Using BDSM to heal from assault, rape or abuse

I'm an abuse survivor and I'm in the BDSM community so I have a little insight to this topic. I will also pass along advice from experts.

Now I don't advise that you use BDSM to heal if it is soon after the rape/assault/ abuse. Also if you think you deserve to be treated badly then you may not want to use this lifestyle to heal. You have to check the reasons why you want to use this lifestyle to heal from something so traumatic. If you want to hurt someone because you were hurt do not join this lifestyle.

So this lifestyle can be very empowering if done right. There are some women who do this because they hate men or they want to hurt men. Hurting or hating men is not a good reason to be in this lifestyle. That kind of thinking or motive can get you labeled as dangerous.

You have to check your intentions and your mindset before you enter this lifestyle. This statement goes for everyone but especially for those who have gone through some trauma. Your intentions and attitude will determine what you attract. If you go into it thinking that you deserve to be used and hurt you may attract the fake abusive people.

It is suggested if done right BDSM can have the same effect on the brain as yoga and meditation. It can clear your head. BDSM can also be therapeutic. In my experience the endorphins experienced are awesome. Some people think that role playing and BDSM can help people work through their trauma but only if the act is done right. It goes with out saying but safe words will have to be used.

It is suggested that most therapist (or those in the physiology profession) think that everyone that is into BDSM is messed up or dealing with some kind of trauma. While I disagree that this is true I do agree that some people in the community maybe dealing with some kind of trauma.

Some say that while it maybe ok to do consensual non consent or reenact the trauma once in a blue moon it won't be ok to do this on a regular basis. It is also ok to never do rape play or consensual non consent. It is also ok not to want anything to do with your trauma when it comes to play. A lot of people think reliving their trauma in a play sense will traumatize them all over again. It may also deepen the trauma.

If you do decide to do this lifestyle following trauma or just cause you want to proceed with caution. Make sure that you do this in a safe way and that you do this with safe people. Also make sure that you do your research with trusted sources.

I hope this made sense and that you learn something. I will continue to write about BDSM and me too topics.