8 sex advice for cowgirl positions

The cowgirl position is a genuine crowd-pleaser when it comes to between-the-sheets activity. Some women enjoy the authority and control that comes with being in charge, while others are terrified (or even fatigued) by the prospect.

We invited Annabelle Knight, a sex and relationship expert for the sexual wellness brand Lovehoney, and Eleanor McKenzie, editor and sex expert for the adult romance website, app, and magazine LVH, to walk us through the cowgirl sex position and give us some advice on how to be creative:

Your step-by-step instructions

According to McKenzie, the cowgirl position is an easy-to-perform, woman-on-top position. Despite the fact that this article refers to sex between a woman or a person with a vagina and a man or a person with a penis, the maneuver is not gender-exclusive.

'It's not just for straight couples; same-sex couples may also enjoy it,' she argues. 'All that is required in the event of two women is a strap-on'. Here's how McKenzie outlines how to get the job:

• Straddle their hips and situate yourself over their penis or strap-on with the penetrating spouse lying on their back.

• With one hand, glide down onto their penis or strap-on. Applying some lubrication to it beforehand will make it much more pleasurable.

• The key to this posture is to lean forward over them rather than sit upright on top of them, which allows you to support yourself with your hands, either on their hips or on each side of him.

• You may swivel your hips like a dancer, bounce or grind on them, and control the depth and rhythm of your thrusts when you're in this posture.

What are the advantages of working as a cowgirl?

The lady in the cowgirl position has entire control over the rhythm, tempo, and depth of penetration. 'You may go as leisurely or as fast as you want,' Knight explains.

The key to this posture is to lean forward over them rather than sit upright on top of them, which allows you to support yourself with your hands, either on their hips or on each side of them.

You may swivel your hips like a dancer, bounce or grind on them, and control the depth and rhythm of your thrusts when you're in this posture.

What are the advantages of working as a cowgirl?

The lady in the cowgirl position has entire control over the rhythm, tempo, and depth of penetration. 'You may go as leisurely or as fast as you want,' Knight explains.

'Getting the angle correct is the key to a comfortable cowgirl,' explains Knight. 'Rather than sitting straight up at a 90-degree angle, bend forward slightly to achieve a 45-degree angle.' This is the simplest and most comfortable way to penetrate. Vertical penetration is frequently the most painful.'

Also, don't skimp on the lubrication. 'A good water-based lubricant can be purchased for as little as £5 per bottle and is an essential aid to all sex positions, regardless of age,' Knight writes. 'The wetter you are, the more enjoyable sex is for both of you.' Lubrication improves sex and has no bearing on your natural lubrication.'

What if the hole isn't deep enough?

Adjusting the angle of your hips is the simplest approach to achieve the desired depth. 'Move into a more upright position when you want extremely deep penetration,' McKenzie advises. Alternatively, you might try spreading your knees wider.

Knight also recommends having your partner lay their hands on your hips for more leverage and to maximize the force of the grind. 'Raise the penetration speed and depth until there is no obvious pattern,' she advises. 'Rather of just going up and down, try gyrating back and forth or in circles.'

8 sex advice for cowgirl positions

Whether you're searching for a little additional excitement or some extra assistance, these expert-approved sex techniques have you covered.

1. Take a breather.

Take a break if the position is straining your thigh muscles. 'Take a break when your muscles grow tired and lie back, resting your arms behind you, perhaps on your partner's legs, and take a few deep breaths before getting back into the movement,' McKenzie advises.

2. Encourage them to sit up straight.

Alternatively, you could request that your companion take a seat. 'There's no law that says the penetrating partner needs to stay on their back the entire time,' Knight explains. 'They can sit up so you can face each other and grasp onto your back for further support.'

3. Keep your legs tucked in.

Adjust the position of your legs for added comfort and support. 'You can also get some extra support by tucking your legs under your partner's,' McKenzie advises.

4. Change up the beat

According to McKenzie, one approach to add extra excitement is to vary the speed and depth of entry.

5. Make use of your hands

'Don't forget to play with his balls, grasp the base of his penis, and tweak his nipples with your hands,' McKenzie says. 'Learn to ask them what they want and need, and encourage them to tell you instead of guessing.'

6. Bring in a sex toy

According to Knight, the cowgirl position is ideal for incorporating a sex toy. 'A simple item like a bullet vibrator can provide additional clitoral stimulation,' she adds. 'Keep in mind that two-thirds of women find it difficult to climax through intercourse alone, so this added stimulation is essential if the receiver is to orgasm.

7....Or, perhaps, some gentle constraints

McKenzie recommends removing power from your spouse by putting his hands above his head or binding him with cuffs or a tie and commanding him not to move.

'Adding a blindfold is also entertaining,' she adds.

8. Reverse the action

'Alternatively, try a'reverse' cowgirl,' McKenzie suggests, in which you assume the position but face his feet instead. 'It's a chance to show off your ass in action,' says the narrator.