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Why Divorce Mediation is a Good Choice

by Shelley Wenger about a month ago in divorced
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There are a few options when it comes to getting divorced. Though most people get lawyers and fight for what they want through court, others may decide to go through mediation. When you hire a mediator, he or she will sit down with both of you in order to talk through the division of property. 

I recently wrote an article about divorce mediation. If you haven't read it yet, here is the link for you to check it out. 

There are many good reasons why you should consider going through mediation. However, if you have children, there are even more reasons to think about it. 

Here are some of those reasons. 

You don't want to battle it out in court. Too many divorces end in a difficult battle. Both sides fight in court for weeks, months, or even years! These fights can often get nasty, and by the end, both sides are just tired and angry. 

When you have children, they deserve better. They don't need to see the two of you fight with each other for a long time. They shouldn't have to pick sides or see the two people that they love the most tear each other apart. 

Many children of divorce end up with scars and find themselves dealing with these issues for years to come. If you want better for your children, you should try mediation first! 

It is much cheaper to use a mediator. Divorce can be very expensive, especially if you fight it out in court for years to come. Some parents end up wiping out their savings, as well as their children's savings in order to pay for the divorce. 

When you go through mediation, you are using one lawyer instead of two, which keeps the cost down. It is also cheaper because it doesn't take as much time to finalize the divorce. 

And quicker. Mediation often takes a few weeks to settle, instead of months or years. This allows everyone to start to heal and move on. Both parents can find their new home, settle in, and help their children adjust to their new life. They won't feel like they are living in limbo for a long period of time. 

It helps parents learn how to work together, communicate, and solve problems, which will help them when they are co-parenting. Mediation is a great way to learn how to communicate with your ex, so that, as time goes on, you will be able to work together to raise your children. 

It is also good for your children to learn how to communicate better. They will watch you co-parent and make decisions together, and they will learn to do the same! 

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Though you may not want to think about it, mediation may be the best choice for you as a parent. You aren't going to want your divorce to take years to become finalized. It is not good for children if their parents are so angry at each other from fighting over everything!

Instead, you are going to want to be able to communicate with your ex, so that you can co-parent the way that you should! Who knows, by going through mediation, you may be joining each other at ball games and special events together sooner than you ever imagined. You may even spend holidays together as a family for your children! You probably won't be able to do that if you spend years fighting each other in court.

Also, think about the money that you will save. Instead of paying two lawyers countless hours in and out of the courtroom, you will only have to pay one!

Previously published on Medium.


About the author

Shelley Wenger

Small town country girl in southern Pennsylvania. Raising two boys on a small farm filled with horses, goats, chickens, rabbits, ducks, dogs, and a cat. Certified veterinary technician and writer at Virtually Shelley.

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