How To Use A Butterfly Vibrator: Solo Adventures or Public Duets

Butterfly vibrators are imaginative and enjoyable sex toys designed to be worn, offering clitoral stimulation for solo pleasure or discreet enjoyment with a partner.

A butterfly vibrator is a clitoral stimulator that typically takes the form of—you guessed it—a butterfly!

Also referred to as a vibrating butterfly, this vibrator's distinctive design often includes clit-tickling antennae and wings that extend across your entire vulva, delivering pleasure that might just usher you into your personal metamorphosis.

A butterfly vibrator can be applied to erogenous zones such as:

• Clitoris
• Labia
• Vulva
• G-spot and anus (if equipped with an insertable shaft for penetration)
• Nipples or other erogenous zones (if its design or your creativity permits)

Butterfly vibrators often come in vibrant, spring-like colors—lots of pinks and purples—with diverse wing designs intended to tantalize your entire vulva in various ways.

They can also add a touch of spice to partner play—whether in private or out in public.

Understanding the Butterfly Vibrator

A butterfly vibrator, also known as a vibrating butterfly, generally refers to any sex toy that flutters and flits against your clit.

Even if it doesn't exactly resemble a butterfly.

Many well-known butterfly vibrators do mirror their namesake, featuring clit-stimulating antennae and wings that span across the vulva, providing teasing vibrations over its entire expanse.

This means some vibrating butterflies boast quite an impressive wingspan!

Staying true to the theme of Mother Nature, contemporary butterfly vibrators aren't always precisely shaped like butterflies.

I've even seen dolphins and flowers classified as "butterfly" vibrators, but they all share the same purpose—to flutter against your clitoris and spread across your vulva.

Butterfly vibrators can offer various features, including:

• A harness to secure it in place (in certain models that require this)
• Texturing for added stimulation
• Multiple settings for speed, pattern, and vibration
• Programmable settings for personalized speed, pattern, and vibration
• Pulsation syncing with music or ambient noise
• Remote or app control via smartphone or computer
• Dual stimulation through an insertable shaft (sometimes with separate speed, pattern, and vibration control for the shaft and clit stimulator)
• Robotic "come-hither" motion of the insertable G-spot shaft (in some models)
• Long-distance use (with internet-driven app control only)
• Waterproof capability
• Rechargeable functionality
• An intentionally "pretty" design that doesn't overtly resemble a sex toy

The initial vibrating butterfly came with straps around the waist and thighs to secure it against the vulva during use.

Modern variations on that original design exist today, with most butterflies serving as wearable vibrators.

However, many of the older harnessed butterfly vibes are made from porous sex toy materials like rubber, which we don't recommend.

Contemporary butterfly vibrators are crafted from silicone and contoured to snugly fit your vulva, ensuring direct clitoral stimulation—often without the need for a special harness.

Some butterfly vibrators even include insertable shafts for simultaneous G-spot stimulation.

Their designs are often aesthetically pleasing, and it's enjoyable to choose from a variety of colorful designs and shapes.

The noise level of a butterfly vibrator can vary depending on its materials—silicone vibes tend to be quieter—and whether it has an insertable shaft that is "muffled" during use inside the vagina.

Whether you prefer clit stimulation only or seek something that hits your G-spot, there's a butterfly vibrator ready to elevate your orgasms.

Using Your Butterfly Vibrator

The design of your butterfly vibrator will guide you on how to use it—just ensure it's charged before getting started.

In terms of versatility, butterfly vibrators may extend beyond the vulva to other erogenous zones, depending on their design.

For example, an insertable shaft on a butterfly can be fantastic at teasing nipples, inner thighs, or even a penis or testicles.

When using clit-only butterfly vibrators on other erogenous zones, you might need to get a bit creative due to their curvature, but if it vibrates strongly, you can likely explore any erogenous zone with your butterfly!

Using a butterfly vibrator is straightforward:

• The wings spread across your labia
• The head or antennae fit over (or around) your clitoris
• If there is a shaft, it slides into the vagina (lube is a good idea)
• If there are straps, they go around your waist or thighs—simply adjust them to fit

Now you're ready to take off!

It's advisable to familiarize yourself with the buttons or controls beforehand, cycling through speeds, patterns, or intensities to understand what it can do before turning it on.

Lube isn't necessarily a must for clit-only butterflies, but it can enhance the experience. For vibrating butterflies with an insertable shaft, lube is likely more comfortable—water-based is generally best, especially for silicone or if you're unsure of the material.

Can a butterfly vibrator be worn all day?

If it fits well and is comfortable, you can wear your vibrating butterfly all day. It doesn't mean you need to have it turned ON constantly, but if you're into sporadic pleasure, there's no reason why you can't walk around wearing it all day, as long as it's entirely comfortable.

Keep in mind that a butterfly with an insertable shaft that remains inside the vagina may not be comfortable for all-day wear.

