How to make maximum of love?

First of all, people who have sex often love each other more than people who don't. In a study of 13,000 people, 16% of the respondents said that they have not had sex for at least a month, and they are less happy than others. But you must have thought about it, smart, this result can also be seen in reverse. This is because they don't love each other, they don't make love often.

The more you do, the more you love each other?

Can making love heat up feelings?

This article reviews recent research on sexual psychology, trying to answer two questions:

　　i. Do you really love each other more as you do?

　　ii. What can I do to make each other happy?

　　 First of all, people who have sex often love each other more than people who don't. In a study of 13,000 people, 16% of the respondents said that they have not had sex for at least a month, and they are less happy than others.

But you must have thought about it, smart, this result can also be seen in reverse. This is because they don't love each other, they don't make love often.

Use of Sex Objects and Porn Food

Some people are so much fond of sex that they always need it at every point of time. They see every object form sex point of view. Even in food they want sex, this is the reason why vulgar cakes are getting popular day by day. These are mostly in the shape of male anatomy which we may call a penis cake. This is called dirty mind when we see or want to see everything fro the perspective of sex.

In direct human interactions the following hold true:

I. Doing and talking, the more you do, the more you love

　　Why do sex have these effects? Psychologist Byers conducted an 18-month longitudinal study and found that sexual satisfaction is related to relationship satisfaction, but mainly because:

　　i. Making love provides opportunities for communication.

　　ii. Novel physical activity can increase satisfaction.

　　 In other words, the real effect of making love does not come from the "communication" itself (is that clear?), but the words you say during the "communication".

People who are willing to think about their partners, adjust their "exercise frequency", posture and habits during sex, have higher sexual communal strength, and will be happier with each other, especially for those who have low physical intimacy. This is said to be more effective.

For example, a study by Babin and Elizabeth pointed out that people who say "Oye! It's here!" and "A little bit to the left, oops out" ( it seems to be funny), have better sexual satisfaction than nothing. The speaker is higher.

　　 When I write here, I think of my friend Piao Nini. She always complains that her boyfriend loves AV actresses more than she loves her. She would rather watch Yui Hatano take off her clothes than spend the night with her.

One day she finally plucked up the courage to ask her boyfriend: "Which is she sexier than me?", her boyfriend replied weakly and said: "Vini will always say some strange things while making love...", I listened to poof Laugh!

II. Cannons work after a noise? Three kinds of sexual personality back to back.

　　 Don’t underestimate these funny conversations. Sometimes making love is a “tense” thing. Some conversations are needed to relieve the embarrassment of the atmosphere.

Although most people in love and sex are "safe people" who like themselves and have confidence in relationships (about 60%), there are still people who worry about their performance when making love, and even because they are too anxious.

Their performance and fear of being rejected, but ignoring the needs of the other half, most of these hyperactivation are insecure adherents, emotional fluctuations, fast and frequent sex, and try to rely on sex (or invest time Money) to attract the other half.

There is another kind of people, called deactivation (I’m sorry, I can’t think of a better translation). They don’t get pleasure during sex. They may have been hurt before, or they are afraid of being hurt again in the future. Deny pleasant feelings in the subconscious.

　　 Russell, a psychologist who has studied sex for many years, found that although sex may not necessarily resolve disputes, it may have a protective effect on some people.

For example, emotionally unstable people usually have lower sexual satisfaction, but if they often have sex, their satisfaction is no different from ordinary people.

So, after a fight, will you be reconciled? Intimacy scholar Dylan Selterman pointed out in the article that although disputes can increase sexual excitement, and after a fight can promote intimacy, it is not for those "insensitive" effect.

　　 It’s better than nothing

　　 However, it is better to say that it is better than nothing before it can be confirmed which kind of person he is.

Amy Muise, a scholar who has studied sex for many years, participated in a workshop called Good For Her many years ago, and learned quite useful skills to share with everyone:

"Before you start, tell him what he did well (for example, he is good), and where I want him to change a little bit (for example, slower), there may be a different experience!"

If you are really blushing and can’t speak on the bed, then at least in peacetime, you can express your needs with him, such as "The next time we do it, it will be light!", "If it drips on your stomach, take toilet paper and wipe it on me". Or, even just a sentence "brain for others to want" (it has become a comedy film as of this writing), expressive is always better than suffocating.

III. Secrets of kissing and making love

In Amy Muise's own research, he also discovered the "spoon effect" (After-Sex Affection, she jokingly called Spooning because it looks like two spoons placed in a cupboard).

In her experiment, 335 participants (197 of them were girls) spent an average of 15 minutes hugging, expressing love, and chatting after sex. The longer they talked, the higher their relationship satisfaction. In the study, two special results were also made:

　　1. The chat after love is even more important than the "fore play" that everyone cares about.

　　2. Chat after love is particularly important for girls. Although on the whole it is better to have a chat than no chat, but boys are less effective.

While girls who do not share their feelings are much less satisfied than those who do.

Maybe you would say: "Fart! Maybe people who love each other prefer to chat after sex!"

　　 Amy Muise also thought of this, so he did a follow-up study on 101 couples, and found that the "change" of emotional expression (chat after love) can predict relationship satisfaction after three months.

To put it simply, although it is possible that people who love each other "originally" prefer to chat after sex, even if this factor is taken into account, "chat" itself is still related to better relationship quality (no way, after all, it is difficult to use rigorous The experimental method catches two passers-by for sex).

　　 Of course, if your need for sex is not that high, kissing can have a similar effect. The research of Floyd et al. found that the increase in kissing frequency can predict the stress index and satisfaction after six weeks. The more close people are happier and the less stress.

　　Well, if you really don’t know what to say, at least you can say “Beibi, I love you” after you’re done. Research has found that both men and women regard "I love you after love" very important.

IV. Orgasm first?

1 Simple actions to enhance sexual feelings

Is Orgasm supreme?

Finally, some people think that the most important thing about love is orgasm. The question is, how to achieve an orgasm?

Benjamin Le, an intimate relationship researcher, reviewed orgasms and put forward several different points of view:

1. The Technical Perspective: As the saying goes, "practice makes perfect", there is only one way to sexual happiness, that is, practice more!

2. The Partner-Specific Perspective: I can figure out that this translator doesn’t know whether to cry or laugh. This view points out that the more you understand your partner, the more you know how to “turn her on”. on), so it is important to have a fixed partner.

Simple actions to enhance sexual feelings

　　1. The Committed and Affectionate Relationship Perspective: In fact, what matters is not the skills and the objects, but the intimacy and commitment between you and this person.

Orgasms often occur when women and their partners have a high degree of safety and connection, so a stable relationship is also very important.

In fact, in the most recent sexual act, if the partner is a stable partner (with more than six months of relationship), 67% of women have orgasm.

If the partner is a hook-up who has fun together more than 4 times, only 34% remain, and if you only do it 2 or 3 times with the other party, the orgasm rate is only 16%. If it is the first time, the orgasm rate is only about one-tenth.

All in all, too often, we always attribute the satisfaction of making love to skill, foreplay and posture, but ignore the "stable relationship", "repeated practice" and "chat after love".

The best way to climax (well, you can stop blushing and breathless as you write here), so if you want to have sex with him (her), please remember the following six-word maxim: practice often, chat more.