FIVE REASONS WHY AS A WOMAN:

FIVE REASONS WHY AS A WOMAN: You Should Try Massaging Your Man’s Prostate

To begin, we are going to talk a bit about the prostate. Most people out there are familiar with what the prostate is and its function, so if you are one of those people, please feel free to skip ahead to Reason #1. If, however you are reading this saying, “What the hell is a prostate, and why would a straight man want anything up his butt”. Please continue reading….

What is the prostate?

The prostate gland is a small male reproductive organ about the size of a ping pong ball. It is located within the pelvis between the bladder and the penis and surrounds the urethra. The prostate performs several functions involved in the reproduction process which include: producing prostatic fluid (which is the fluid that mixes with sperm cells to create semen), regulating the closing of the urethra during ejaculation, and converting testosterone into dihydrotestosterone or (DHT), which is an important hormone for developing secondary male sex characteristics such as facial hair.

How to locate the prostate.

As mentioned in the previous paragraph, the prostate is located between the bladder and the penis, within the pelvis. To locate it, insert your finger into the rectum about 2 inches and press with the pad of your finger against the outer wall of his groin/stomach (that is towards his penis). Again, a healthy prostate is about the size of a ping pong ball. You will feel a slightly raised lump which is usually smooth and soft.

Reason #1: IT FEELS FANTASTIC

Lets just get the obvious one out of the way first shall we? The first reason that you should be massaging your man’s prostate is that it feels incredible for him. The prostate gland is full of nerve ending, much like a woman’s clitoris (although not quite as sensitive). Stimulation of these nerves produces intense physical pleasure, so much so that it is entirely possible for a male to achieve a mind-blowing orgasm through stimulation of the prostate alone, and with NO external stimulation of the penis. Orgasms achieved through prostate stimulation are often reported to be two, three or even four times more powerful and pleasurable than a regular male orgasm achieved through stimulation of the penis.

Reason #2: EMOTOINAL CONNECTION

The emotional effect/connection it will have on your relationship. Many or most straight men would not like to admit to feeling pleasure from any form of anal stimulation out of nowhere to you. Truth be told though, most of them have probably done a little bit of experimenting themselves and found it to be quite exhilarating. It can be embarrassing for a man to ask you to perform a prostate massage on him, because he may feel that you will think he is less masculine. The truth of the matter is that this is a pleasure center for him, the male G-spot if you will, and his desire to feel increased pleasure is the most natural thing in the world. Isn’t that what we all want when it comes to sex or anything else? Here is the other thing, most men are not going to get out-freaked, out-kinked, by their female partners. Men are likely to have fantasies they wont ever share with you, just as you might have a few you do not want to share with them (more on that in another article). He will more than likely be excited and aroused by you wanting to try something new and give him something he has possibly never had before from another partner. Additionally, a finger in his ass is not going to shift the power dynamic in the bedroom to much, as he will not feel dominated by you, but it will open up a trust and a bond that may not have previously existed. You are not strapping on a giant rubber penis, throwing his legs over his head, and taking him to pound town. That is not what we are talking about here. You are inserting your small, delicate, feminine finger inside of him, probably while his cock is in your mouth or in your hand. After he experiences the most intoxicating orgasm of his life, you and he will likely share something special that he may not have previously shared with anyone else, ever.

Reason #3: BOOST OF CONFIDENCE

Believe it or not, the third reason you should try fingering your man’s prostate is because it may just give him an amazing boost of confidence in the bedroom. How you ask? Well, orgasms achieved through prostate stimulation are not only incredibly pleasurable, but they are also incredibly POWERFUL. Every guy wants to produce massive loads when he ejaculates and depending on your preference and where it’s ending up at, you may or may not want the same. A prostate orgasm can dramatically increase the intensity and force of his orgasm and the amount of ejaculate. He will be impressed with himself and with you, when he sees the amount of cum he is able to “give” you. This in turn could invigorate him in future performances. So really, you are giving a gift to yourself as well.

Reason #4: IT CAN BE THERAPUTIC

Aside from any orgasm being, in a sense, therapeutic, as they feel great and can help to reduce tension and stress, prostate massage can offer a myriad of different therapeutic benefits well above and beyond what any normal orgasm can provide. A prostate massage just a few times a month can juristically improve men’s ability to ejaculate over time, it can help reduce pelvic pain and tension caused by a build up of stress, improve overall sexual performance, help reduce swelling of an enlarged prostate, improve urine flow, and even begin to have a reverse effect on erectile disfunction!

Reason #5: HEALTH/ IT COULD LITERALLY SAVE HIS LIFE

Do you check yourself for lumps in the shower? If you do not, you should be. Similarly, there are 3 common conditions in men that could be caught early and treated effectively by a semi regular prostate check. He is not going to do that though (well, maybe he isn’t). Prostatitis is an enlargement of the prostate that can be caused by bacterial infection, and if caught can be treated with antibiotics. Prostatitis is the most common prostate condition found in males under the age of 50 and effects between 10% and 15% of all men in the united states. Enlargement of the prostate is the most common condition in men over 50 years old in the united states, and if untreated, over time can greatly inhibit or even totally remove the ability to urinate. There are multiple ways to shrink an enlarged prostate (one of which, you guessed it, is regular prostate massage). And finally, the big one, prostate cancer. Again, you should be checking yourself for lumps, and just the same, so should he. Prostate cancer is the number two most common form of cancer in males and effects more than 10% of men in the United States at some point in their life. If you are giving your husband, boyfriend, significant other, partner, etc.… somewhat regular prostate massages, even just a few a year, you stand a good chance of detecting an issue that might have otherwise gone undetected and untreated. You could literally save his life by fingering him the next time you give him head.

SAFETY

Any time, for both male and females, you are inserting anything into any orifice of the body, you need to make sure that object or body part is clean. This can be particularly important with anal sex or any form of anal play, as there is potentially bacteria which may cause infection present in the rectum if introduced to tears in the rectal lining, open sores or wounds, or general contact with other bodily fluids. Engage at your own risk in any type of aggressive anal sex as aggressive stimulation could cause tears or perforations in the rectal lining. Be smart. Before you engage in any activity you don’t have prior experience with, always do your research and find out what is safe and what isn’t.

How to approach this topic with your partner?

There will shortly be another article on introducing new fetishes/kinks/fantasies into the bedroom with your partner. In the meantime, I wanted to reiterate this: Your partner is NOT going to freak out on you for wanting to try something new (if they do, you should probably re-evaluate that relationship and/or seek couples counseling). On the contrary, he will more than likely be thrilled that you are being a little naughty and forward and want to do this for him. I promise you, while there may be slight discomfort in the very beginning if he has never had anything similar, he will be hoping for more after the first time. Simply tell him what you would like to try, or if you are in a very comfortable relationship, you may just go for it. Start by simply placing the tip of your finger on his rectum and gently rubbing while you stroke him or give him head, and then slowly and gently insert the very tip of your index finger. You will naturally know where to go from there based on his acceptance or rejection through the tightening of the sphincter muscles in the anus. It will be natural for him to tense at first, so don’t give up the moment you can’t press any further. Just hold what you got and continue as he loosens up and becomes more use to the ne sensation.

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Best of luck and lots of love,

C.H. Hammersmark