The Meaning Of Lovemaking

I lie here and I’m curious if I’m experiencing sex at its best, have I ever felt the intense feelings the body is supposed to experience.

I was unaware of the difference between having sex and making love for a long time. I know there are individuals who still get confused about what this means.

A few years ago, I recall my friend asking me, what was my definition of love making? I genuinely sat on the sofa perplexed, I paused and stayed deep in thought for a while. My reply to my friends’ question was, loads of candles and kisses on the neck. I was 19 years old and thought I knew what love making was. The candles were setting the mood and made me feel that love was brought into the bedroom. The flicker of a flame whilst you feel every inch or motion from your partner seemed like making love to me. Passionate kisses to the neck was a major turn on and made me fall deeper for my sexual partner. I mean of course I knew what love making was. My friend registered my response, her facial expression said it all. I was so confused when she told me this wasn’t the definition of love making. Evidently, I had a lot to learn and my body had a lot to explore. She explained that her meaning of love making was the deep connection of energies taking you to a higher height. I remember bursting into laughter and thinking what on earth is she talking about. This however left me wanting to satisfy this desire.

This is a question that individuals continue to find tough to answer. I’m now aware that the difficulty behind this question is the sexual journey individuals endure. Everyone’s knowledge of sex is different. Making love is supposed to be the connection of one’s body to another with the impact of deep emotion. Being inexperienced can lead to the unknown of emotion through penetration.

A lot of men and women don’t want to acknowledge the emotional side to sex for various reasons. I believe Porn is one of the influences of the lack of knowledge to love making. Individuals base sex on the visuals of porn and expect sex to be this way in reality. Porn movies don’t portray love making, mostly its rough sex and how in control a man or woman can be. The woman always appears to be experiencing climaxes repeatedly, with screams louder than a volcanic bang. If you are of the right age and have started having sex, porn is what most individuals look up to for courage. It’s frustrating that porn will be an inspiration to some. I personally would prefer someone making love to me, than flinging me into a million positions and having sex as fast as a speeding bullet.

Reflecting back to 19, I had a lot to discover. Sex for me was based off physical attraction. The physical thrill only lasts a couple of weeks before it gets boring. Lovemaking is a magical escapade and most females will know the difference. Sex to me is basic, lovemaking however allows you to express your sexual desires for your lover.

Anyone can experience sexual stimulation but introducing your mind, body and soul to sex is mind blowing.

Lovemaking has allowed me to let my guard down. Taking my clothes off and watching how a man takes in my body, how his body connects to mine, the feeling of my heart rate increasing from the excitement. My clitoris tingles every time while he slowly licks away my juices. Pleasuring my lover turns me on, their face when they cum is amazing. I love him and he loves me, and our souls are connecting through penetration. If your souls don’t connect lovemaking doesn’t come to life. Making love with the right man or woman is amazing. Sex without love making can be ok if that’s what you prefer, however going with the flow and connecting is wonderful.

Synchronise your body to your lover and see how authentic you become about yourself.