The Dos and Don'ts of New Relationships
keep in mind during your early relationship
There are certain things you don't say or do in the first few months of being in a new relationship, especially if it's your first time dating someone new.
Whether giving unsolicited advice or constantly bringing up exes, several topics should be avoided early on to keep your relationship healthy and progress smoothly.
To ensure you're staying on the right track and to avoid ruining what could be the beginning of something great, here are some dos and don'ts to keep in mind during your early relationship with your new partner.
Do say something nice
The best way to start a relationship is by expressing interest.
If you make your new partner feel good about themselves, they'll be more likely to want to spend time with you.
The first thing that comes out of your mouth may be awkward, but as long as it shows you care, try not to worry too much about what you say.
Be honest; be direct—don't be mean!
It doesn't matter if it sounds like something your grandmother would say—remember, honesty is always a good policy.
Do take time to learn about each other
New relationships have a certain amount of mystery, but you can fight that by making sure to learn about your partner.
Ask them about their interests and passions, and show an interest in what makes them tick.
Whether it's getting a drink together or having a heart-to-heart conversation, take time to build understanding for one another.
That will make your relationship better, but it will give you fodder for future discussions!
Do try to keep your independence
Having fun is key in any relationship, but you should try to keep your independence in a new one.
Staying true to yourself will help your partner respect you in return. A common mistake people make is changing who they are for their partners, which will result in them resenting their significant other.
Before getting into a relationship with someone, make sure you're yourself first.
For example, if you're into sports, don't pretend to like it when your significant other asks if you want to see a game together; even if they don't care about sports, at least it's honest.
To discuss what you want from the relationship
When you first start dating someone, it's easy to get caught up in being with them.
After all, they're fun to be around and incredibly attractive, right?
While you should enjoy your time together (or at least try to), take a step back from those feelings.
You might be setting yourself up for trouble if you don't spend some time discussing what your expectations are for things like long-term plans or career goals.
Going into a relationship with clearly defined wants and needs won't feel blindsided when things don't work out.
Plus, hearing about what your partner wants can help you decide whether or not they align with what you want from life.
Do be open about communication
Communication is key to maintaining a good relationship.
If you feel like something is wrong, talk about it. It's easy to get wrapped up in each other during your new relationship, but take time to have one-on-one conversations about what you're feeling.
The more your talk about things that bother you and show you're willing to make compromises for your partner's happiness, the more likely it is that your relationship will last.
If you don't communicate openly with each other from day one, things will only worsen once feelings develop.
Do have fun together
When you're just starting a new relationship, it's easy to get caught up in thinking about your partner's qualities (or maybe even their flaws).
One thing that you want to avoid is taking things too seriously. In other words, although there are certainly a lot of challenges that come with starting a new relationship, there's also no reason why you shouldn't try to make your significant other laugh at least once or twice every day.
Remember, laughter is incredibly healthy for our bodies and is known to improve both physical health and overall mood.
So if your intention isn't to hurt your significant other in any way, shape, or form--and we hope it isn't--then it's likely wise not to let any hurt feelings get in between a good joke!
Don't think you have it all figured out
Everyone's relationship is different. While some people may advise you to follow your heart, relationships take a lot of work, even for those with decades-long partnerships.
If you want things to work out between you and your partner, it will help to have as much information about them as possible.
Talk to one another about what you do or don't like in a relationship; there's no sense in wasting time getting to know someone that won't make you happy.
Don't let fear destroy your relationship
It can be hard to open up to a new dynamic if you're used to having a certain kind of relationship.
Before you can build trust with someone new, you must believe they won't leave or hurt you.
if your past keeps you from moving forward in your relationship, there are ways to work through those fears (like talking with a therapist). As cliché as it sounds, love is an act of bravery—and so is being vulnerable with someone new.
However scary it might seem at first, it's worth putting yourself out there.
Your partner might surprise you by being more trustworthy than anyone else has ever been before them.
Don't stop dating your partner, even after marriage
It might seem like a given, but it's worth stating aloud.
Both partners need to keep making an effort to meet other people and maintain their own social lives not to feel too dependent on each other.
That way, your partner won't get bored with being around you—and you won't start feeling restless or depressed when you realize that no one else will make you as happy as your significant other.
The best way to prevent jealousy from building up in a new relationship is simply by putting yourself out there in various ways (but always be safe about it).
Not only will you end up with better experiences for future relationships, but more satisfying ones right now!