How Long Does Sexual Intercourse Really Last (And How Long Do We Think It Lasts)?

When was the most memorable and incredible sex you've ever had, do you prefer it in the morning, in the afternoon after a nap or at night to release tension, and above all, how long did that special occasion last?

Maybe it's something that obsesses you a little, because we all want to last in bed and also be a 10. That everyone gives us outstanding and tell other people about it, to become living legends. But... wait a minute, how long does it really have to last?

Most people have misconceptions about what real sex is. One of the causes of this blindness is porn, which has led men in particular to believe that intercourse must last forever, that women love anal sex, or that they want to be beaten and tied up. Many women like it, but not all of them, just as it is not true that most of them reach orgasm only with vaginal sex.

Porn has created misconceptions in the minds of many people, who think that it has to last forever and... Of course, when it comes down to it, they are somewhat frustrated to find that their sexual fantasy has little to do with reality.

Psychologist have revealed the discrepancy between how long people want sex to last and how long they actually do it.

Ripe for the picking

"What's normal, am I getting enough?" are some of the questions that run through our minds and scare us.

The truth is that you don't really have to think of anything as normal, another study collected data from several heterosexual couples and found a wide variety. From as little as 33 seconds (oops) to as long as 44 minutes (OMG!), proving that there really is no "normal" amount of duration, but what does specialists say about all this?

From 33 seconds to 44 minutes, any length of time is normal, although the average is at eight minutes. In the study 152 heterosexual couples were questioned and the study revealed that intercourse lasts about eight minutes on average, while foreplay lasts about 12 minutes. A total of 20 minutes.

However, how long relationships last has little to do with what people expect from them, as we said at the beginning, as the study also noted that most people want them to last longer. These findings raise an important question about whether increasing the amount of time spent having sex would actually make people happier.

Are people simply saying that they think sex should last longer because they have been led to believe (blame pornography and the media for this) that sex has to last a long time?

Because, really, does quantity or quality matter more? There may be sex sessions that seem to last forever and in reality we have only been having sex for fifteen minutes.

But too much brevity doesn't lead to anything good either. According to Alfred Kinsey, one of the pioneers of human sexual research, in one of his most important studies in 1948, 75% of American men had an orgasm within two minutes of intercourse. The time may have increased because men are adapting to be better partners.

Quality trumps quantity, no question. Focus, the bottom line is making sure you're having good sex rather than how long you're lasting. Also, obsessing about it won't lead to anything good.

Although if increasing your duration is a mutual goal, then just.... carry it out!.

And, if you want to know what you need to do to last longer in bed, just follow our tips. From thinking about not-so-pleasant things to stop, have a glass of water and breathe, or just keep kissing and cuddling.

Or if not, the lifelong technique of making a fist. This is training and putting it on, like everything else in life. And, above all, don't believe what others tell you... for sure they always round up.