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How men get to the XXL climax

You know all about climaxes? But not all orgasms are the same. The most important facts about the peak of pleasure that are guaranteed to make your love life better.

By OmaraPublished 2 years ago 9 min read
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Every man comes differently. How would you describe your orgasm? Like a rocket launch, like the first sip of coffee after a night of drinking, like squeezing a tube of toothpaste rolled up to the point of bursting? Or like the biggest pyro show the world has ever seen?

And what if you now learn that this intoxicating feeling can be enhanced? Here come answers to the most pressing questions about the male orgasm.

What happens in the body during an orgasm?

Basically, pleasure can be divided into 4 stages: Arousal phase, plateau phase, orgasm phase and recovery phase. We have the US American researchers William Masters and Virginia Johnson, known from the TV series “Masters of Sex”, to thank for this knowledge. The two were the first to observe a couple making love in the 1960s — out of purely scientific interest, of course — and their findings are still valid today.

In the first two phases, the body releases more sex hormones such as testosterone, pulse and blood pressure rise, and the muscles tense. The blood flow to the erectile tissue in the penis triggers the erection.

But it’s not just the genitals that are in a state of excitement — the brain and spinal cord are also partying: neurotransmitters such as dopamine and oxytocin create a veritable emotional canyon, and fear and pain are blocked out. The orgasm itself is expressed in rhythmic, reflex-like muscle contractions that last between 3 and 12 seconds on average. A healthy man ejaculates about 3 to 5 milliliters of ejaculate during orgasm, which contains an average of 300 million sperm.

Is an orgasm healthy?

Yes, orgasm reduces stress and strengthens the immune system. Apparently, after a sexual climax, the body releases more cells that kill off foreign attackers. Scientists at the Swiss Federal Institute of Technology in Zurich found twice as many killer cells in the blood of test subjects after ejaculation as in their blood before climax. This makes sense, since after a sexual act the body has to deal with a whole bunch of germs foreign to the body, namely those of the woman.

How many orgasms does a man have in a lifetime?

According to statistics, an average active man has 8,000 to 14,000 orgasms in his lifetime and ejaculates a total of 30 to 50 liters of sperm — as much as fits in a barrel of pub beer. The fact that men like to doze off after sex is, by the way, hormonal: After orgasm, prolactin is released, a neurotransmitter that provides a satisfying feeling and intimate connection with the partner — but also makes you tired.

For many men, by the way, there is a kind of orgasm guarantee during sex. According to a survey, 8 out of 10 men almost always come during the act of love. In addition, 68% of German men are satisfied with the intensity of their sexual climax. This puts them above the international average of 60%, the condom manufacturer Durex found in a worldwide study. And: The more frequently a man has sex, the more satisfied he is. Daily sexual intercourse makes 83% of Germans happy.

Can a man have multiple orgasms?

Interestingly, for some men, it’s far from over after the first shot, because a multiple orgasm is not reserved for the female sex alone. However, only about 1% of German men regularly experience multiple orgasms. Should you belong to the remaining 99% — no problem! There are many tricks to delay orgasm.

Pelvic floor training is the magic word. Train your PC muscle (lat. Musculus pubococcygeus). This is the muscle that contracts when you interrupt the stream during urination. Another option is the so-called “start-stop technique”: just before you ejaculate, you stop the stimulation. Usually, the urge to ejaculate decreases again after about a minute. The aim is to recognize the critical point of no return in good time and consistently postpone it further — first when masturbating. If you have the climax under control yourself, the partner:in lends a hand. If the delay tactic also works in pairs, you’re ready to go.

Premature ejaculation — what to do?

Drugs or numbing creams are often unnecessary to prevent premature orgasm, because the problem is not necessarily physical. “The causes of premature ejaculation are usually at the psychological level: anxiety, stress and pressure to perform, but also partnership problems can be to blame,” says sex counselor and book author Michael Hanel.

But genes also play a role: French researchers were able to prove that premature ejaculation can be the result of a disorder in the nervous system and a malfunction of the hormone serotonin. According to the scientists led by François Giuliano, this messenger substance plays an important role in the biochemical reaction chain during male orgasm. In about 30% of all men who suffer from premature ejaculation, genes are to blame, as a Finnish study of identical twins proved. At the same time, the study shows that other causes play a role in addition to genetic predisposition. These include above all psychological factors, but also chronic diseases such as diabetes and multiple sclerosis. Age, on the other hand, is rather insignificant, according to the scientists.

