Let's Talk About Bondage

Bondage, also known as American bondage, refers to the use of certain constraints during intercourse to increase the pleasure of those involved. Bonding can be done with ropes, handcuffs, chains, tightly tied scarves, etc.

Some couples incorporate elements of bondage at some point in their sex lives after years of traditional sex.

Bonding requires the acceptance of both partners and most of the time, in the bedroom, it involves a gentle form. One of the partners can be tied, handcuffed, tight and most of the time, blindfolded, then he is sexually stimulated by the other through masturbation, oral sex, vibrator, or normal sex.

The satisfaction of the tied partner is most often indicated by shouts, attempts to break free, and whining. The free partner may offer sexual pleasure or maybe sexually aroused due to the dominant position, while the tied partner may be aroused by the helpless being, wholly in the possession of the other.

What is the attraction?

People are attracted to this type of play for several reasons. The fact that they are connected allows some to relax and enjoy the pleasure offered without having to offer pleasure to their partner at the same time.

Others prefer to struggle to untie themselves or pray to be untied, which, they say, gives them an incredible adrenaline rush. In addition, if they are blindfolded, all these sensations are amplified.

The person who initiates the bondage has an increasing personal power, but of course, he must not abuse this power but use it only for sexual purposes.

Does it hurt or not?

Most solid couples find bondage attractive and useful for their sex life because it involves a level of trust that is not found in normal relationships.

 This form of bondage has its niche on specialized sites, where images and movies show models linked voluntarily and who are in situations of intense sexual pleasure, due to a position in which they are dominated, without using the threat, forcing, or pain.

Bondage of this kind is very different from that with sadomasochistic influences, which can end without any sexual contact and can be combined with pain.

What do those around you think?

Many people consider bondage to be an erotic stimulant and a powerful stimulant because it occurs in many sexual scenarios and fantasies. Studies on men's fantasies have shown that the situation of being tied up during intercourse is the second most common situation after having sex with a voluptuous woman, completely naked.

The fantasies continue until the clothing of a certain kind. Typical clothes for the subject represent sexual passivity or innocence (for example, a nun, a schoolgirl, in the case of women, or a yoke and leather handcuffs for men).

At the same time, the dominant person chooses clothes that require extreme respect, control, and discipline (a Nazi officer, a police officer, or a prison administrator).

What is it used for?

For the practice of bondage, ropes made of various materials are used, being preferred for their flexibility. Other types of restrictions include chains and handcuffs. Gloves, pillows, and various bouncy tables are also used.

Safety

Most people who practice bondage consider it safe when it takes place between two partners who have known each other for a long time, being aware of the risks involved and the necessary precautions for everything to go perfectly.

Precisely because of this, partners involved in relationships that are already several years old, are much more open to this method of increasing sexual pleasure.

Here are some tips that deserve your attention if you want to try or have already tried bondage:

• use the word "safety", which, once spoken, shows that you are no longer feeling well and want to stop;
• avoid positions and procedures that, inadvertently, could lead to suffocation;
• make sure that the tied person can be easily released in case of an emergency;
• never leave a single person tied up;
• do not try to bond with a person you have recently met;
• say from the beginning what you like and what you don't and how far you can go with this practice;
• the rules of protected sex apply here too! Don't forget to use a condom!

Keep in mind that the bondage scenes in photos and movies are chosen especially for the visual impact and importance in fantasy. Often, these positions are dangerous or cannot be maintained for more than a few minutes, such as hanging by the hips, elbows, and knees.

These positions can only be practiced by very well-trained participants who are physically experienced and experienced in this type of practice.

 Ideas to try for the first time

Those who practice bondage for the first time can try:

• to tie each other, in exchange, using silk scarves, arousing each other;
• connects the passive partner with something that can be easily undone, so they can stay in that position only if they want;
• blindfold, kiss, and massage;
• use fluffy handcuffs, which are fine to the touch and do not close as hard as those made of hard materials.