Three-year-old baby's emotional intelligence crushes adults

It has been said that emotional intelligence accounts for 80% of a person's achievement, while IQ and professional ability only add up to 20%. Believe it or not, Harvard University has produced many talented people, not because of excellent professional skills, but because of a strong focus on emotional intelligence education!

★ What does a child with high emotional intelligence look like?

More and more families today are realizing that a child's grades do not show his or her excellence, but that having high emotional intelligence is what will motivate him or her to adapt to society and achieve life goals. For example, the role of emotional intelligence is essential in handling complex interpersonal relationships, taking on an overload of work, and promoting healthy and harmonious family development.

On May 1st, I went to a friend's house to visit. When I arrived at the door, his three-year-old daughter ran over and shouted sweetly, "Hello, auntie!" I laughed and praised the child for her good manners. After entering the house, the little girl glanced at the toys in my hand, immediately came over, not to ask for toys, but to take my hand, and said enthusiastically: "Auntie, you are really beautiful today, the skirt is nice, hair is also fashionable ......"

This little girl was praised repeatedly, I was a bit lost, and could not care less about the old red face, and the toy in her hands, and she picked up a beautiful kiss! I never thought that my friend and his wife usually do not talk, but raised such a high emotional intelligence of the child, simply my two boys out of several streets!

Perhaps some parents think that it's just a matter of being able to talk and talk smoothly, which is considered high emotional intelligence. The full name of emotional intelligence is indeed "emotional quotient", which covers independence, empathy, responsibility, self-confidence, self-discipline, and many other aspects.

But then again, the little girl can get the affirmation and recognition of others, and she gets along with them, can feel relaxed, and comfortable, she knows how to considerate, understands, and respect you, these are not the performance of high emotional intelligence? So, emotional intelligence, again, can be understood as the ability to regulate your mental state and get along with people.

★What are the characteristics of a child with high emotional intelligence

A child with high emotional intelligence can handle all aspects of life and study flexibly and appropriately, and s liked by everyone.

Appreciate and praise others

A child with high emotional intelligence will bring his own "scanner" and can find the good things in you that he did not find. And, he is never stingy with praise, sometimes unintentional praise, you can make your heart blossom, refreshing, and happy to be close to him. Children with high emotional intelligence also easy to win the love and respect of others, so parents should be delighted to have such children at home.

[Good at controlling their emotions].

Everyone has his or her own little emotions, but some people control them well and do not easily vent them to others. We naturally want to get along with people who are good-tempered than those who are often angry and irrational for no reason. Of course, a good temper does not mean any temper, but children with high emotional intelligence know how to put it away more freely, and not hurt the innocent.

[Bring your sense of humor].

Humor can make people happy, and humor can also make people think. Although learning is not easy, life is sometimes very boring, but keep an active heart, and character with a little sense of humor, then the more pressure, the more difficult things, but also can easily face. A child with a sense of humor has an aura of its own, and can attract a group of dolls to follow everywhere.

[Happy to help others].

Children with high emotional intelligence can always understand the difficulties of others and can empathize with them, so they can't help but lend a helping hand to others. As the old saying goes, "If you are kind to others, you will not be blessed, but you will not be blessed. Therefore, kind-hearted children can often meet "noble people" in life, and the probability of future success is much greater than that of ordinary children.

[Strong inside].

Strong-willed, self-confident, self-sufficient, not afraid of failure, brave to accept criticism, etc., these are the characteristics of children with high emotional intelligence. As long as the heart is strong enough, then no matter what difficulties they encounter in the future, they will not easily compromise and give up, and these children will easily achieve success in the field they focus on in the future.

★How to raise a child with high emotional intelligence

Unlike IQ development, there is no targeted education system to develop children's emotional intelligence. Therefore, parents need to play a key role in guiding their children's emotional intelligence development. Mom and dad are the first teachers and the most important guides for their children's emotional intelligence development.

For the five characteristics of emotional intelligence, in the development of children's emotional intelligence, should pay attention to the following five points.

① Teach your child to say more nice things. The sweet-talking children are always more "desirable" than dumb-talking children. If you want your child to speak well, parents should first show their child how to speak well. Politeness is essential; don't be stingy with praise when you meet people and things you appreciate; don't expose people's shortcomings or poke them when you argue......

② Learn to regulate their emotions. When your child encounters happy or unhappy things, talk to your child more, and listen to him more, which can make your child's inner pressure can be released, and mood soothing. If you really can't let go, doing powerful exercises, and yelling at the mountain is also a good way to regulate.

③ Tap into your child's humor factor. There are many humorous segments in the circle of friends and short videos on various platforms, so it is a good way to develop a sense of humor by watching, watching, and laughing with your children when you have nothing to do. Children can always remember all kinds of jokes and show and share them with their peers on appropriate occasions.

④ Let your child's kindness become the routine. Teach your child to be friendly with others, to always express his or her kindness, and not to hurt others easily or to be calculated at any time. But kindness does not mean being completely defenseless to others, how to grasp the "degree" of kindness is the key.

⑤ Let your child have enough security. Only a child who feels secure will be strong inside, and parental love and companionship are the main soursourcesa child's sense of security. In addition, with more encouragement and less criticism, more to take the child out to see the world, more to read with the child to absorb more knowledge "nutrients", the child's heart will slowly fill up.