The key to children's self-discipline in the future: cultivate these four good habits from an early age

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When it comes to the issue of children's self-discipline, many parents are very upset.

Whether it is primary school, junior high school, high school, there are a considerable number of children, can not control themselves, infatuated with the Internet and mobile games, learning is very passive.

Parents complain that their children are unconscious and take painstaking efforts to reason and exert pressure on their children, or coax their children to study hard and buy them this and that, but with little success.

Most parents think it's the child's problem that he doesn't want to study. In fact, the truth may be that children lack the ability of self-discipline: they do not develop good habits from an early age, do not experience the pleasure of self-discipline, and get used to idleness and procrastination over a long period of time.

In many families, children grow up freely from an early age and do whatever they want. their parents do not discipline them very much. they think that children are a little naughty, lazy and unruly, so there is no problem, and they will be sensible when they grow up.

But when the child grows up and finds that many bad habits are already stubborn, if you want to correct him and tell him the rules, you will have to spend more energy, even difficult to change.

Don't expect children to learn self-discipline naturally as they grow up. A child's future behavior self-discipline depends on his parents' initial discipline and supervision, that is, heteronomy.

Cultivating good habits from an early age is the key to good self-discipline in the future.

As a famous school mother said:

"the first thing children need to develop is mechanical habits, because the good results of mechanical habits give children a sense of achievement, and then they can understand the importance of self-discipline when they have a sense of achievement. ?

Once the positive cycle begins, the child feels the gain and appreciation of self-discipline, which motivates TA to continue self-discipline. On the contrary, if there is no positive feedback for a long time as a result of not giving enough, the child will get used to the situation of being "backward" and even give up. "

3-6 years old, is the child's brain development, character and behavior habits of the key period, this stage, the child has a strong plasticity.

Cultivating children's good habits from the following three aspects will be of great help to the formation of his self-discipline in the future.

one? Stay focused.

The importance of concentration to a person's learning, growth and development is self-evident.

Many children who are not good at learning have the most obvious thing in common: lack of concentration, always deserting, playing around and touching the west in the process of learning.

Children have strong curiosity, short attention span, easy to do things for three minutes, play with a toy, play for a while and then run to do something else.

Therefore, it is critical to train children's ability to concentrate from an early age.

First of all, parents should pay attention to protecting their children's concentration. When their children are doing things, they should not disturb and interrupt them casually, so that they can immerse themselves in their own world and give full play to their imagination and creativity.

Secondly, keep the environment simple, quiet and orderly. If the child's environment is often noisy and chaotic, it will not be conducive to the child's concentration.

Third, do not prepare too many toys and books for your child at one time, so that the child will be dazzled, so that the child can concentrate on one or two toys or activities for a long time and replace them with a new one after a period of time.

Finally, parents should be attentive in the process of playing and interacting with their children, and should not be half-hearted and take care of their children while playing with their mobile phones. The degree of concentration of parents will also affect the development of children's concentration.

two? Good reading habits

Canadian writer Alberto Manguel wrote in his masterpiece the History of Reading:

"each of us reads about ourselves and the world around us in order to learn a little about ourselves and where we are. We read to understand or enlighten. We have to read. Reading, almost like breathing, is our basic function. "

Reading is a habit that one should stick to all his life. By reading, we can better see the world, know ourselves, and experience life.

The sooner you develop children's reading habits, the better.

It can help children learn to think independently from an early age, establish good language comprehension, communication and expression skills, and learn to live in harmony with themselves and the world.

Therefore, parents should try their best to give their children less access to electronic products and guide their children to listen to stories, tell stories and read books.

From the age of 1, you can tell stories to your children every day before going to bed, buy some cloth books that are not easy to tear, and show them rich and beautiful pictures.

A little older, there is a fixed period of time for parents and children to read picture books with their children every day.

When children go to primary school and know a certain amount of words, they can gradually transition to independent reading and pure text reading.

Reading will make the child think richer, have a wider cognitive range, and have a quieter personality. These positive effects will benefit the child for a lifetime and help him form self-discipline in the future.

three? A regular daily life

I have a student, since childhood, has been asked by my mother to go to bed early and get up early, usually no more than 09:30 in the evening, she must be asked to get up and have breakfast before 8 o'clock in the morning.

Similarly, the mother herself has maintained this habit for decades, getting up early and making breakfast for her children, no matter how cold the weather is.

Mother said: "have a good hot breakfast in the morning, so that you won't feel tired in class in the morning, and you will be energetic all day."

In the past, she always thought her mother was so annoyed that she couldn't even watch TV dramas for a while at night. She was always urged to go to bed by her mother. It was impossible for her to stay in bed and sleep late in the morning, and she would definitely be called up by her mother to eat breakfast.

But when she went to college and saw that many of her classmates were upside down, confused and indulgent, but she was still able to go to bed early and get up early to study and live in an organized and planned way, she suddenly understood the meaning of her mother.

The habits you have formed since childhood will follow you throughout your life.

Regular daily life will keep people clear-headed, physically comfortable and healthy, and have a good sense of time.

This habit of life will also be transferred to a person to do things, study, work, so that people have a good state and mental outlook.

Therefore, from an early age, parents should start with themselves and lead their children to live a regular and controlled life, follow a regular schedule, eat three meals on time, put food back in place after consumption, and keep themselves and their rooms neat and clean.

Don't help your child do everything well, teach him to do things by himself, and gradually master more life skills.

The primary school stage is 7-12 years old, which is the golden period for children to develop study habits. On the basis of the above three points, parents should be willing to invest time and energy to help their