Why Are Women Still The Primary Caregivers?

Parenting is not rocket science. When you have a newborn their basic needs are to be fed, cleaned, changed, clothed, and entertained. For this book we will call it the Five E's. As long as those needs are met your baby will grow and develop.

So why is it that the Five E's are placed solely on mothers? I'll tell you why, it's because women allow it happen. Women allow their men to sleep in during the wee hours of the night to change and feed the baby. We also allow men to not partake in the joyous moments of tummy time and playtime. Women allow men to work longer hours or go hang out with their bros during the most important developments of a child's life. Women allow men to take advantage of them when it comes to parenting. However, now is the time that women put a stop to it! Women need to stop allowing men to have so much control over parenting. Women need to take a break and forget what society says makes them a good mother or not. Only the mothers know if they are providing their children with the right kind of adequate care and love their children need.

A mother should not feel shame if she leaves her baby to go take a shower and the baby is crying. The father should take over and take care of his offspring. She should also not feel shame for going back to work to continue her financial support for the family. She should be able to continue back to her life as much so as the father. Our lives should not stop just because we've had a child. Now granted, if you went to parties, and did solicit drugs before you became pregnant then that is another issue off topic. I am not here to judge. What I am here to say is that, to those mothers who were working full time, and went out with friends and had a life before pregnancy should not put aside their goals, dreams, aspirations, or their old life to tackle taking care a child by themselves. Now some women might say they have help or that their significant other tries to help out. The issue is this keyword "try". A father should not be trying, he should not be helping. He should be "taking care" of his child, period! If the child is crying and the mother is asleep, he should take it upon himself to take care of their baby. So what if she is breastfeeding, if she has pumped or there is formula available there is no reason why he needs to wake her, just for him to go back to sleep.

This is one concern that is complained about amongst most mothers! Fathers always get the rap of being the fun parent examples include playing with their kids, reading to them, taking them places that are "fun". While mothers are stuck with taking care of the child, clothing them, feeding them, and making sure they have their Five E's met. This is why women are stuck being the primary caregiver. So where do we go from here. If you're a mother reading this and you think your significant other is also a primary caregiver then there is no reason to keep reading, right?

Well here's why you're probably wrong about that. Think about your situation. I want you to write down a list about everything you do to make sure your children are taken care of. Then I want you to think about who does their share. Then I want you to write down notes on each item stating if you have to remind your significant other of doing these things. If the answer is overwhelming yes then you should continue reading. If not then you are one of the lucky few and this book may not be for you.