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9 Ways to Transform Your Love Life Today

by Happy Life Official 2 months ago in relationships
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The keys to having the relationship you've always wanted are right under your nose if you know where to look.

Transform your love life today with these 9 easy ways to improve your relationship, from communication and compromise to taking advantage of opportunities to do something new and different together.

Use these ideas, and your relationship will be better than ever!

1) Become honest with yourself

Honesty is often easier said than done, but it's one of the most important ways to transform your love life.

Honesty with yourself can also be difficult because you might need to take a hard look at aspects of your personality that you may not like.

Once you're honest with yourself, though, there's no better way for you and your partner(s) to build trust in each other.

Being honest about all aspects of your life—from what turns you on to what annoys you—makes it easier for your partner(s) and yourself to work together as a team, rather than against each other.

2) Own it when you make a mistake

If you're genuinely trying your best, the chances are good that you will fail.

It's important to own up when we make mistakes instead of trying to pretend they never happened.

By blaming others or using excuses, we miss out on valuable opportunities for learning and growth.

Of course, owning up can be challenging — especially if you have a lot at stake! But it helps that most people don't expect perfection; they want someone open and honest about their mistakes.

And if there is one thing true leaders know how to do well, it's taking responsibility for their actions.

It doesn't mean giving up on what matters — it means moving forward by examining your mistakes, so you don't repeat them in the future.

3) Listen more than you talk

If you're in a conversation with someone and they only ever talk about themselves, they probably don't care much about you.

If that's not a deal-breaker, listen more than you talk.

People love talking about themselves, but it's rarely dull because everyone has a story.

So if you want to be interesting and find out what makes someone tick, get them talking about themselves.

And if you're truly paying attention—and not looking for your turn to speak—you'll notice how much their eyes light up when they find out that they've finally found someone who wants to hear what they have to say.

4) Learn to forgive and forget

Holding on to anger is like drinking poison and expecting your enemy to die.

Forgiving can be difficult, but it's a necessary part of life.

It isn't always easy, but being angry is no way to live – especially if you want a healthy love life.

Next time you find yourself holding a grudge or nursing resentment toward someone you once loved, take some time and consider how healthy that behavior is for you.

Do they deserve your anger?

Is it worth it? If not, let go of your anger and learn how to forgive.

You might even find yourself at peace with what happened in your past – and that feeling could inspire better things in your future.

5) Focus on her

There are times when it's easy to get wrapped up in our problems and forget that there's someone else involved.

So often, men can fall into selfish habits of trying to dominate every aspect of a relationship—be it social or sexual.

But a healthy love life relies on compromise and understanding.

To transform your love life, make an effort to focus more on her needs and desires and your own.

Consider how you might incorporate some of her suggestions or ask for feedback along the way; women typically pick up on vibes that guys don't, so knowing what makes her feel good will only make your bond stronger.

After all, the happier she is, the happier you'll be too!

6) Let go of guilt

At some point in our lives, we've all done something wrong.

And if we're honest with ourselves, we feel a twinge of guilt when it comes up in conversation or memory.

But it shouldn't be there—it shouldn't linger.

Please get rid of that guilt once and for all by acknowledging it and then letting go of it forever.

Write down your regret on a piece of paper and get rid of it in a manner that speaks to you.

By getting rid of your past regrets, you can start looking forward with optimism instead of bogged down by your past actions.

And who knows?

Maybe once you get rid of one guilt, they will come easier and faster than ever before!

7) Give her space, then close the gap

If you're having trouble reconnecting with your partner, spend a few days apart from each other.

It sounds like an unlikely solution, but it works—and not just for couples in long-term relationships.

Even newlyweds can use some time away from each other to remember why they fell in love in the first place and get used to being independent again.

And although many of us don't have enough free time, remember that one of these days is going to turn into two and then three... and so on.

You'll have established new hobbies, goals, and interests while also building more trust between yourselves the next thing you know.

8) Ask questions, don't make statements

A little honest conversation can go a long way.

Start by genuinely asking your partner what they love about you, how you can be a better partner, and what specific things you could do to make life easier.

This approach shows them that you're open to constructive criticism, and using their feedback will only strengthen your relationship in time.

Make it easy for them to speak up – no matter how angry or upset they are about something, stop talking (no matter how much you want to defend yourself) and encourage them to say what's on their mind first instead of getting upset by their words.

Once they've said everything important to them, begin sharing your side of things.

9) Tell her she looks beautiful at least once a day

No rule says you can only tell her she looks beautiful once a day.

Saying it every time you pass her in the hallway or see her looking at herself in a reflection will help remind her how beautiful she is.

If she truly feels like she's not beautiful, hearing it repeatedly will help change those negative thoughts into positive ones.

Even if telling her she looks gorgeous makes her uncomfortable, it doesn't matter; remember that love puts someone else's needs before your own.

So, if she gets embarrassed when you say it, don't stop—do it more often. It will make her feel special and loved.

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Happy Life Official

I write about relationships, health, happiness, and much more to ease your life routine.

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