10 Things Women Wish Men Knew About Sex

While it seems like men are constantly ready to get it on, some women can take a bit more coaxing. This has lead to much speculation that women are impossible to please and don't know what they want in bed. But it's really not that complicated! Maybe we aren't all into the exact same things, but if you ask, we generally will gladly tell you what works for us. So if you're looking for the key to a great sex life at the basest level, here are some of the key things women wish more men knew about sex.

1. We don't constantly want sex, and it takes us time to get turned on. Foreplay is king.

This isn't to say we can't get in the mood when you're raring and ready to go. But it isn't necessarily instantaneous. And even when we are horny as all hell, sometimes our bodies need some coaxing. It's safer to assume we need some warming up and have her tell you she's ready than vice versa. Give her a little foreplay. This doesn't mean we expect you to go on for hours before the main event. Just ease into it a bit, and feel free to ask her to reciprocate.

2. Sex isn't over when you have an orgasm.

Not much elaboration needed here. Even if you're not the type of guy who can be instantly ready for round 2, most of the time we'd greatly appreciate you sealing the deal in one way or another before calling it a night.

3. That being said, sometimes, “getting there” is more trouble than it’s worth.

Listen to her if she tells you she’s ready to stop. Sometimes an orgasm is purely physical and all it takes is for you to hit the right spot. And sometimes it's not that simple. If we're stressed out, or too tired, or any number of mental components, sometimes it's more difficult. And the kicker here is then the stress of not being able to come fast enough makes it that much harder. So always give it the old college try - no woman will ever begrudge you that. But if she says let's stop and cuddle, respect it please.

4. We don't all like the same things. Ask!

Again, pretty self explanatory. Don't just assume that because your ex liked one thing, your next relationship will enjoy it, too. And that goes the other way. That thing you enjoy that she told you never to do again? Maybe this girlfriend will love it. The key is communication. Tell her what you like, ask her what she likes, and have some mind-blowing orgasms with the middle ground.

5. An orgasm through penetration isn't the be all and end all of enjoyment.

This bounces off of #2 somewhat. There are plenty of ways to get a woman off, and they don't always have to involve penetration. So feel free to utilize other methods if you come first, but also mix it up from time to time. Variety is the spice of life. Always keep her guessing what's coming next.

6. Having a shaved vagina is more uncomfortable than you might think.

Now, #4 applies to this of course. Some women love it. Others can't deal with it. Others are fine with it for special occasions. Ask her what she likes and don't pressure her to shave if she's not ok with it, or more often than she's comfortable with.

7. Women can get extremely sensitive to a point that feels more excruciating than good, so be gentle. If we tell you to stop, there’s probably a reason.

This goes back to #3, and beyond. If you want to go a 2nd round and we're hesitant, this may be why. It may also be why we tell you we want to stop before coming. Maybe something you're doing is uncomfortable instead of pleasurable. Whatever the reason, please respect it if she tells you to stop.

8. We don't always want sex to last for hours.

Partially because of #7, partially because even if we don't get sensitive we just get sore, and partially because sometimes it causes more stress than it's worth - if we have too much to do it can be distracting to be having sex for so long and knowing we're neglecting other duties. Don't make her uncomfortable to talk to you about this - make sure she knows if she wants to wrap it up, she can tell you.

9. You’re not going to break us. Sometimes rough sex is just what we want.

That being said, Ask before you do anything crazy. Facials? Butt sex? Deep throating? Please ask loudly and clearly before attempting anything that's questionable. But if she says she likes it, don't be afraid to act on it.