Men want you to stop doing these 16 sexual turn-offs

Perhaps it's because guys express their sexual dissatisfaction more openly.

Perhaps it's because women have been told for generations that asking for what they want is something only "bad girls" do.

Even so, it's interesting to learn what upsets the other side when it comes to bedroom behavior.

Listen up, ladies: we encouraged males to be candid and share their sexual turn-offs. Now is the time to pay attention.

Men want you to stop doing these 16 sexual turn-offs.

1. You're curled up like a starfish.

My female friend jokingly referred to women who lie in bed as "starfish." Women who don't move in bed, according to the guys, are a nightmare to sleep with. So, if you're lying there like a petrified fossil, please strive to break free. Having sex with you isn't much fun.

2. You give a man a kiss with your lips pressed together.

Closed lips, church tongue, and a kiss on the cheek have their place, but what about the ladies whose lips refuse to part? According to the guys, it's terrible.

3. You open out about your personal drama.

When we grow super-comfortable with someone, a lot of ladies fall into this trap, but it's a big no, no, and no! While having sex, DO NOT go on about your daily duties, list the groceries you need, or describe the workplace catfight. Don't do it!

4. You quit using sexual language.

Talking sexily and then "breaking" to plan lunch for the next day and then "jumping back into character" is another surefire way to turn his member soft for the night.

5. You bring your pet to bed with you.

So, you and your partner are having a good time, and you're bonding in the midst of it all. With your animal companion. Fido has you oohing and ahhing. Tabby, for example. No! It's simply... strange.

6. You use a lot of force in your handjobs.

Please don't try to start a lawnmower by giving him a hand job. When you do it to him for the first time, ask him to show you how he likes it. You can get a feel of his preferences this way. Inquire as to whether he likes slow, hard, or rapid, as well as whether he wants his balls and perineum rubbed. Why shouldn't we, as women, expect males to do it right?

7. You anticipate only one-way pleasure.

Yes, we deserve to be treated like royalty in bed, but sex is something we share with another person. Share. Because we are sharing, the other side must also participate. It's one thing if you've both determined that this time the sex will be all for you. It's a different story if you're working on an S&M scenario and he's doing all the work like your little bitch. But don't expect to be served just because you're a lady.

8. During a blowjob, you utilize your teeth.

During oral intercourse, keep an eye on your teeth. You wouldn't want to be bitten in the vaginal area, would you?

9. You're giving him oral sex too quickly.

It's fine to move quickly during oral sex if the man requests it, but don't assume he wants you to be a mouth jackhammer. Inquire about his preferences. Change things up a bit. On his piece, go a little slower and more sensual. Again, it all depends on the individual.

10. You give him the hickeys.

Nibbling is fine, but hickeys are not for grown guys. Girls, this isn't middle school.

11. You're irritable.

To paraphrase one individual who put it far better than I could: "Patience is a virtue. Every woman is unique. What excites one of you to the point of numerous orgasms is uninteresting or disgusting to the other. Allow me to get to know your physique. I understand that not all men are intelligent and eager to listen, but if we are, please meet us halfway. I'm sorry if you dated a number of Neanderthals before coming across me."

12. You don't inquire about his interests.

Don't be afraid to inquire about his desires.

13. You don't have control over your self-assurance.

Have faith in yourself. Confident and seductive, with a strong backbone. "Perhaps your body isn't flawless," a wise man suggests. Most likely, I'm unconcerned. I mean, I don't give a damn. There's a reason I'm here. Relax and take it all in."

Don't say you're going to do something sexual if you don't intend to follow through. Teasing can be enjoyable if he understands that it is done to build anticipation, but it can also be cruel.

14. You lock your gaze on him.

One man expressed his displeasure with a lady who stared at him the entire time she was descending on him. But I'm sure there are some males that enjoy it. Ladies, assess him and ask: Will you dig it if I stare at you closely the entire time? Is it yes or no?

15. You're concerned that he's not orgasming.

Don't panic if a man doesn't orgasm soon away, and don't take it personally. It's possible that it has nothing to do with you and everything to do with what's going on in his head. "It could be due to the herbal supplement I use for optimal bedroom performance," one man speculates.

A-ha! You now know.

16. You are unconcerned with your appearance.

A smidgeon of lingerie. Just a smidgeon of foreplay. There's been a slight build-up of tension. This appeals to both men and women.

What is the moral of this story about being turned off? Ask your partner what he likes and doesn't like over and over again. Just have an open mind, and the sex will be far more enjoyable than either of you anticipated.