Life of the five laws of love, very accurate!

Some people say that the world is a circle, life is a circle, life is a circle.

In fact, so is love.

Round and round, come and go, around meet, love, miss, meet again a few words.

When love and time hand over, it will be found that each age of love, with that age, unique sorrow and characteristics.

18, 24, 30......

To sum up, in fact, they have their own laws of love.

01.

Age 18 -- Murphy's Law

Murphy's Law: If you worry about something happening, it's more likely to happen.

What does love look like at 18?

In my opinion, it is a bit like a few white clouds floating in the endless blue sky.

Simple, pure, beautiful.

But often, the more beautiful things, the easier to dissipate; The easier we get something, the more we fear losing it. Just as Jiu Yehui wrote in "Time of the Year", the more afraid of losing, the easier it is to lose.

The same goes for Chen Xun and Fang Hui in the film.

One is the sun handsome popular male god, one is literary quiet girl next door.

Two people in the beginning of love at the age of meeting, know each other, love, but they miss each other.

This is both a blessing and a misfortune.

Fortunately, they met each other at the best age; Unfortunately, they met early and life was too long.

So, young they, will worry about the future can love each other as always, will worry about each other can go to grey.

One comment on Faye Wong's "Fleet of Time" reads:

"In May 2015, when the college entrance examination was approaching, HE and I visited Scurry year together and asked him if we would rush that year. He swore that he would not. In 2015, WHEN I failed in the college entrance examination and chose to repeat it, he went to Sichuan University and met him five times a year in different places. I don't know what happened. After the college entrance examination in 2016, we broke up in Sichuan University on June 18. I cried all night outside. The last one went north and we never saw him again."

A never see, for the youth of the encounter, grand and warm love, draw a full stop.

Looking back, once beloved lover, has become a traveler; Once feared loss, become a reality.

So I finally found out:

The original 18 - year - old love, is a story about missing.

02.

Age 24 -- The uncertainty principle

Uncertainty principle: everyone is an independent individual, there is uncertainty.

Twenty-four years old, not big, but also not big.

Always meet so one or two people, in the bottom of my heart left a profound imprint.

Also saw the story of others, writing acacia, guard, betrayal, escape......

At this age, we are no longer full of expectations for love, not like the age of 18, the most pure and sincere love, to someone.

Because, we have all been loved, deeply hurt.

One girl left a message backstage saying, "It's hard to believe in love after you've been hurt."

Yes, injured people, in the face of love, together with the full of loneliness, also turned into careful.

After all, good things in this world are unstable, and the human mind is fickle.

Everyone is an independent individual, with his own thoughts, emotions and life, and these, there are uncertainties.

In Women in Love, Ren Jia Xuan talks to her family about the past, she says: "I actually still believe in love, it still exists, but whether I believe it can happen to me, it's another thing."

Once we all thought that love has a name, called forever.

Later just know, the alias of love, call hard to predict.

We can not predict, side of the people, when will be separated;

We don't know if we can trust love;

We don't know if love will ever happen to us.

At the age of 24, we suddenly understand shi Tiesheng's words: "Love is the proof of loneliness".

24 years of love, it is lonely proof.

03.

Age 30 - The right time is the right time

The law of fit: Put the right people in the right place.

"The eldest is getting old and should get married."

This is one of the most common phrases we hear in our 30s.

"Don't wait for him, he won't come."

This is what we, 30 years old, say to ourselves over and over again.

So, at the age of 30, we finally chose to compromise with reality.

On Zhihu, under the topic of whether we should settle for marriage when we reach our age, someone said:

"He's not as qualified as my predecessor, but he's just right for me; I can't love my ex as much as I love him, and neither can he. In fact, it is not a matter of compromise, but a matter of compromise. When we reach our age, when we no longer meet someone we like, it is good to choose someone who is suitable in all aspects, because gradually we will find that two people who keep pace with each other will go the long way."

Indeed, two people with the same rhythm and pace go far.

I guess that's why, at 30, a lot of people settle.

