With 15 days left in the college entrance examination, a mother's handwritten letter went viral: please be sure to say these four words to your child (with anxiety test method).

With 15 days left in the college entrance examination, a mother's handwritten letter became popular.

Dear child, as the day of the college entrance examination approaches, your mother can feel your anxiety growing with each passing day. In recent days, there has been less and less smile on your face, and you are a little flustered when you see the exercises you have done wrong. Worried about making mistakes in the exam, you do exercises and recite lessons over and over again, and you still don't want to sleep until late at night.

Seeing you like this, my mother is not only worried about you, but also proud of your persistence and seriousness. Today, you told your mother that you woke up from the dream of the college entrance examination again last night.

At this moment, looking at the figure of you writing hard at your desk, I decided to write a letter to you. I want to tell you what my mother said. I hope it can bring you strength and grow up with you.

In the face of anxiety in the college entrance examination, everyone will have

Son, you ask your mother why you are anxious in the face of the college entrance examination. Is it because you are too fragile?

Mom wants to tell you that many people worry about gains and losses and have anxiety in front of things that are important to them, including their mothers. It's normal, not your fault.

The college entrance examination is the first major event you have encountered in 18 years. You have studied hard for 12 years for this day. Especially after entering high school, preparing for the college entrance examination has become a very important thing for you.

When you were promoted to the third year of high school, you gave up your favorite painting, and your mother still remembers the moment when you packed up your painting tools. Although there are all kinds of reluctance, but the eyes are firm, you said that the temporary difference is to pick it up on a bigger stage.

Usually, the more we give, the more we expect to get out of it. What's more, there are a lot of comments about "one exam will be determined for life" around you. Under such circumstances, you feel anxious, but you still try your best to learn, and your mother sincerely admires you. I'm sure you can pass the college entrance examination safely by yourself.

Child, the mother also wants to tell you that many times, we all misunderstand anxiety and think that anxiety is the enemy of psychology. In fact, you don't have to be afraid of it, let alone get into more trouble about it.

Like other emotions, it is a normal psychological expression. Even, anxiety, as the brain's defense mechanism, goes to great lengths to detect potential dangers around us. During the hunting period, our ancestors relied on it again and again to avoid deadly pursuit.

Moderate anxiety is a powerful weapon, and we should make good use of it.

What you are particularly worried about may not happen.

Son, I still remember when you were in junior high school, your mother took you to college to play. The university is picturesque, with grass like Bess and flowers blooming.

The boys and girls in the campus are even more beautiful scenery, sitting on the bench, they do not let go of the volume, concentrate on reading. Walking on campus, they are full of energy in twos and threes.

What inspires you is that the high-quality education in the university has trained many famous masters who have not only made extraordinary achievements, but also made contributions to the country and the people.

At that time, you told your mother that you like it here and you want to study here when you grow up.

Now, you have to take the college entrance examination, to win the qualification to enter this university, your heart is full of unease. You are worried that you will not get the score it needs. Son, the mother wants to tell you that the situation is uncertain and what you are worried about may not happen.

I once saw a psychological experiment in which psychologists made a big box and asked everyone to write down the thing they were most worried about and put it in that box. After a while, everyone opened the box and found that most of the things that people were worried about had not happened.

In many cases, our anxiety comes from worrying about what hasn't happened and being haunted by our own negative thoughts. But the real thing is that what we are worried about may not happen. Do you remember when mom used to prepare the project defense?

At that time, I thought of a lot of situations that might make the defense fail, but in the end they did not appear.

What you think now is very similar to what your mother thought at that time. You imagined a lot of unexpected situations that might happen, which would make you misperform in the college entrance examination. But we have to admit that when things don't happen, a lot of ideas are just worrying about us.

That being the case, why don't we think more positively when faced with uncertainty?

Wang Meng once said that there is such a situation in life, you constantly or even exaggerated to encourage yourself, as a result, a negative or positive, sad and gratifying thing has really changed for the better. And if you are too dark, too intense, too paranoid, one thing can really become a disaster.

Positive cues come with self-fulfilling functions. The famous psychologist Pavlov pointed out that cues are the most simplified and classic conditioned reflexes of human beings. It will bring hope to our hearts and guide us to better actions.

Son, let's think more about good results, gain strength from positive words and words, make our bodies happy and look forward to good results.

College entrance examination is a small station in life, and there is still a long way to go.

Son, in your opinion at this moment, the college entrance examination is the most important thing in the world, and it will determine all the joys and sorrows of your future life. But my mother wants to tell you that compared with the whole life, the college entrance examination is just a small station, it is only one of the many gates of fate that we face, and it has never been the whole of life.

Human life is very long, in the whole process, there are many turning points in life. We will have many opportunities to realize our ideals. As Liu Daoyu said, whether a person can become a talent or not basically depends not on famous teachers and schools, but on yourself.

In life, there are many people admitted to famous schools, confused all day long, do not want to make progress. After graduation, I found that I had already been abandoned by my peers, and some of them were even expelled from school while they were studying.

Although the college entrance examination scores of many people are not high, they never stop the pace of growth, and the road of life is wonderful.

Your cousin Lan Lan is an example of living a counterattack by yourself. When she took the college entrance examination, her grades were not good. She just went to an ordinary junior college. But she never gave up on herself. the place where she stayed the longest in college was in the library, constantly arming her brain with books.

After graduation, I am more conscientious in my work. Others just need to finish the work, but she reviews and promotes after the work is finished, looking for a good way to solve the work. As soon as he died, Lan Lan became more and more excellent and became the leader of the unit.

Therefore, an examination can not determine the height of a person's life. What can really affect life is your own attitude towards life. A person who will not give up even if he encounters failures and setbacks, even if he loses the college entrance examination, he will not lose his life.

Children, the gains brought by 12 years of study cannot be measured by the scores on a test paper. During these 12 years of study, you are conscientious and diligent, have the courage to explore,