Sex Tips: Your Partner's Needs

Gossiping among all forms of women, everyone hears the same complaint. "My husband doesn't do what I like," or "My wife insists we do something to spice up the bedroom," and the beat goes on. Men and women complain that they don't do enough to liven up the bedroom.

Whether it is based on being more sensual or listening to your partner's body in the bedroom, some basic tips can be shared and proven useful to find common ground or ways to spice things up before the hanky panky party arrives.

1. Foreplay should be 15 minutes or longer

Foreplay is one of the big things in which no couples do ever. Foreplay is what stimulates women the best when it comes to giving them that wonderful large orgasm at the end of every sexual encounter. It takes a good long time for any woman to get a satisfactory release in any intimate moments with her partner. But learning the tricks of the trade would also prove useful to find out what type of stimulating your partner enjoys.

Learn what type of foreplay or stimulation your partner enjoys by simply asking basic common questions. Do you like anal? Do you enjoy being eaten out and if so, how much time do you want your partner doing it? Does fingering get you pleasured? Learning the basic ropes and outline of your partner's body is super beneficial if they want to have a good time.

For women that are post-baby, sometimes things may not be as good feeling or a little more painful if your body is trying to return to normal. Going slow would be recommended since you literally shoved a giant football through your body and into the world. Waiting about two to three months might sound frustrating, but it takes two months for your uterus to return to normal after delivering a baby and your body needs a whole year to recover from the birth. Childbirth in itself is PTSD on your body, some women do experience PTSD via their mental state as well if they are not well-informed about the birth or methods. Yet, sex after children or delivery can still be pleasurable as long as you know your limits or you are working around a few kinks.

Foreplay is the best way possible for both partners to receive sexual satisfaction. Simple forms of touching can stimulate interest, sexual stimulation can help with prolonging desire or buildup so that way everything forms wonderful ripples in the afterglow. Plus your body builds up endorphins or pleasure hormones while performing foreplay or doing the actual deed.

2. Post-sex cuddles can provide good feedback

You see it in comic books and movies, the men are asleep after sex and the women are up and around. But sometimes it can be the opposite. You can talk with your partner to see what you would like repeated or changed the next time you guys have sex. You can give pointers or tips to your partner to say that you enjoy A, but you want more of B before you buildup to the most wonderful orgasm.

Sometimes you can also talk about the use of sex toys or scenarios in foreplay if you think the dull and boring use of making out and heavy petting seems tiresome. I'm old fashioned so I can't really make any suggestions or comments, just simply talking or saying that you enjoy certain activities more in the bedroom, depending on the type of woman, can mean a lot to a partner because then they know what to do for next time.

3. Spending as much alone time as possible

I changed to a new job where I work five days a week full time. My days off are during the week, but then again those days I don't share with my husband. Yet we come home at the same time every day or nearly the same time and we can enjoy each other's company then.

Spending alone time together is crucial for the relationship. I'm happy that I can be home at the same time as my husband and enjoy a cooked meal with him or go to bed at a reasonable hour. I previously worked a lot of night shifts in an old job and I was home often late, where he would stay up until eleven at night. I would never see him in the morning or I would never be able to have a wonderful morning meal with him. So it was pretty much the worst kind of job I could have, especially after I got married to a man I was dating for seven years.