After all, at this age, we really can't take our youth again, to wait for a person we have never met, and really can't afford to spend energy to accompany a relationship stability.

I remember a friend who, at the age of 29, ended a six-year relationship and married a girl he had been dating for six months.

I asked him, "Why this girl?"

He said, because she suits me.

Suitable for two words, is to six years of relationship, the biggest irony; Can be suitable, it is reality, forced him to make the helpless choice.

Read such a sentence: "Some people, suitable for a lifetime, some people, suitable for miss life."

Accompany the rest of your life, not necessarily you like enough;

Worthy of remembrance, may not be able to accompany you to the old.

That's the reality, the lesson we all learn at 30.

04.

Age 36 -- Fischer's Law

Fechner's Law: When you get used to something, your attitude changes.

They say marriage has a seven-year itch.

This itch is called habit.

Habit is a very terrible thing, when you get used to a person, passion will dissipate, the feeling will be flat, and love, but want to get more.

As Song Dandan said:

"All you wanted was a hug, then a kiss, then you find out you need a bed, an apartment, and a certificate...... When you get divorced, you realize all you wanted was a hug."

Originally, you think that this person's eyes and eyebrows are clear, he gave you a flower every day, you can be excited all day; Later, you notice that his eyebrows are ordinary, and the flowers he gives you every day are nothing new.

Once you feel that every day with him is full of vitality, and then you realize that the repeated days are like the early morning chirping of cicadas, noisy and boring.

At the age of 36, you are tired and bored with the pressure of your life and the boredom and conflict of your marriage.

So habit, you use another word for it, and that word is "old husband and wife."

"Why watch movies when you are an old married couple?"

"An old married couple, why show affection";

"If you're an old married couple, why do you care?"

"......"

The old husband and wife pattern is the biggest relationship killer between you and him.

There was a study published in the American journal Of Psychology:

"The real reason why marriages are on the rocks is not conflict between couples, as was widely believed, but the dullness and dullness of relationships as marriages fall flat."

After the flat feelings, also began to become dull and boring.

Powerless, is 36 years old you, the most profound feeling.

05.

Age 42 -- Newton's Third law

Newton's third law: force action is mutual, and happen at the same time, love and hate the same, so the cause, so the effect.

Some people say: there are two kinds of marriage, one is called partner, one is called the rest of his life.

In my opinion, there is another state of marriage: the initial intention is the rest of your life, the daily partnership.

Obviously two people running for the rest of their lives, turned out to be roommates.

This is a situation that many people have never thought of, but have to face.

There is a short film in Taiwan called Strangers at the Table about this.

The main characters are a couple who have been married for many years.

They live under the same roof, but each other has become the most familiar strangers, they used to talk about nothing, now talk, in addition to the daily necessary communication, only the perfunctory.

One is busy with work, the other is busy with life, they are husband and wife on the surface, but secretly they are just roommates. At age 42, the marriage I had hoped for turned into a widower-type marriage.

A lot of people wonder, why is this, is he changed, or I changed?

In fact, they all changed.

When a relationship goes wrong, either party is to blame.

When we feel that the other person has changed, become no longer considerate, no longer warm, become indifferent, selfish, perhaps, then we have changed.

May become less contented, more powerful, and more vulnerable......

As the hour hand spins, everything is changing, including you at 42, and love at 42.

We have no desire for love, just for the day, can be flat, just for him, can live in peace.

And this is already the biggest luxury in life.

Zhu Shenghao said:

"About one person, a poet in his youth, a novelist in his middle age, and an essayist in his old age."

This sentence describes a person's understanding of love, equally appropriate.

When we are young, love is a poem.

Such as the rising of the sun, such as the moon, such as sugar run in the mouth.

When you are young, love is a novel.

The background is sad, and the process, some sweet, also some bitter.

Later, love is a collection of essays.

In the long days, there are small things everywhere.

And we are the writers with the pen and ink.

Love at every age is a challenge to us.

It is up to us whether to throw out a party or to hide a letter.