The best kind of adult ability: emotional self-control

There are levels of ability, and there are also high and low levels.

Those who have really penetrated the essence of this issue, will really make some changes in reality.

In the end, the size of the ability and the difference between high and low, is whether the individual has actually paid for the effort.

Only when you have really paid, and really made some changes, can you achieve spiritual growth.

This is like a person who really from the process of change to get the spiritual sublimation, get the spiritual growth, will naturally in life to make their own life better.

There is no doubt that the best ability of an adult lies, first and foremost, in being able to control one's emotions.

You will find that a person's success lies in knowing how to control their emotions, and a person's failure is also caused by their own inability to control their emotions.

People who are prone to success will not spend their energy and time on how to comfort and enlighten themselves, but on things.

Imagine when one's car gets scratched, if one just blames others for the fault or blames oneself for being so careless.

Then, in the next few working days, he or she would say that his or her car was scratched and needed to be repaired at a cost of several hundred dollars.

Such as this, emotions become more and more unstable, also feel more and more unfortunate, so that the mind is gone, no matter what to do are not in the mood, but also impossible to have a good state to do their own things.

Psychology has a term called "wild horse effect".

It is said that there is a kind of African grassland specializing in blood-sucking bats, especially like to suck the blood of wild horses, it is reasonable to say that each time the bats from the wild horses absorbed the blood, it is impossible for them to bleed to death.

So, how exactly did the wild horses die? Researchers found that most of the wild horses died because they couldn't get rid of the bats when they were being sucked by the bats, because they overreacted and thus became irritable and violent, and then ran wild and eventually died of exhaustion.

This shows that an animal breeds tragedy because it does not know how to control its emotions.

Therefore, an adult, should also get some of their own insights, at least to understand, since many things are not so good, so smooth, then when the unpredictable things happen to them, or suddenly suffered some inexplicable blow, ready to do the relevant preparations, timely control of emotions, may be able to get more possibilities for their lives.

This possibility is the same as success or failure, all in a flash.

An adult, if you do a minimum of emotional self-control, then they tend to become more competitive in the daily life.

Because when a person really in the face of various successes and failures, but still can continue to do their own things, continue to do their own things towards the goal, at least we are not off track in the process of action.

In this way, in order to do not stick to the small, will not be tortured because of bad people and bad things, and even directly choose to lie flat and forget.

In fact, things no matter how big or small, as long as you want to reach the goal, to complete the purpose, you need to let yourself understand a simple truth, that is, only to do the appropriate amount of action, things can reveal the end.

This is like a person digging a well, only towards the same place has been digging deep, in order to pay enough labor, after digging out enough dirt, see the spring gushing out.

If in the process of digging, a moment because you can not see the traces of water and fire, or a grumpy mind, or see others have successfully dug out water, and began to doubt whether they are looking for the wrong place.

Such as this, the goal of holding too high expectations, and can not control their emotions in a timely manner, and ultimately tired of themselves, suffering the pain of failure is also their own.

The famous psychologist Anthony Robbins said.

"The secret of success lies in knowing how to control the force of pain and pleasure, and not for this force to counteract."

In the end, the key to one's success lies in one's ability to have strong enough emotional control.

As adults, we need to maintain a calm and peaceful state of mind in our daily lives, so that no matter what time we are in, we can come up with a good mindset, positive emotions, and hold a more active degree of control and control over our lives.

In this way, become the master of emotions and achieve your own life.