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How to Choose Your First Penetrative Toy

by Teela Hudak 2 years ago in sex toys

Vibrator or Dildo?

So you're thinking of buying your first vibrator or dildo... how exciting! Sex toys can be great fun, and a way to really enhance your sexual pleasure. They can be used just by yourself, or you can add some extra fun by using it with your partner. There is a wide variety to choose from, and you have some decisions to make.

So what kinds of things should you consider when picking out a good toy? And how do you know you will get the right one? What if you make the wrong choice? The good news is that you can buy as many sex toys as you want! You don't have to limit yourself to just one. It can also be advantageous to collect a few that provide different sensations or stimulate different areas. It may seem overwhelming, but don't worry, we will take this one step at a time.

Vibrator or Dildo? Which Is Better?

One of the first choices you need to make is whether you want a vibrator or a dildo. A lot of people may wonder which is better, and the answer to that is extremely personal. Some people prefer dildos, while others swear by vibrators. It will depend on you, your preferences, and the level of sensitivity in your genital area. If you are extremely sensitive, the vibration may feel too intense. If you are not as sensitive, the dildo may not have enough stimulation for you. You should make a choice based on what you think you will like best.

Another thing that makes a difference in this choice is the type of sexual activities you intend to use it for. Do you plan to use it specifically on your own? Or do you plan to use it with your partner, and incorporate it into your sexy fun? Will this toy be used only for vaginal penetration? Anal penetration? The type should match the type of activity you have in mind for it. It's important to note that some toys are better to use on their own, while others are better suited to vaginal sex over anal sex. When looking at a particular toy, check out some online reviews. You should be able to find some written or possibly video reviews for the toy. Online descriptions can also help guide you to recommended types of activities for the toy.

Picking the Right Material

There are lots of different toys on the market for sale, but unfortunately, that doesn't mean that all of them are safe! Choosing a toy that is made of or coated in a body-safe substance is crucial. This toy is going inside you (or your lover), it's important that it will not leave any toxic residue or have a porous surface that will breed bacteria. So what can you use?

Generally, anything that is considered a food-safe material can function as a material for a sex toy. That is, of course, if it can be suitably molded into a toy. It's common for most sex toys to be made of silicone, latex, or a blend of the two. These toys are the first recommendation as they tend to stand the test of time fairly well. Silicone toys, in particular, can have a softer feel that is more pleasant for people.

There are some other popular options as well such as glass or a properly sealed ceramic. If you have a silicone or latex allergy, glass or ceramic dildos can be a good solution. These also provide the possibility of being slightly warmed or chilled for different sensations. You need to be careful of course not to warm or chill these dildos too much. Aside from the potential burns on sensitive skin, overheating, or chilling can cause weak spots that can cause the toy to break over time.

With the emergence of 3D printers, we have seen a rise in plastic toys. These are NOT recommended unless you cover the toy with a condom. The plastic is far too porous to be used on its own, and will become a breeding ground for bacteria that can cause some serious infections.

Should You Worry About the Bells & Whistles?

Sex toys have come a really long way. They have more features, settings, and options than ever before. But are all these bells and whistles worth it? And which ones should you really consider?

One feature that would be recommended is to choose a toy that has a rechargeable battery. A well-made toy with one will have a longer life. Toys that use replaceable batteries can go through them quickly. You also run the risk of battery corrosion. If the toy isn't used for a while, and has the batteries left in, battery acid can leak and ruin your toy. It can be worth it to spend just a bit more on a toy with a rechargeable battery.

Another thing to consider is any extra features. Some toys, like the rabbit vibrator, come with a piece on the front to stimulate the clitoris during penetration. A wide variety of styles and shapes are available on different toys. This can be a fun little addition that adds a lot of intensity to the experience. These types of toys can be SUPER fun, but are meant only for vaginal use. So this leads us back to how you intend to use your new toy.

Explore & Have Fun with Toys!

Choosing your first toy can be super exciting! Don't be afraid to have fun with it! There are a lot of toys to choose from, and you don't have to stop at just one. The important part is knowing what you like, what you don't like, and what you want to use the toy for. Sometimes that's best learned by just going for it and experimenting, and sometimes you can determine that by checking out some resources and reviews online. Do what works for you!

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Teela Hudak
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