5 Things Your Lover Is Most Likely to Want in Bed

Some people are naturals when it comes to debating sex and have no qualms in asking for what they want. For many people, though, it's a lot more complex than that. Not everyone knows exactly what they want to try, and those who do may be embarrassed or ashamed of their desires for various reasons.

Yes, being more comfortable talking freely about sex is beneficial to all. But there's something to be said about being the one to encourage a lover to test their limits. The following are some different items that many people want to try in their bedroom but don't know how to ask for. Try taking one or more of them up as a suggestion and see how it goes. It's likely that you'll be pleasantly surprised.

1. Let's Have a Little Dirty Talk

Dirty talk isn't something that everybody desires, but the majority of people would like to try it out. Many people, however, are uncomfortable simply going for it, and they are unsure how to ask for it from a partner who may or may not be interested.

Dirty talk is better done gradually, so you don't have to be overtly raunchy right away because that's what you want. Begin by explaining what you want your partner to do to you and clearly asking for it. Tell them how rewarding it is when they obey. They'll most likely reciprocate and join in.

2. To Observe You Having Fun

Everyone is conscious that the majority of other people masturbate. They're probably assuming their partner does as well, and they'd love to see that happen. They're curious about how they love their bodies, but they're also conscious that it's a really personal experience. They are concerned that if they are asked to put on a presentation, their partner will be uncomfortable.

If you flirtatiously plan to lend yourself a hand when you're in bed together, you're unlikely to hear many complaints. Begin by putting on a show for them, allowing them to watch you lose yourself in your emotions. Continue to enlist their support and involvement.

3. An Oral Awakening

If your partner is a sucker for great head, chances are they've fantasised about waking up to some quality oral in progress as well. They may or may not know how to request your indulgence.

If you find yourself awake and in the mood for some action, give it a shot in the morning or in the middle of the night. When they wake up with a smile on their face that they can't take off for the rest of the day, you know you've hit all the right notes. You can always ask them how they feel about it if you're not sure if this is something they'd like.

4. Enjoy Some Naughty Sex

Naturally, you don't want to get prosecuted for being lewd in public, so use caution while implementing this advice. However, many people fantasise about getting down and dirty in public or in some other risqué place. It's likely that your partner is one of them, so it's worth looking into it.

Of course, getting your naughty kicks without taking a huge risk is entirely possible. Having sex in the back yard or on the patio after dark, when you're unlikely to be seen, gives you a buzz thus putting you at a lower risk. Having sex in your childhood bedroom while visiting your mates, getting frisky in the car, and so on are all examples of this.

5. To Play With Adult Toys

Many people love the idea of expanding their sexual horizon with adult toys and accessories but are afraid to bring the topic up with a partner. Whether it's putting a little light bondage on for size with a pair of handcuffs or playing with a vibrator together, many people love the idea of expanding their sexual horizon with adult toys and accessories but are afraid to bring it up with a partner. They are concerned that their loved one will feel inadequate on their own or that they will see them as odd.

People are more at ease with adult toys than they have ever been, so toy play is a common pastime. Toys can also add a lot of fun to the table, so they're worth looking at together. Inquire about your partner's thoughts about using your vibrator together or playing with toys in general. If they're up for it, you can even go shopping together for something special that you're both excited to use.

Of course, these are only a few of the many desires your partner might be harbouring but is too afraid to express. When in doubt, put up ideas like these for discussion and see how your partner responds. You might both be happy you did.

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