that he no longer satisfies them,” says Mona Eichler. “Yet the fact is that women usually take longer to reach orgasm.”

Insider tip: If you can’t have intercourse right after your climax, do something else to give her pleasure. “For example, after your own orgasm, pleasure your girlfriend with your fingers until you’re ready to go again. That way, she’ll feel that you’re all about her pleasure, too.”

Lesbian love: using sex toys for women

Penis or no penis, sex toys are fun. “Men don’t have to be afraid to pick up dildos or vibrators to pleasure their girlfriends — these things are a blessing, especially in view of the fact that some women take what feels like an eternity to reach orgasm,” laughs the journalist.

Insider tip: A true bringer of pleasure are so-called pulsators (for example, the products of Fun Factory), which not only vibrate, but also push back and forth. “With these, you can give your beloved pleasure for hours if she wants it!”

After sex is before sex: talk about it.

Well, this may not be a special secret tip of lesbian love, but it applies in any case: ask what your girlfriend likes in bed!

“The easiest way to have such conversations is right after sex, when you’re still in each other’s arms. Talk about what’s on your mind: did she climax, what position did she particularly like, what touch might not have been such a hit … That way, you’ll gradually learn everything you need to know.”

Insider tip: Start by telling your girlfriend what you particularly liked, then a relaxed conversation will ensue.

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