Why so many full-time mothers are depressed

1, physiological factors: in fact, depression is a process of accumulation and precipitation, from the period of pregnancy, pregnancy is the hormonal changes, bringing a variety of physiological inconveniences (vomiting, picky eating, blood pressure, etc.). Postpartum back pain, mobility problems, intolerance of labor.

2, psychological factors: the first time a mother, lying on the operating table, almost always nervous, experiencing bouts of childbirth, new mothers lack of experience, and thus too much pressure, psychologically particularly sensitive, it is said that in the weeks after the birth of a newborn baby, emotional excesses are common.

3, family factors: pregnancy is being pampered, and after the birth of the child many mothers will feel the fallout because the whole family's focus will be shifted to the child.

4, habits: after the birth of the child, basically when the mother's life and physical habits are all changed by the child, breastfeeding to eat anything for the sake of the child, several times a day to breastfeed, changing the biological clock of sleep, lifestyle habits, etc. are in a highly stressful state.

If you are a full-time mother, you should add a few more things.

1, the sense of personal value and self-confidence is a very big difference, every day around the child, and no economic status is the voice of most full-time mothers. In addition, because of the difference in family status caused by the full-time status, many family conflicts will occur, and it is difficult to reconcile.

2. There is more loneliness and anxiety. Full-time mothers have a solidified living space and little social mobility, so they revolve around their children all day long and do not feel themselves.

This is the biggest feeling of many full-time mothers. After 3-4 years of hibernation, many full-time mothers feel some difficulties and discomfort when they want to integrate into the social workplace, and they lack the passion and motivation at the beginning. Re-entering the workplace feels more difficult than pioneering.

A full-time mother writes well.

Full article: I was also hit, became a full-time mother, immediately lost the sense of control, a large part of the people into the crawl can not come out, and finally can only go to work in the ass, babysitting money can not earn back also to go, because too damn uncomfortable.

You feel that this state is not right and want to change and try to find solutions. This thinking is right. The opposite is 1. complain, their lives are hard ah, no one to help bring up the children ah. 2. escape, can mix it up, mix it up, until the school is good, can not throw back home. Be careful not to let yourself fall into these two pits, because you immediately face a major upgrade phase of life, the opportunity of a lifetime, upgrade successfully you will step into a new world.

Along those lines, your problem is a loss of control (so you'll say you don't have time for yourself and don't want to get up because you have to do things you don't want to do). Then the solution is to get back a sense of control.

Control senses that I know what I want to do now, and then through my control, things get done. Analogous to the process of playing the game, each time you successfully control a round of monster-killing demons, it will even give you a reward, which feels great, the body is tired and does not want to shut down. So you see it's not even a question of being tired or not.

So make an effort to keep at least a few segments of your day under your control.

Think of two scenarios.

1 This morning's main task is a social exercise for your child. I'm going to take him to at least 2 kids his age and observe his reactions. The secondary task is walking practice. I want him to walk for at least 10 minutes and try to make a video recording. Then, you go out, click, click, click, and the goal is achieved! Go home and make dinner.

2 Nothing to do, go out and walk the baby, on the slide side ran into a few kids, and they played for a while, I want to brush the phone, but the child always interrupts me, so annoying, simply walk. Now he wants to walk, always have to support him, as his back is sore. Ugh, I have to go back to cooking again, I'm tired.

Doing the same thing, but you see, the state is completely different. In the latter state, completely passive, even if the children go to bed in the afternoon, you have your own time, you will only feel tired and should rest, so either brush the phone or brush the drama. You are still controlled by your cell phone and TV. The child wakes up and feels so annoyed! It's time to start again. It's not going to grow if you just muddle along like that day after day.

This state is not only for full-time mothers, you see those who are mixed up in the workplace, they are also very tired, especially afraid to go to work, anxious on Monday, the same, the wrong way, do everything tired. So I say this is your once-in-a-lifetime opportunity, self-control exercise needs the environment, people who work face a complex environment, sometimes really out of their own hands, to be very good people can exercise. But your environment, just faces so a little kid, your control is a lot of places, as long as the consciousness change, slowly will become an active type of people, what can not do in the future ah?

For the specific method of operation, some people will make a special specific schedule, I think life is a bit over-controlled, the nerves are too tight. I suggest giving a large chunk of time every morning and afternoon to a themed task can be, anyway, the task will be completed you will be high, completed to reward yourself with something, such as watching two episodes of Korean dramas, or seeing brush drama has become under their control.

Finally, it is still important to emphasize that you must have something that has nothing to do with children. The children sleep or have family members to help with the children of these times can not be used to brush drama, you have to find a meaningful task to do for themselves. If you can't find it, go for a run. Physical exercise, to improve the mood, the effect is very obvious. If you can't do the above, exercise is a must, or you have to be depressed.

Finally, tell these reasons to your child's father and recite them 100 times!

Full-time mom is the hardest job in the world, there is no one. It is not advisable to lose yourself for the sake of your child, you must find your self-confidence and value, think about it, if you are not sunny and happy as a mom, how are you going to raise your child?