Porn Is a Fantasy

I was watching some porn. Shocker, right? On Pornhub, there are those little ads on the side, and one of them was something regarding Ron Jeremy. I hit full screen so that I wouldn’t have to see his ugly mug. Then, I lost myself in a wonderful fantasy for some 30 odd minutes.

No, I wasn’t touching myself the entire time. Yes, I’m familiar with edging, a technique anyone can use to reach close to climax, relax, breath, and then get back to it. No, this article is not about my porn surfing. Just "hold tight" for a second...

Once I was done, I began to wonder about Ron Jeremy and all the pills his ad was claiming did whatever the hell they were supposed to do. I didn’t even know if he was still alive. I’ve never seen one of his movies. Figuring the pills were totally fake, since I understand that no pill can make a penis larger, I decided to Google Jeremy; I mean, like him or not, like porn or not, everyone knows the name Ron Jeremy, but does anyone know anything about him?

Purportedly, he starred in over 1,700 films. Supposedly, he performed with over 4,000 women. The common consensus was that he performed well, but good porn sex is not good real sex. Porn sex is a fantasy; that’s what this article is about.

First of all, porn, professional porn, is written, shot, and edited. Edited, people, so while anyone can learn to edge, the truth is that often times, porn actors stop performing for a moment, and then get back to the deed, so throes of passion that appear to go on for 30 minutes might have taken over an hour to shoot, and I promise you, that erection wilted once or twice.

Ever heard of a "fluffer?"

Now, that erection might have been pumped up with some pills in order to prolong it, but that dude humping away did not hump non-stop for thirty minutes. He and his partner(s) had a chance to pull away for a minute and start over. Sometimes, some scenes are shot from multiple angles, and when the transition occurs instantly, it seems like it’s all one session, and it might be, but one five minute session filmed on three cameras all spliced together can “cum” to 15 minutes of pleasure.

It’s a fantasy. Like any movie or show, porn is a fantasy that people watch in order to escape reality for a moment.

When you watch Game of Thrones, you’re pretending you’re there, right? You don’t really want to fight a White Walker, do you? When you watch Alien, you don’t really want to try surviving an alien attack in the dead of space, do you? You’d die; it’d be terrifying. It’s a fantasy.

I know some people get addicted to porn. Anything can become an addiction. Some people get addicted to fast food. Some people get addicted to exercise, and it can be just as detrimental to mental health and relationships. Hell, some people get addicted to binge watching shows on Netflix; it’s called binge watching for a reason.

I won’t stop saying it. Porn is a fantasy. There’s nothing wrong with it so long as everyone is a consenting adult and everyone takes precautions to prevent the spread of diseases.

Actors are paid. Performances are produced. Money is earned, and those involved can pour that money right back into the economy.

I’ll tell you what does surprise me, though, is that the sex toy industry doesn’t advertise in porn PR through porn sites, and I don’t think any sex toy company runs a porn studio. Take Liberator.com for instance. They manufacture sex furniture like swings, wedges, and chairs.

They’re owned by OneUp Innovations, who owns two other companies; Avanacomfort and Jaxx Beanbags. I’ve never seen a pop-under window or a click ad during a porn video featuring Liberator.com. No, instead you see ads like these.

These ads are nonsense. One time, I saw an ad for a sex doll site, and it turned out to be a scam. I wrote an article about that already, which you can read here.

I’m just really confused as to why companies like Edenfantasys.com or Jack and Jill don’t advertise on Pornhub, but I digress as I’m getting off topic.

At any rate, as porn has become ubiquitous, genres of porn have evolved from just two people banging or an orgy, to cosplay porn, hentai, bondage, BDSM, toon porn, SFM porn, naked treadmill walking, and only God knows what else. Unfortunately, its popularity has preceded it. The pharmaceutical industry has definitely capitalized on the fantasy; they use fear based marketing to trick consumers, mostly men, into believing that they can’t perform, their penises are too small, they don’t last long enough in bed, and with just one pill, they can suddenly conquer their sexual conquest.

Porn is a fantasy, and nothing will make up for a lack of personality, a lack of emotions, communication, or simple joie de vivre. I believe the porn industry wouldn’t have so bad a rap if sex toy shops advertised in place of big pharma; Hell, sometimes it isn’t big pharma, but sugar pills from China pharma. Sex toy shops could capitalize by selling porn viewers on marital aids meant for use with partners. Such a thing could bring people closer rather than pushing them apart.

I mean, let’s face it. Anyone born as little as 18 years ago has grown up watching actual people perform. They’ve been brought up thinking that porn is real, that it’s sex, and that they need pharmaceuticals in order to perform properly.

When I was growing up, I didn’t so much as see a Playboy magazine until I was 15. Up to that point, I had to find a Victoria’s Secret catalog and make do with sexy lingerie, and you know what? I don’t recall Playboy telling me my penis was too small, or that I had to last 45 minutes in order to satisfy a partner, or that real people always last that long, and that there must be something wrong with me, thus requiring medication.

The fantasy back then was imagining what I’d do with that person I was staring at. The fantasy today is already made up and produced, so we don’t have to engage our imagination. How is any 18-year-old supposed to know how to have a relationship when they grow up believing this new, ubiquitous fantasy? These are the same people who think that reality TV shows are real.

Reality is the genre, the production of the show. That’s why Sam Horrigan from Grace Under Fire was on Beauty and the Geek.

They were all actors. That show wasn’t real. Hell, Wheel of Fortune isn’t real; Ron Jeremy competed on that show in 1980 under the name Ron Hyatt and “won” a trip to Mazatlan. No one actually wins all those prizes. They just get paid for their performance because they’re all actors. It’s all a fantasy.

Porn is a fantasy, and there’s nothing wrong with that, but I feel like more people need to learn that a fantasy should just be a fantasy. Then, it’s time to go back to life. Work, meet people, hang with friends, communicate, try something new, and if you do meet a wonderful life partner… or partners, form a meaningful connection first. Then, get away from all that porn and learn about sex with that person. Finally, be sure to drop by NSFW 18+ where you can explore more adult themed articles and buy some wonderful products from trusted sites.

I’ll never try to sell you faux pharmaceuticals.

Thanks for reading, and don’t believe everything Wikipedia tells you about guys like Ron Jeremy being the greatest sexual partner; he was just a good actor, comedian, and voice actor. Don't believe all the crap you see on Pornhub either; porn is a fantasy, and so is everything else you see on TV.

All the world's a stage, baby, so nude up and give 'em a show!