This is a statement that still blows my mind, but I am the only person on the planet that can say it honestly: I was on the cover of Playboy's first non-nude issue. After 63 years of showing every possible part of the female anatomy (and some of the male), the iconic bunny brand shocked the world by deciding to go conservative. And somehow they chose me to represent that shift.
“Do orgasms with the presence of a penis feel different from those without? In what way?"
To many people, the idea of “feminist porn” is an oxymoron. Porn is often viewed as degrading towards women and some feminists, like second wave feminist Andrea Dworkin, believe that all porn, regardless of the context, is inherently degrading. Those feminists would be wrong. For some women, being empowered means being what BDSM porn star Rain deGray refers to as a, “professional naked person.” Exhibitionism is a common kink after all, so why wouldn't men and women with this kink want to capitalize on it? And with the sexual revolution, why shouldn't women have our own porn, geared towards us, and why shouldn't we embrace it as freedom, rather than write all of it off as degrading?
"Masturbation has helped me to know how to have an orgasm, and to recognize the stages of arousal I go through."
Foreplay. The word quickly brings to mind a certain couple and situation . . . usually, a man taking a few minutes to ‘warm up’ his lady before the actual act of penetration, perhaps with slow and indulgent kissing, a sensual massage, a little delicate fingering, or even a saucily-applied vibrator. Sometimes oral sex is included under the ‘foreplay’ banner as well. Nothing like an enthusiastic blowjob before the main event, or perhaps some toe-curling cunnilingus. Anything to get everybody fully and utterly aroused before the P. goes in the V.
That ‘traditional’ model up there has been around for quite a while, but it ---- and, indeed, the concept of foreplay in general ---- is slowly becoming a relic of the past. Why? Well, one significant reason lies in the growing visibility of LGBT+ couples. If two women, in the process of getting hot ‘n’ heavy, have a heated and desperate makeout session followed by tearing off each others’ clothes and finishing each other off with oral pleasure and digital penetration, you won’t find too many people protesting the fact that they’ve just had sex.
Sexy movies come out every year, but the definition of a sexy movie in a particular year evolves and fluctuates with public sentiment. In a sense, sexy movies come to define the sexual sentiment of the movie going public in any given year. 2016 was no exception with the diverse output of not only Hollywood, but foreign markets and independent cinema, as well. Of course, the definition of sexy is broad and subjective this year, as opposed to 2015 when everything was measured against the single standard of Fifty Shades of Grey. In 2016 there was something for everyone, from musicals to action. Even cartoon bread gets in on the action. The differences in opinion are no different than the divisions we face as a culture this year when it comes to sexuality, female empowerment and the art or erotic entertainment.
She is the original blaxploitation queen. Part of a small group of women who defined the genre. They set the tone for much of African American urban cinema in the 1960 and 1970s. Pam Grier has been steaming up the screen for decades. After blaxploitation went out of style and urban African American culture moved beyond stereotypes, she starred in defining roles like Steven Seagal's 1988 classic action film Above the Law, Quentin Tarantino's homage to blaxploitation; Jackie Brown, and then re-defined herself on Showtime's ground breaking The L word. It is hard to find groundbreaking women like Pam in the saturated world of contemporary pop icons. The juxtaposition of her blaxploitation rolls during a critical decade for women and the civil rights movement make her a career a unique example of the fundamental changes in Hollywood for women and minorities.
Lover? Boyfriend? Par amour? Fiancé? Baby? Dependent? Consort? Sweetheart? Honey? Roommate? If he’s not your husband and you’re living together, he’s your…? You’re his…?
I was once blind but now I see. Could it really be THAT simple? I talk about “a light going off” all of the time when I teach yoga. That ahhhh - now I get it feeling. And now I get it. I like rules and dating rules of engagement should be no exception. What I have refused to do, be, or become one of those women who play games. But that’s the secret if you want to get married according to All the Rules by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. They don’t say to lie or be a bitch, you can be you, but you don’t have to give so much so fast. This makes sense. But this is not the epiphany moment for me. A man says he doesn’t like games or bitchy women and this can be perfectly true, but what he fails to tell you (of course he’s not going to make it easy on you, why would he?) is that he wants the chase, the challenge, to win YOU.
In 2005, the World Erotic Art Museum was introduced to Miami, Florida. WEAM, as it is referred to, is located in the heart of South Beach, the art deco district, where freedom of expression is all around you. The museum uses its vast collection of art and artists to illustrate the history of erotic art. This X-rated house of art is home to an over 4,000 piece collection dating back from the year 300 B.C. to present day.
More commentary on the accusations of women’s movement leaders that many men still see women almost exclusively as sex objects is part of the ongoing mission of the movement. In Tender Trap, Italian illustrator Marco Biassoni's cartoon series from the late 20th century, the artist calls attention to the wider implications of woman’s view of man’s view of woman.