So, how long can you wear a butterfly vibrator? As long as it remains comfortable. If you feel any discomfort or pain, it's time to stop wearing it.

Hygiene is crucial, so ensure the toy is kept clean to avoid any risk of toxic shock syndrome (TSS), caused by staphylococcus aureus bacteria.

Using a Butterfly Vibrator for Masturbation

If you're aiming for some fluttery, hands-free self-pleasure, opt for a butterfly vibrator with straps or a shaft to keep it securely in place.

The method of using a vibrating butterfly for solo pleasure will mostly depend on the specific model.

Most butterfly vibes are crafted to snugly fit against your clitoris, with the wings spread across the vulva.

If your butterfly strap-on vibrator has a harness made from non-stretchy material, it's best to adjust it while in the position you intend to be in during use—whether standing, lying down, or bending with your legs spread.

Some harnesses, like those made of silicone or rubber, may have a bit of elasticity, but not all of them do.

Nylon butterfly harnesses may provide minimal "give," which can pose a challenge when changing positions—you'll likely need to readjust the harness as you go.

If there's a shaft for G-spot stimulation, as seen in a butterfly dildo vibrator, it's advisable to insert that first—with a touch of toy-safe lube—before placing the wings and clit stimulator into position.

At this stage, it should feel comfortable—if not, make adjustments as needed.

It's essential to recognize that dual-stimulation butterfly vibrators may require bending or adjusting the shaft and/or clit stimulator to fit your anatomy, so a bit of experimentation may be necessary.

Additionally, as mentioned earlier, not all butterfly vibrators resemble butterflies—and these often require handheld use during the experience.

How Can Couples Use Butterfly Vibrators?

A butterfly vibrator can bring a lot of enjoyment to couples.

Vibrating butterflies with remote or app control offer the flexibility for partner involvement during intimate moments at home, allowing one partner to control the other's pleasure.

For example, if you're enjoying a bath and your butterfly is waterproof, your partner can manage the device from another room entirely.

They also serve as a fantastic tool for mutual masturbation, with both partners pleasuring themselves in full view of each other or using a remote control butterfly vibrator for partner-assisted masturbation.

If a butterfly vibrator is discreet and quiet enough, it can even add excitement to date night while you're out on the town together!

However, caution is advised when using a vibrator in public—some places may view this activity as a form of public indecency, potentially leading to legal trouble.

Using a Butterfly Vibrator During Intercourse

Butterfly vibrators are highly versatile and can be used in almost any sexual position, especially those offering clit-only stimulation.

Ensure it stays in place with a harness or keep a free hand available to prevent any unexpected movement.

When incorporating this type of vibrator during intercourse, it's recommended to skip the G-spot shaft to allow vaginal penetration from your partner. However, if you're interested in double penetration, a butterfly vibe can be an exciting option.

Wearing a dual-stimulation butterfly vibrator can enhance pleasure during anal sex, providing enjoyment anally, vaginally, and clitorally simultaneously.

For oral sex, a butterfly clit vibrator might be obstructive due to its design covering the clitoris and vulva fully. Nevertheless, experimentation may lead to innovative ways to use your butterfly during cunnilingus!

Using Lube with a Butterfly Vibrator

Lube is like the icing on the cake, even for butterfly vibrators.

Even if they're not always used for insertion, a bit of lube ensures smooth gliding over your skin, especially when used against the clitoris.

Water-based lubricant, similar to your body's natural lubrication, works well for sex toys of any material, making it a safe choice if you're uncertain about your sex toy's material.

Remember to consult your butterfly vibrator's instructions and specifications if considering silicone or oil-based lubricants to ensure compatibility with the toy's material.

Using a Butterfly Vibrator Internally

Yes, you can use a butterfly vibrator internally if it has a shaft for G-spot or vaginal stimulation.

Not all butterflies have this feature. Those designed solely for clit stimulation won't be suitable for insertion due to their wingspan and design.

Vibrating butterflies with a shaft can be inserted and may even be suitable for anal penetration, provided they have wings to prevent getting lost inside.

When using a butterfly vibrator internally, ensure thorough cleaning before using it elsewhere, especially in the vagina.

Are Butterfly Vibrators Safe?

Indeed, butterfly vibrators are safe.

As long as they're made from body-safe materials—silicone or ABS plastic, for example—they are entirely safe.

For all sex toys, including butterfly vibrators, it's advisable to avoid materials like jelly rubber, rubber, thermoplastic rubber, and elastomer (TPE/TPR) blends, as well as other porous materials.

Additionally, a butterfly vibrator won't desensitize your clitoris. Long-term vibrator use may cause temporary desensitization, but a break is usually enough to resolve the issue.

In Conclusion

If you're into clitoral stimulation with added labial sensations, a butterfly vibrator might be just what you need!

They're creative, fun, and often adorable to look at. Many even provide G-spot stimulation to enhance your pleasure.

If you're looking to add some color to your sex life and try something new, a butterfly vibrator could be the perfect choice.