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My Wife Is Not Affectionate To Me Anymore (My Wife Doesn't Touch Me Sexually Anymore)

Are you stuck in a marriage where you're saying my wife is not affectionate to me anymore, and you want to find a way to turn it around? If you're getting impatient with your wife's lack of affection, then it's time you learned what to do about it. This happens to a lot of marriages and frankly there's usually one main reason that causes you to be in a position where you're saying my wife doesn't touch me sexually anymore.

By Amora StevPublished 2 years ago 6 min read

There are certain things that all men seem to complain about once the honeymoon is over. Things like they don't get to go out as often, their weekends are spent tackling the to-do list their wife crafted or they have to spend every Sunday afternoon brunching with the in-laws. Obviously, these issues aren't life changing but they can tend to wear a bit on a couple's connection. Fortunately, most issues like that are easily solvable with a bit of tender cooperation and negotiation. What about when there are issues that threaten the very foundation of the marriage? One of those issues centers on affection. If a wife stops being affectionate is there anything a husband can do or is he destined to a life of physical distance and coldness from his spouse?

Actually a husband must do something as soon as possible if his wife is not affectionate anymore. Physical and emotional affection are instrumental components of a happy marriage. Without them the relationship becomes a shell of what it could be and the husband will begin to resent his wife and her need to withhold warmth from him. If you and your wife used to be the type of couple that held hands as you walked side-by-side or you stole kisses when you two were doing the dishes together, it's understandable why you'd miss not having that now. In many respects when a wife stops being affectionate it's a clear sign that she feels less close emotionally to her husband. Obviously ignoring something like that can only lead to many marital difficulties down the road.

There are several things that can prove very helpful if you want to reawaken your wife's connection to you. Begin by showing her more affection. At first you may feel somewhat awkward doing this primarily because you'll feel as though you're pushing yourself on your spouse. Try not to view it from that place. Instead, see it as a bit of an exercise in guidance. By demonstrating extra affection to your wife, she may start to feel more valued by you and also more cherished. If a woman feels these things, any emotional barrier that she may have put up will come crashing down. By kissing her when the opportunity presents itself, rubbing her shoulders more or just reaching for her hand when you two are watching television, you'll be showing her glimpses of what's in your heart. Once she senses that, she'll be more open to reciprocating those actions.

One of the measures of a strong and connected marriage is how open and honest the communication is between the partners. If you and your wife don't put in a strong effort to discuss your marriage that can certainly contribute to her not wanting to show you the level of affection she once did. Even though you both may lead incredibly full and busy lives, you must take the time to stay connected by communicating with one another. You should take the lead on this and invite your wife out for a nice dinner at a quiet and relaxing restaurant. Use this opportunity to discuss your marriage and anything that may be plaguing either of you. By initiating this, you'll be demonstrating to your wife how highly you value the marriage and her. It will certainly serve as a catalyst for more open dialogue between you two and it will also pave the way for the both of you to get back on the path to the rewarding closeness you've always wanted.

Striking Our In The Bedroom

Sports are one of man's greatest interests. Men battling it out on the football, baseball or soccer fields, team against team, vying for victory. And let's not forget the individual sports, like golf, tennis, biking, swimming, etc. There is so much excitement and action to capture our attention.

Not only are we interested in sports, we can talk about sports all day long. Who beat who, game and player stats, predicting future victors, and on and on. It is a major bonding element between men!

If only we put this much enthusiasm and effort into our marriages and wives, perhaps we would be scoring more points in the bedroom.

One of the biggest complaints of men is that they are not having enough sex with their wives. Yet do we put as much focus and attention towards our wives as we do about our other interests, like sports? From my experience, the answer is an almost unanimous NO. And I understand, as I looked for distractions when I was unhappily married too. We channel our sexual frustrations into other interests that give us release, like playing or watching sports. I personally became addicted to collecting music, playing tennis and working out at the gym as distractions from my marriage.

But what if we were to look at our marriage like a game? What if we took the mental energy that is applied toward analyzing and predicting sports outcomes and apply that strategic thinking and enthusiasm towards winning over our wives? I bet you would hit lots more home runs in bed!

Think about how you treated your wife when you were dating or newly married. You spent a lot more time and energy focused on your woman, didn't you? And you were getting a lot more love and sexual pleasure in return, correct?

But as soon as you stopped focusing your energies towards your wife, guess what, the sex and intimacy lessened. Do you think there is a correlation here between the amount of time spent courting your wife and winning in the bedroom? The more effort you put into the game, the more points you will score.

Instead of putting so much thought into sports and other distractions, start putting just 10% of your mental focus towards your wife. Start calling her during the day, leaving her love notes, bringing her flowers, surprising her with a dinner and movie... you get the idea.

You know how she will react? She will be shocked at first, but also thrilled. And when you keep making her a focus in your life, I bet that you will see a big change in her affections towards you too.

But it is up to you, the man, to set the strategy and run the plays. If you do, you will score more touchdowns with your wife.

And the more points you accumulate, the more sex you will have! And we all know that more sex usually equates to more happiness.

That is what we are shooting for here, more points and more fun.

So drop the remote and get your game on with your wife! You may not know as much trivia as the other guys, but you will be a lot happier!

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