The son left the grandmother's hand, and the elderly "fake with children" let the heart chill

Nowadays, many families have parents working and the elderly taking care of their children. They were supposed to enjoy their old age peacefully, but now they have to take care of their children, so they have a hard time. The good thing is that nowadays young parents remember what the elderly have given and are very filial to them. And such old people are admired so that people respect them from the heart. But there is a kind of old people, even if it is very hard to bring up children, it is not inviting.

Son a go grandmother scattered "fake with children"

Some time ago a male friend complained to my husband, saying he did not know why his mother, age is still addicted to playing with the phone, and the child will not take care of him. The thing is, this friend's wife brought the baby to half a year old and looked for work to go to work. Before his wife went to work, his friend asked his mother if she was willing to give them a baby and give her a couple of thousand dollars a month. If you don't want to take care of it, you can send it to the child's grandma's house. The mother said she would be happy to help them.

In this way, the child daytime grandmother, back from work friends, and a wife. One day my friend came home early from work and opened the door to see my child's grandmother swiping her phone and my child lying in bed with big eyes. The friend was afraid of wronging the child's grandmother, check the monitoring, and found that he and his wife went to work, the child's grandmother put the child on the bed to lie down, playing with his phone! This can make the friend angry, and the real mother had a big fight.

The son and daughter-in-law left, the grandmother will be scattered, and the elderly "fake with children" situation is chilling. This situation is very common in the current environment, most families have occurred in this situation. So for the healthy growth of children, parents better take care of their children themselves.

Parents also have an "expiration date"

Nowadays, everything has a shelf life, and even the most expensive food should be thrown away if it is not eaten within the shelf life. Not only do they have a shelf life, but parents also have an "expiration date", and the time is not twenty or thirty years as most people think, but only ten years. When he grows up, he will have his own life, and his circle of friends, and his parents will only be the ones they remember in their spare time.

Parents also have an "expiration date", and the time they need us most is probably before the age of 3, feeding him, teaching him to talk and walk. We will be with him for the first time in his life and grow up together with him. If the "expiration date" has passed, the parents want to be with them, but the children do not need it anymore. Therefore, it is better to earn less money and spend the most precious time with your child.

Give your child a sense of security

Many people think that children do not know what to do until they are 3 years old and do not recognize others, so whoever takes them is the same. But different, the child can not speak, and already can feel the emotions of the family. If the elderly are good to the child, care is also more thoughtful. This does not affect the child's sense of security too much, but it is easy to cause the parent-child relationship to be distant, and the child and the parents are not close to the situation.

If the elderly are not good to the child, like the grandmother above, habitual "fake children", only care for themselves. Then it will cause the child to know too much, and when he grows up, he will only aggravate himself, insecure, and easy to suffer. So if you can bring up a child by yourself, you must bring up a child by yourself, others are better than parents. In addition, we need to be wary of "fake childcare".

The netizens, you have happened around the "fake child care" incident?