5 Types of Potential Daddies Who Aren’t Worth Your Time

Sugaring is like many things in that it comes with a bit of a learning curve. Novice sugar babies who haven’t been doing it long often think that if they’ve seen one sugar daddy, they’ve seen them all, and nothing could be further from the truth. While there are a lot of daddies out there who are well worth knowing, there are also quite a few who will only waste your time.

That said, it really pays to know how to spot a potential timewaster before he has a chance to cramp your dating style. Here are some common types to keep your eyes peeled for.

1. The Cheapskate

While money isn’t necessarily everything when it comes to a great sugar relationship, financial security and generosity are still key characteristics a sugar baby should look for in a potential daddy. And most daddies are incredibly generous men who love to spoil their ladies and use their resources to show a date a good time.

But you still might occasionally meet daddies who are frugal to a fault, meaning they clearly don’t want to spend much money on their dates. In some cases, this might be a sign that you’re dealing with a salt daddy who isn’t as well-off as he wants you to think he is. But it can also mean you’re dealing with a Scrooge type who’s super stingy, as a rule. Beware.

2. The Bread-Crumber

Anyone who’s been on their share of traditional dates recently is probably familiar with breadcrumbing. A bread-crumber can seem like a perfect match in the beginning. He says all the right things pretty much out of the gate. Things quickly progress toward a meet-up and possibly even multiple dates. Then he mysteriously reels things way back without an explanation.

In any other instance, you’d simply figure that person decided they weren’t feeling it or realized they had a deeper connection with another prospect. But a bread-crumber never completely disappears. Instead, he gives you just enough of his time and attention to keep you interested, but nothing beyond that. You deserve better than that.

3. The Ghoster

Like it or not, ghosting is pretty much par for the course in today’s dating world, even in the sugar bowl. The very nature of online- and app-based dating means most people are talking to a variety of different people at any given time. They’re naturally not going to hit it off with everyone, and it’s not uncommon for someone to just ghost when they realize that’s the case.

That said, any sugar baby could eventually find herself dealing with a ghoster – someone with whom you thought you had a good connection who suddenly cuts off all contact with zero warning or explanation. If it happens to you, it’s best to just move on. Don’t push the issue, thinking you can keep that connection open somehow. It’s not worth it.

4. The Haunter

A haunter is pretty much exactly what it sounds like – a dating prospect who ghosted you previously only to pop back up out of the void when you least expect it. And like a standard ghost, he tends to do this without any sort of explanation or apology for his previous behavior. All you know is you’d forgotten all about the guy only to see his name mysteriously pop back up in your notifications for what feels like no reason.

While it’s always possible someone really did just think better of a previous decision to ghost, they’ll approach you with an apology and an explanation if that’s the case. A haunter, on the other hand, will simply act like nothing happened and expect to be welcomed back with open arms anyway. Don’t play that game.

5. The Narcissist

Granted, most sugar daddies are confident guys. They’re successful, affluent, datable, and charming. They know it, too, and that level of confidence is likely to come through when you talk or meet up in person. But it’s important to realize that someone can be super confident, a little vain, or even a little arrogant without being a narcissist.

We’re talking about the type of potential sugar daddy who thinks, acts, and speaks in such a way that it’s clear he thinks he’s many, many levels above other people. Guys like this talk and care solely about themselves. They’re often rude to others. Nothing is ever a “we” type of situation or conversation, either, and you can trust that that will be the case if you ever enter into an arrangement with the person. Save yourself the hassle, and scratch him off your list.

Ultimately, every sugar baby should know she has the right to pass on any potential sugar daddy whose demeanor or dating style rubs her the wrong way. The above examples are common in the sugar bowl, but this is by no means an exhaustive list.