According to estimates, a total of around 30% of all men suffer from premature orgasms. “It shouldn’t have to be this way,” says andrologist Frank-Michael Köhn of the Professional Association of German Internists (BDI), since effective treatment options are available for non-hereditary premature ejaculation, such as classic sexual medical therapy or even medication. However, too few men still dare to raise the problem with their doctor, says the expert.

What helps with orgasm problems in men?

About 8% of all men struggle with orgasm difficulties according to their own statements: Delayed or absent sexual climax is often related to the aging process, especially in circumcised men. According to a study by Ghent University, the loss of sensitivity of the glans associated with circumcision may be the cause of a lack of male orgasm. However, psychosomatic disorders, anxiety, prostatitis or taking medications such as Viagra or antidepressants can also reduce a man’s ability to orgasm. Only a doctor can find out the exact cause.

What is a dry orgasm?

But not always, if the ejaculate is missing, the orgasm is completely absent: Some men experience a dry orgasm, for example, if no semen has been produced or if it has flowed back into the urinary bladder. Possible causes of dry ejaculation are changes in the nervous system or inhibited closure of the urinary bladder sphincter. This is where a doctor can help: Particularly in the case of an existing desire to have children, those affected should think about therapy, which can take the form of medication or electrical stimulation.

Do men also fake orgasms?

One in four men has faked climax at some point, according to a U.S. study. According to the study, the most common reason is the desire to end sex without hurting the partner, according to researchers at the University of Kansas, who published their study in the Journal of Sex Research. Another finding: orgasm fibbers tend to be more sexually experienced than their honest peers.

Most often, men bluff when an orgasm seems unlikely to them in the given situation and they therefore want to end the act. The scientists believe that the culprit is usually a kind of script in the head about how sex should proceed and when the right time for orgasm is. The result: stress and pressure to perform. In order not to disappoint the partner, the climax is then faked.

How can I improve my orgasm?

Planning, anticipation and a dash of unpredictability are the essential ingredients for XXL orgasms. You should say goodbye to set rituals. “Sex has become a headache in many cases today,” warns Dr. Rainer Hartwich of the Repotence Center at the Heinrich Mann Clinic in Bad Liebenstein.

“The predictable is an absolute lust killer that has no place in bed. In addition, many men put themselves under pressure, screw their expectations too high. They are so busy satisfying their partner that their own lust falls by the wayside.” When climbing the peak of pleasure, it’s best to go slowly. “The longer the moment is delayed, the stronger the arousal,” says book author Dr. Frank Sommer. “In addition, the genital glands are stimulated more. The ejaculation volume increases, and with it the feeling when coming.” Here’s how to orgasm deluxe.

Can I increase orgasm by masturbating?

True sexperts know themselves and their bodies inside out: Masturbation makes it possible! Taking a hand in masturbation is not a sign of sexual distress, but an intelligent way to train for lovemaking. And when it comes to masturbation, the same applies: No routine, please! Vary the game with yourself and take your time. If you can hold out longer than 15 minutes until you reach orgasm, you will overcome a magical barrier and be rewarded with a firework of pleasure. For example, stimulate your penis manually for 10 minutes. Once you feel like you’re going to come, take a break and wait for the pressure to subside. Repeat the game with a lubricant, because the slippery pleasure intensifies the feeling.

Also observe in everyday life what stimulates you sexually and transfer this to masturbating: It tingles in the crotch, although no hands are involved and everything is only in the head? Great! Try this again in a quiet moment until you climax. Mental stimulation takes time, but gives you completely new impressions. It’s like sports: every minute of training pays off!

How do you climax together?

Prepared like this, you can start making love with your partner. Small aids such as lubricant, sex toys or a cock ring worn around the penis and scrotum bring additional fun. “The cock ring reduces blood flow, thus ensuring a plumper erection and more intense feelings, especially in the glans,”

Now you know exactly how you can prepare yourself alone or together with your partner:in pleasure. But also the female orgasm is not a book with seven seals! Seduce your partner, kiss her and give you both a slow and intense foreplay.

Conclusion: Your orgasm can do more

Maybe your orgasm already feels pretty great. But it can be even better! How? By paying more attention to your best piece. Instead of the quick number, go for slow and refined stimulation. Delay the orgasm, do pelvic floor training and vary the stimulation during masturbation. Then you can expect a more intense and longer orgasm — compared to this, every pyro show looks like a tired sparkler.

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