Toxic Parents Ruin Their Children

I make it NO secret that I think narcissistic toxic parents are some of the worst types of narcissists that you will come across, if not the worst narcissist that you will come across.

To be a narcissist to your children is evil on such a level that even satan would turn green with envy of how malicious a narcissistic parent can be.

In one of my previous articles, titled “Fuck Narcissistic Parents For Destroying The Concept Of What Love Looks Like,” I express my utter disgust and disdain for these monsters passing as parents.

Toxic parents hold their children back so much in life, be that by:

instilling fear and doubt in their kids — “You are not too good at this, don't try because you will fail”

crushing their self-esteem — “those parents are so lucky to have that child as THEIR KID; I wonder what I did wrong to have you” (God, they are such POS).

stopping them from having any meaningful relationships outside of their relationships — “family comes first; even if we treat you like sh*t, we are still your family.”

embarrassing their kids — toxic parents actively go out of their way to make their kids feel like they are less than by embarrassing them as much as they can.

It is not the least bit uncommon for kids to grow up — and who have finally escaped these monsters — to have a massive amount of hatred for their parents.

And this hatred can fester and keep a person stagnant.

Hatred keeps people in a state of mind that only drags them down instead of elevates them up in life.

And in this article, I want to express what you can do to move on from the abuse your toxic parents unleashed on you.

The pain they gave to you was NOT your fault.

It is not the child's job to care and provide for the toxic parent; it is the parent's job to provide and care for us.

They are the ones who brought us into this world.

And as true as this statement is, it is clear that many of us never had good parents.

However, that should not be reason enough to allow the pain they did to us to define how we will live the remainder of our lives.

Once our hourglass of life empties, that's it.

Game over!

Live your life to the best that you can.

You don’t have to forgive them or love them; you just have to learn how to live happily without them in your life or having them ever apologize for what they did to you.

How To Fix Your Life After Your Parents Broke It?

Step 1: Do Not Play The Victim

The first and most important thing to do is to NOT PITY YOURSELF. You cannot see yourself as a victim.

You were not a victim or a victim — you were and are a TARGET.

We were simply targets for their unjust hatred and cruelty.

Now, I know many of us have been victimized by their insanity.

But there is no honor or power in being a victim.

When you are a victim, you give away your power to others. You sit there waiting for someone to save you from the pit of pity that you have fallen in and have stayed in when you have all the tools at your disposal to climb out of that pit on your own.

Narcissists and toxic people want you to feel like a victim because as long as you are a victim, you remain weak, and they can still hurt you and abuse you.

A strong person who picks themselves up after the abuse, licks their wounds, and move on with their lives is exactly what a toxic person hates and fears.

And your toxic parents will despise you, envy you, and be jealous of the life you built when all they did was try and tear you down your whole life.

It is a huge slap in their face that reminds them; they are not as powerful as they think they are.

Step 2: Build Healthy Relationships

This will be extremely hard because growing up with toxic parents, your image of what a relationship should be like and feel like are skewed.

To counteract this, you must create a list of boundaries, things you look for in a person, and things you will not accept from a person that you want to in your life to do.

I have a list of 7 things I look for in a person to be part of my life. 4 to be an associate. 5 to be a friend. 6 to be a lover.

By having this list and creating these boundaries, I find that I can keep toxic people at bay.

I can also distinguish between who will be toxic and who is not toxic, as toxic people usually are the ones who will try and make me tear down my boundaries.

Building healthy relationships will help restore your faith in people. Not all people are as nasty and evil as your toxic parents, and if you can find someone who will love you and form a family with you, you will be such a FANTASTIC parent because you know all too well what a toxic parent is, and you will be damned to be that to your child.

Step 3: Continue To Improve You — Be What They Said You Couldn’t Be

“The best revenge is massive success.” — Frank Sinatra

By working on yourself and becoming the person you know you are and who they didn't want you to be, you heal yourself in a way that no amount of therapy EVER could.

Continue to work on yourself.

You may fail, stumble and fall — but there is no virtue in NOT living to be who you were born to be.