Why do you have to let your child learn a special skill?

Children grow up practicing various musical instruments, painting, or dancing, but not many of them can really stick to it, and most of them give up halfway. This is the problem of the adults, not the children. Because the adults are not clear from the mind, in the end, why should the child learn the same specialty, the purpose is to train the child what ability.

I have told my daughter that the result of the competition is not important. What is important is that I want you to know that you qualify. And even that qualification is something that you have struggled with for so long on your own. I want her to know that all her efforts are for her to get the most pleasure for herself, not for me.

We don't make our children learn something to develop a specialty. We are trying to raise a child to learn a life skill. We want to train our children to overcome difficulties, resist temptations, overcome bad emotions, improve their perseverance, and other good qualities of being human beings while cultivating a specialty.

A child's strengths are nurtured later in life. For a child, we can only see if the child has a certain talent, but not what strengths she has. I believe that children's strengths are cultivated by their parents, and no child is born with strengths.

Some children are born with artistic talents, such as Mozart, who had musical talent since he was a child, but his piano talent was also nurtured by his parents later in life, he was not born to play the piano.

Nowadays, many children do not stick to anything, three minutes of enthusiasm, and then say they are not interested, which is quite understandable. Who can maintain a lasting interest in something hard and boring? Most adults can't do that, let alone a curious child.

Many children grow up practicing various musical instruments, painting, or dancing, but not many of them can really stick with it, and most of them give up halfway. In the child practice process, adults have to pay a lot of hard work, is this long year, rain or shine weekly lessons, many parents themselves can not stick to, will be too annoying and tiring.

We always say that adults are the mirror of their children. If adults can't stick to it and complain, how can children stick to it? When I took my children to learn the piano, I heard many adults complaining and criticizing their children: "Is it easy for me? I have to bring you to practice every week, which takes up a lot of my time, and you still don't practice properly, and you spend so much money, is it worth it? If you don't want to practice, don't practice. What will children think when adults say such things? They must think: I didn't want to practice in the first place, but for your sake, you forced me to learn this meaningless thing.

As for learning, the parents themselves are not clear, how can you blame the children can not persist in it. If a person does not know why he wants to do something, how can he possibly persist?

It is important to know that no one in this world will actively like to do something that is very hard, very boring, and requires stamina to complete. At this time, adults will give up the opportunity to develop self-control and perseverance in children with the mentality of giving children freedom, but in reality, adults do not want to get themselves into trouble.

We need to be clear about the purpose of letting children learn I would say that we are not letting children learn something to develop a specialty. We are learning to develop a life skill.

Learning a specialty is a means to an end, not an end in itself. It is not necessarily the case that the more strengths a child learn, the more competitive he or she will be. Rather, we need to train our children to overcome difficulties, resist temptations, overcome bad emotions, improve their perseverance, and other good qualities of being a human being while cultivating a specialty.

A person can be successful not by having certain strengths, but by having certain qualities to be successful, and the cultivation of such qualities can begin by cultivating strengths in children from a young age. Of course, parents need the ability to discipline themselves and strict requirements. A parent without self-control will not be able to raise a child with self-control. Teaching children by example is always the best way to teach them.

I disagree that letting children be as happy and free as they want to be when they are young and not caring about anything is a positive and effective method of education. The kind of education that seems to be laissez-faire is parental self-loafing. Educating children should be a loose outside and tight inside approach. You can let your child's innocent behavior go, but you can't let your child's ideological education go. The way of focusing on studies without paying attention to the education of the mind looks strict, but it is permissive.

I advocate letting the child learn to control himself as a child, to learn to persevere, and to develop his patience and endurance. Because of all of this from a young age when he insisted on learning a thing, have already encountered, and under the guidance of adults can easily pass through it.

Focus on the cultivation of the child's inner charm children is the easiest time to establish good habits and conditioned reflexes, why is it difficult for adults to change now? But children are very easy? It is because children are malleable.

A child whose mind has been well educated since childhood does not have to worry about his studies and his ability to get along with others because he already knows how to control himself and how to manage his time wisely. Because the brain is the central command system that governs a person's words and actions, only when this system is well established and constantly given perfection can the whole person's words and actions behave reasonably and purposefully?

For a child to be a healthy person, she must first have a sound personality, which is supported by the spirit within. This is what makes a girl attractive when she grows up. Being talented and having a charismatic personality are two concepts. Therefore, we as parents should not just focus our attention on the cultivation of children's talent, but neglect the more important cultivation of the child's inner charm in the process.

So the advice to you is to think about it, if your child has the characteristic of concentration, find a talent that can be used to develop her, such as playing chess, training his observation and thinking skills, etc. The key is that you should be clear about the purpose, not the purpose. The key is for you to be clear about the purpose, not to make her an expert in any specialty, but to train her to become a competitive person for survival.